Abantwana bahlala bexoka. Xa bexoka, kuhlala kusisizathu esinye: ukunqanda iziphumo ezinokubakho zezenzo zabo. Mhlawumbi ezi ziphumo zingalunganga zezi: umsindo wabazali babo, ukungxola, ukohlwaya, ukuphoxeka abanokukuva abazali ngento abayenzileyo, njl. Ke kwiimeko ezininzi, xa umntwana exoka, bakwenza oko ngenxa yoloyiko nokuzikhusela.
Ukuba unolwalamano oluluqilima nabantwana bakho apho baziva bethandwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwaye bayazi ukuba ulapho ukubanceda ukuba bafumane izisombululo kunye, abayi kuba nakukuxoka. Yamkela ukhetho lwakho lokuthetha inyani, nokuba bekunzima ukuyenza, iyanceda ukuqinisa isimilo ozama ukusenza.
Oku kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka ubamisele umzekelo abantwana bakho xa kufikwa kwinyaniso okanye ubuxoki. Kuya kufuneka ubabonise ukuba uthetha inyani nokuba iziphumo ezizayo azisiyiyo le ungathanda ukuba yenzeke. Emva koko, kuya kufuneka umxelele okwenzekileyo, uthathela ingqalelo iminyaka yakhe kunye nokuqonda kwakhe ukuba kutheni uthethe inyani. Kuyimfuneko ukugxila ekwakheni ukusondela kunye nokunxibelelana okuhle nabantwana bakho ukuze udale ukuthembana okukhulu kwaye uthintele abantwana ekuxokeni. Ukuba abantwana bayabathemba abazali babo kwaye bayazi ukuba ngabantu abanengqondo nabalungeleleneyo abalawula iimvakalelo zabo ezinzulu, baya kuyithetha inyani.
Abazali babantwana abancinci banokufunda nabo iincwadi ezigxininisa ukubaluleka kokunyaniseka, kunye nokuthetha nabo malunga nendlela abakuxabisa ngayo ukuthembeka kunye nendlela ekunceda ngayo usapho. Umntwana akufuneki kuthiwe ulixoki. Ukubiza umntwana njengexoki kunokuqinisa isimilo, kubenze bakholelwe ukuba lixoki, kwaye ungabinasizathu sokuyeka ukuxoka nokuba awunayo imfuneko yoko.