Kuqhelekile ukuba xa umntu okhulelweyo ebonwa, isisu sakhe siyachukumiseka kwangoko ukubona ukuba ukukhaba komntwana kuvakala na okanye ukujonga nje ukuba isisu sakhe sinzima okanye akunjalo. Ngokwenyani akufuneki usichukumise isisu somfazi okhulelweyo ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe ngesizathu esicacileyo: kukungahloniphi. Abantu abakumfazi okhulelweyo kufuneka baqhubeke naye kweli nqanaba, ukushiya kunye nokuhlonipha indawo ebonakalayo efunekayo ukuze uzive ulungile.
Kunokubakho abantu basetyhini abangakhathaliyo ukuchukunyiswa sisisu ngexa lokukhulelwa, kodwa banokubakho nabanye abantu basetyhini abaziva behlaselwe ngokupheleleyo ukuba oku kuyenzeka kubo. Ukuba ufuna ukuchukumisa isisu somfazi okhulelweyo, kuya kufuneka ulinde yena ukuba akumeme., okanye okungenani akunike imvume.
Imalunga nembeko yomzimba yomnye umntu, intlonipho efanayo naleyo onayo komnye umntu. Ukuba umfazi ukhulelwe akuvumeli ukuba uchukumise isisu sakhe kuba unemincili yokuba umzimba womfazi uyakwazi ukugcina ubomi ngaphakathi. Ayikuniki ilungelo lokuchukumisa umzimba ongengowakho ngaphandle kwemvume.
Kukho abantu basetyhini abangakuthandiyo ukudibana nabanye abantu kwaye banokuziva benobundlobongela ukuba bachukumiseka ngaphandle kwemvume yabo. Kukwakho nabantu abathi, xa bekhutshelwa ngaphandle, bachukumise abanye xa bethetha phantse bengakuqondi oko, kodwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko, kufuneka umazi umfazi okhulelweyo ngaphambi kokubuza ukuba ungasichukumisa na isisu sakhe.
Ukususela ngoku, xa ubona umfazi okhulelweyo, sukucinga ukuba isisu sakhe siyafumaneka kuwo wonke umntu ophathwayo. kuba ngumzimba wakhe kwaye uthatha isigqibo.