Kwiimeko zokulwa nomnye okanye abanye, ukuba umntwana ukhathazekile kwaye unomsindo, unokuzola, athethe naye kude nendawo.
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali, ngaphandle kokuqonda, bagxininisa kwiindlela ezithile zokuziphatha zabantwana babo, mhlawumbi kuba bebabona besenza okanye bebamamela. Ukuba ufuna ukuzifundisa ngentlonipho kunye nangobundlobongela, isiqubulo sithi hayi uncamathisele, ngabazali ebantwaneni okanye ngenye indlela. Makhe sithethe ngayo.
Non-violence: ungabethi. Umzekelo wabazali
Kuba sasingabantwana abantwana kufuneka bafundiswe ngeendlela zokunyamezelana nokuhlonipha abanye. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba umntwana afunde ngaphakathi kukumbonisa ezo ntlobo zemithetho. Inkqubo ye- sibini Ekhaya kufuneka ihlonitshwe kwaye iphathwe kakuhle kwaye umntwana uya kuziva ngathi yinto elungileyo ukuyenza. Abazali bayimizekelo yomntwana, yiyo loo nto umntwana enokufunda ukungabethi abazali okanye abanye abantu asebenza nabo okanye bahloboUkuba abamkhalimeli ngempama, ngempama okanye ngempama esihlahleni.
Indlela yokuzikhusela okanye yokucacisa ngokwakho ayisiyonto yokwenza ukuba noburharha kwaye uzenze ubonakale unomsindo. Umntwana kufuneka eyazi indlela yokuthetha nokuphendula ngezinye iindlela, hayi ngokuthukwa, ngokuthotywa okanye ngokuxhatshazwa. Umntwana ophethwe kakuhle kwi ekhaya, baya kuphendula ngendlela efanayo koontanga babo. Kumntwana oxelelwa rhoqo ukuba kunjalo ezimbi kwaye kufanelekile ukohlwaywa, uya kuza acinge ukuba "akukho mntwana ulungileyo" kufuneka afane nesimo sakhe sengqondo.
Ukukhuselwa komntwana
Kwimeko apho umhlobo afuna ukuthatha into yokudlala kuye, ungamnceda ukuba athethe naye athi "ndiza kukushiya ngelinye ixesha" okanye "ngoku ndiyadlala."
Ngamaxesha athile abazali baxelela umntwana "ukuba bakubetha, yenza njalo." Asililo icebiso elifanelekileyo. Umntwana kufuneka ayazi indlela yokuphendula eyahlukileyo, ngaphandle kokuhlaselwa. Ukuba ufuna ukumcebisa ngento eza kumnceda ebomini, unokucetyiswa ukuba ahlukane nomnye, mxelele ukuba le ayilunganga, umshiye, kwaye ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into makazise umntu osondeleyo kuye. Ngomso umntwana, ngoku sele emdala, akazukubetha omnye ukusombulula iingxaki, uya kuyazi indlela yokumisa umba ngendlela enengqondo ngakumbi.
Malunga neminyaka emi-3 ubudala, abantwana kufuneka bazenze baqondwe ngakumbi, kwaye xa bengenako, kubakho ukudana kwaye ndingazi ukuba ndiza kuyisingatha njani le meko. Abantwana bayacaphuka, balile, bakhabe, babethe nokuba bayaluma. Apho kuya kufuneka unqande imeko kwaye ubancede baphumle kwaye bawusebenzise loo msindo ngendlela eyiyo. Abazali kufuneka babafundise ukuba bazivakalise ngokukhululekileyo, kwaye bazame ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, bengamkeli ukuba ndlongondlongo.
Utata akabethi umntwana kwaye nomntwana akabethi utata
Njengoko sisitsho, umntwana ukhokelwa ngumzekelo. Umntwana ngekhe abethe umzali ukuba akambonanga ebetha. Abazali kufuneka babe nezixhobo zokuhlala phantsi bathethe naye. Kuya kufuneka umenze abone ukuba iimeko ezinokuphikiswa zihlala kwaye zithethwe ngokuzolileyo. Ukuba umntwana ufuna ukuthatha yokudlala, ungamnceda ukuba athethe naye aze amxelele Ndiza kuyishiya kuwe kamva o ngoku ndiyadlala. Banokwabelana ngayo, ukuba bafuna njalo, nabazali banokumxelela ukuba angatyhali okanye aqumbe, kodwa aboleke imali encinci kuye.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbuza umntwana ukuba akufuneki abethe nakweyiphi na imeko, ukuba ayisosimo silungileyo kwaye ayinasizathu. Kwiimeko zokulwa, ukuba umntwana ukhathazekile, unokuzama ukuthomalalisa imithambo-luvo, uthethe ukude nendawo. Kwimeko apho uhlasele omnye umntu osebenza naye, mxelele ukuba le nto ayenzileyo ayilunganga kwaye akufuneki iphindwe kwaye umcebise ukuba axolise. Ukuba ubetha abazali bakhe, kufuneka baziphathe njengabantu abadala abanenkathalo kwaye bangakhathazeki, mxelele ukuba bayazisola ngokuziphatha kwakhe ngoluhlobo kwaye yonke into izakulungiswa kodwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwaye xa engathanjiswanga. Ukuthetha nomntwana ngokuzolileyo, kuya kufezekiswa okufanayo kuye.