Kusapho lwakho, ngakumbi ukuba unabantwana, kubalulekile ukuba ukhathalele ubudlelwane bakho bothando ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into, okoko nje usempilweni kwaye ayisiyongozi nakubani na. Umonde yinto elungileyo xa kufikwa kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, nokuba luhlobo luni lolwalamano onalo, kodwa kusafanele ukubonakala emtshatweni.
Xa utshata umntu kwaye wenze usapho, ngokomgaqo yeyokuhlala ngonaphakade, kodwa ukuba ubudlelwane abukhathalelwanga ngokufanelekileyo, olo thando lunokulityalwa ngokukhawuleza.
Kutheni le nto kufuneka uhlakulele umonde kubudlelwane bakho bothando?
Umonde ubalulekile kulwalamano lothando ngenxa yezibonelelo zexesha elide. Kuyinyani ukuba kuthatha ixesha, kodwa wakube ufundile ukukhulisa ubuchule bokuba nomonde, uba ngumntu owonwabileyo. Nantsi into eyenzekayo ngonyamezelo olonyukayo:
- Uba nomonde ngakumbi kuwe: Ngale ntembeko intsha, wenza imvisiswano kuwe ekuya kuthi ekugqibeleni kukhanye uthando kunye noxolo okungqongileyo. Oku abantwana bakho baya kukuqaphela.
- Umonde ubalulekile hayi kuphela kulwalamano lothando kodwa nakwimeko yomsebenzi apho unokucelwa ukuba ube yinkokheli yeqela. Umonde uyakuvumela ukuba uhlakulele ubudlelwane obuqinileyo nabantu osebenza nabo. Jonga umonde njengotyalo-mali kwixa elizayo.
- Uba ngumntu ophilileyo. Xa uphelelwa ngumonde, yehla kwaye uphume ngumsindo, umzimba uphendula ngokungalunganga: ungafumana ukuphefumla okufutshane, umzimba wakho uxineke.
Ke ukuba umhlobo wakho osenyongweni ukuxelela ukuba une-fuse emfutshane, mphulaphule, unokuba ulungile, awunamonde kwaye oku kunokuba neziphumo ezibi kubudlelwane bakho kunye nosapho. Ngamanye amagama, ukuba unokukhulisa umonde obaluleke kakhulu kubomi bemihla ngemihla, usendleleni eya emandleni. Olu phawu loxolo aluqinisi kuphela ubudlelwane obunothando kunye nosapho, kodwa luyakunceda ukuba ufezekise iinjongo zakho kunye nezobugcisa.