Iinguqu zengqondo ekufikiseni ziphawuleka kakhulu. Bafikelela kwixesha ebomini babo apho yonke into ibonakala ngathi iyatshintsha, xa kukho izinto ezininzi ekufuneka zimiselwe kwaye kulapho beqingqa ubuntu obutsha. Nangona utshintsho lomzimba luphawulekayo, ezo zengqondo azikho ngasemva. Ngoko nakubo kuya kuba ngumothuko omkhulu.
Ke, lixesha lokuba sifunde malunga notshintsho oluza kudlula kulo ulutsha lwethu kwaye, njengomgaqo jikelele, rhoqo. Zinxulunyaniswa ne-egocentrism enkulu, kukuziphatha okunyanzelekileyo okanye ukuba sesichengeni ngakumbi, phakathi kwabaninzi. Zonke zixhaphakile kwaye nangona zingabonakali ngokulinganayo kubo bonke abantu abatsha, ziye zabonakala ngokucacileyo.
Baphuhlisa u-'I' wabo omtsha
Utshintsho lwengqondo ebusheni ludibana kunye no 'I' omtsha. Kumntu osele eqalisile ukuqiqa ngendlela eyahlukileyo nonezakhe iingcamango, usukelo lwakhe nokunye okuninzi. Ukucingisisa ngezihloko ezitsha kuya kuba yinto yemihla ngemihla kananjalo, baya kuluxabisa kakhulu uluvo abanye abanalo ngaye. Oku kudityaniswa nolo tshintsho lwehomoni lubaluleke kakhulu kwaye ke, umfanekiso uba yeyona nto iphambili ekugxilwe kuyo ingqalelo.
I-Egocentrism isekhona kakhulu
Abayeki ukuba ngabadlali abaphambili okanye abafuna ukuba ngabo ngalo lonke ixesha. Nangona befikelela kwelinye inqanaba lobomi babo, lo naye uya kujikeleza ngokwakhe, nangona ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Kuba ngoku iya kuba ngumntwana ofikisayo ngokwakhe ogxile kuyo kwaye akafuni ukuba abazali basondele kakhulu. Ewe, ezo yure zodwa kwigumbi ziya kuqala ukuba ziqhelekileyo. Kwangokunjalo kuya kuba ungaxeleli izinto ezininzi kwaye uzivalele kuwe kancinci. Sele sitshilo ukuba ipateni efanayo ayilandelwa kubo bonke, ngoko ke olu hlobo lweempawu alusoloko lusenzeka ngendlela efanayo.
akukho bani ubonakala ubaqonda
Olunye lolona tshintsho luphawulekayo lolu, kwaye lunxulunyaniswa noku kungasentla esithe sakuxoxa. Ngokuba kubonakala ngathi bachasene nehlabathi okanye lihlabathi elichasene nabo, apho kungekho mntu ubaqondayo, okanye bakholwa nabo. Bahamba ngexesha elinzima, befuna isazisi sabo ukuba kufuneka banyanzelise, ukuze xa besengozini, loo mvakalelo yokuba bodwa kule ndlela ibonakala. Kufuneka ubenze baqonde ukuba oku akunjalo, kodwa rhoqo ngomonde omkhulu.
Umlinganiswa ondlongondlongo
Ngokuqinisekileyo akukho mntu usindayo ngelo xesha xa ubundlongondlongo bukhona. Oku kukwayinxalenye yolo tshintsho kweso sigaba kunye ne-vbanikwe ngenxa yokuba bengayazi indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Kukho iinguqu ezininzi kwaye ngenxa yoko, abazi ukuba bangasondela njani kubo okanye bamelane nazo. Baza kuba nomsindo ngakumbi kwaye ke, akufuneki sikhuseleke kodwa kunokuba babone ukuba sikwicala labo, sibaxhasa ngamaxesha onke. Kuyinyani ukuba xa umlinganiswa esiba ndlongondlongo ngokwenyani njengendlela yobomi, kuya kuba lixesha lokucela uncedo lobuchwephesha.
Utshintsho olukhulu kukuzithemba
Ngolunye olo tshintsho lwenzeka kwinqanaba elinje. Kodwa kwakhona kukuba inokuba nzima ngakumbi kunokuba sinokucinga. Kungenxa yokuba nangona beyixhalabele kakhulu into ecingwa ngabanye, nabo Uluvo lwakho lunokuba buhlungu. Kuyinyani ukuba kwiminyaka yokuqala inokuba yinto ephazamisayo, kuba ayiyi kuhlala ihleli, kude nayo. Ikwayinto ekufuneka sincede kuyo kwaye kakhulu ukuze ukuzithemba kuhlala kumanqanaba alungileyo. Ngaloo ndlela ukuphepha ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli okanye ukugculelwa, okuhlala kubalulekile kweli nqanaba.
Ukuze ujongane nako konke oku, kufuneka umisele uluhlu lwemida kodwa ungabi nzima kakhulu. Zama ukuba nonxibelelwano oluhle kwaye uhlale ubonisa umdla ebomini bakhe kunye neengcamango zakhe.