Ngokwenkcazo yeRoyal Academy yoLwimi lwaseSpain, uvelwano kukukwazi ukuchonga umntu. Oko kukuthi, zibeke ezihlangwini zomnye umntu, cinga ngendlela onokuziva ngayo kwaye ukwazi ukuhamba neemvakalelo zakho. Uvelwano ayilulo uphawu olwabiwa ngabantu bonke, kukho abantu abanovelwano ngakumbi, abantu abanendawo yokubandezeleka ngobubi babanye.
Kutheni le nto kunjalo, oko kukuthi, kutheni kukho abantu abanolwazelelelo kwiimvakalelo zabanye abantu? Isenokuba ngumbandela wemfundo, uvelwano yenye yeempawu ezintle zabantu ekufuneka sizifundise abantwana oko sasingabantwana. Kodwa izifundo zamva nje zibonise ukuba uvelwano lukwanepesenti yelungu lemfuza.
Kodwa loo pesenti incinci, kuphela yi-10%. Ukongeza, akukabikho nto ichongiweyo ukuba zeziphi izinto ezithandayo umntu onepesenti yovelwano kulwalamano lwabo. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukufundisa ukusukela ebuntwaneni. Umhlaba ufuna uvelwano lomntu, ukuze ube yindawo engcono apho sinokuhlala sonke. Kungenxa yokuba kwanezilwanyana zizidalwa ezivelayo ukuya kwindawo enkulu okanye encinci.
Ukubaluleka kovelwano ebantwaneni
Njengoko besesitshilo, uvelwano kukukwazi ukuzibeka endaweni yabanye, ukuze wabelane ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwabantwana. Ngovelwano, abantwana banokufunda ukuziqonda ngcono, kuya kubanceda baqonde ukuba ayisiyiyo kuphela into eyenzekayo emhlabeni.
Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bafunde ukungazicingeli. Kufuneka bazi ukubaluleka kokuxabisa abanye abantu, nokuba bayafana okanye abafani nabo.
Yeyiphi kulungile kuphuhliso lweemvakalelo zomntwana, ebuntwaneni bakhe nasebomini bakhe bonke. Uyakwazi ukunxibelelana ngcono nabanye abantu, ukuseka ubuhlobo bokungazingci kunye nobusempilweni. Ke ukufundisa uvelwano ebantwaneni kuya kuba yimfuneko kubo ukuze bakhule njengabantu abakhuselekileyo, benesakhono sokuqonda ukubandezeleka kwabanye, kwaye benze ngokufanelekileyo. Kwaye oko kuyakwenza ukuba babe nabantu, bazithembe, badume, kwaye baphumelele abantu.
Njani fundisa uvelwano Ebantwaneni
Ukuze ukwazi ukufundisa abantwana kuyo nayiphi na into, eyona nto iphambili kukubeka umzekelo. Ootata noomama zizipili apho izenzo kunye nobuntu babantwana bethu bubonakaliswa. Ke ngoko khuthaza uvelwano lwakho xa ujongene neemeko zemihla ngemihla, ukuze abantwana bakho bakwazi Qonda, ngokusekwe kwimizekelo, ukuba iqulethe ntoni obo buchule.
Thatha ithuba lokuziphatha kakubi kunye nawe ukubabonisa ukuba bakwenzakalisile. Thetha nabantwana bakho kwaye ubacacisele ukuba into abayenzileyo ikwenzakalisile kwaye ngoba. Benze babone bangaziva njani Ukuba wena, ngubani oyena mntu ubathanda kakhulu emhlabeni, yenza into ebakhathazayo. Uvelwano lumalunga nokuzibeka endaweni yabanye, bafundise ngemizekelo.
Fundisa abantwana bakho ubuchule bokumamela abanye, ukuqala ngokuzimamela ngokwakho. Abantwana ngabantu abaneemvakalelo zabo kunye nobuntu babo. Bafuna ukuba ubamamele, ke ukuba kukho ukungqubana ngento eyenzekileyo ekhaya, bonisa uvelwano kubo. Mamela oko bakuthethayo, zibeke ezihlangwini zabo, kwaye ubabonise ukuba uyaziqonda iimvakalelo zabo. Uya kubanika umzekelo obalulekileyo wokuba uvelwano aluhambi nobudala.
Ukongeza, uya kufundisa abantwana bakho ukuba baziveze ngcono iimvakalelo zabo. Abantwana xa bebancinci kakhulu babonisa iimvakalelo zabo ngomsindo. Ke usebenza ngovelwano, Umntwana uya kuba nakho ukubiza into aziva ngayo mzuzu ngamnye. Iyakubanceda baziqonde iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bazichaze, nokuba ngumsindo, lusizi, luvuyo, okanye lusizi. Uya kuba nakho ukunxibelelana ngcono nabantwana bakho, kuba baya kukuthemba ngakumbi kuwe.