Xa abantwana bekhula, indlela abanxibelelana ngayo notshintsho losapho, nangona abazali behlala beneembopheleleko ezithile kubo. Kwindawo yokuqala kukho uxanduva lokuziphatha, ezo zichazwe kwindima katata okanye umama kwaye zinento yokwenza nothando. Kuba Ukuza kweminyaka yabantwana akubenzi bayeke ukuba yinxalenye yabo ngokufanayo.
Ukuzisa abantwana emhlabeni kuluxanduva kubo, uxanduva olunokutshintsha kule minyaka idlulileyo kodwa lungaze luphele. Kwaye ngaphaya koxanduva lokuziphatha, kukho uxanduva olusemthethweni olubalulekile nokwazi. Fumanisa ukuba zeziphi iimfanelo zabazali kubantwana babo xa sele bekhulile.
Iminyaka yesininzi sabantwana
Njengotata okanye umama, umntu uhlala ejonge okona kulungileyo kubantwana babo kwaye ukusukela oko bazalwa bafundisiwe ukuba babe noxanduva, abafundileyo, abasebenza nzima nabadala abazimeleyo. Ingxaki iza xa abantwana bekhula kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, apho Akukho mfuneko yokuba basebenze ukuze bafumane into abayifunayo, abafundisi ukulwa yokuhlangabezana neenjongo zabo kwaye babe ngabantu abadala abangasebenzi kakuhle.
Kule meko, kunokubakho iimeko ezinobunzima ekufanele ukuba uzazi. Kwelinye icala, kukho umnqweno wokukhathalela nokukhusela abantwana, kodwa ukungabavumeli bakhule bubunzima bokukhula kwabo kunye nokukhula kwabo buqu. Kule meko umthetho uthi uxanduva lwabazali kubantwana abakwiminyaka esemthethweni luyatshintsha, ngenxa yokuba igunya labazali okanye ukugcinwa kwabo kuyekiswa, ngaphandle xa kukhubazeka abantwana. Kwimeko apho, iya kuba ngabasemagunyeni abafanelekileyo abaya kugqiba ukuba luxanduva lwabazali ukuya kumntwana lufikelela phi.
Oko kuthetha ukuba xa befikelela kubudala besininzi, abantwana bathatha uxanduva lomntu wabo kwaye ngabo ngokwabo abamele baphendule ngezenzo zabo. Ngoku, ukhuseleko lomntu lwahlukile kwaye umthetho uthini kukuba abazali banoxanduva lokondla, khusela kwaye uqinisekise ukhuseleko lwabantwana bade bafumane inkululeko kwezemalikungakhathaliseki ubudala babo.
Uxanduva lokuziphatha
Akukho mntu ucinga ukuba unokungqubana kwezomthetho nabantwana babo ngenxa yezibophelelo zabo njengomzali, nangona ukwenziwa kukho iimeko ezininzi. Abazali abafuna kwaye bathi mabayeke ukuxhasa abantwana babo ukuze bathathe uxanduva. KUNYE abantwana abathi baxele kwaye bafune ipenshoni ukutya kwabazali. Amatyala nokuba kubuhlungu kangakanani na, aqhubeka rhoqo kunokucinga.
Nangona kunjalo, kuqhelekile ukuba ootata noomama bafundise abantwana babo besebancinci ukuba bakwazi ukuzimela, ukuzimela nokuba noxanduva. Iimpawu ezinje ngomsebenzi, iinzame kunye nokuzinikela zibalulekile kwimfundo yabantwana, kuba kungoko kuphela apho banokuba nobomi obuzimeleyo nobusebenzayo babantu abadala. Ngaphambi kokuba ungene kwiimeko ezibuhlungu nezintsokothileyo nabantwana bakhoBafundise ukuzikhathalela. Kungenxa yokuba ezi zibophelelo kubantwana abancinci, uxanduva olumiselwe ngokusemthethweni njengokukhusela, ukondla, ukufundisa kunye nokubonelela ngoqeqesho olubanzi.
Khulisa abantwana bakho ngokufunda kubalulekile njengoko imfundo ngesondoBafundise ukupheka, ukusebenza ukuze bafumane imali yokuzimela, ukukhathalela impilo yabo kunye nemali yasekhaya. Akukhawulezi kakhulu okanye emva kwexesha kakhulu ukuyenza, ke ungacingi ngeminyaka yabantwana bakho njengengxaki. Ngezifundo ezincinci zemihla ngemihla uya kuba nakho ukuphakamisa abantu abadala abaza kuba ngabo abaza kutshintsha umhlaba.
Ulutsha olunoxanduva luzinikele kwindalo esingqongileyo. Abafana abaziintshatsheli abamkela abantu abohlukileyo, ababona abanye belingana nangona kukho umahluko. Umanyano lwabantwana kunye ngembeko ngazo zonke izinto eziphilayo ezihlala kulo mhlaba kwaye abalwela amalungelo abo bonke. Uya kuyazi ke ukuba wenze umsebenzi olungileyo njengomzali.