Ndiyayithanda loo nto yokuhlekisa apho uQuino ebeka khona emlonyeni kaMafalda: ukuba imalunga nokuba mdala, sobabini siphumelele ngosuku olunye! Kwaye kunjalo, kuba abazali nabantwana baqala ukuba, ngokungqongqo ukuthetha ngaxeshanye. Ke, bobabini banamalungelo nezibophelelo, abazali ngokubhekisele kwinzala yabo kunye nabantwana nabazali babo.
Ngaphandle kokufumana umthetho kakhulu, ngaphandle kokungena kwiikhowudi ezininzi nakwizivakalisiEwe, ndingathanda ukuphonononga ngendlela emnandi, amalungelo kunye noxanduva abantwana abanalo nabazali babo, ngakumbi abo bangaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18 ubudala abahlala kwikhaya labazali.
Amalungelo okuphindaphinda kunye noxanduva lwabazali nabantwana
Olu luhlu olwenziwe ngesiqingatha, uluhlu olwenziweyo olunesiqingatha onokuthi ulubumbe nangayiphi na indlela oyifunayo. Kwaye ungathetha-thethana njengoko abantwana bakho bekhula. Ayithathi nakweyiphi na incwadi yesikhokelo, kodwa yenziwe ngentlonipho kunye nengqiqo. Ndiyathemba ukuba inokukunceda.
Umntwana unelungelo thetha ngokukhululekileyo nabazali bakhe kuxanduva lokumfundisa ukuhlonipha ezinye izimvo, izimvo okanye izigqibo ezithathiweyo.
Umntwana unelungelo khetha ngokukhululekileyo abahlobo bakho kunye nabazali bakhe uxanduva lokumnceda aqonde kwaye athintele "amaqabane" akhe ekumenzakaliseni. Unelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo, kodwa kunye noxanduva lokukhusela.
Ewe umntwana unayo ilungelo lokungaxhatshazwa nangaluphi na uhlobo, ezesondo, ezabasebenzi, ubundlobongela basekhaya, ukushiya, ukungabikho kwemfundo, ukutya, njl. kunye nabazali bakhe, uxanduva lokwenza okufunekayo ukumkhusela.
Wonk'ubani, kubandakanywa abantwana kunye nabazali abanembuyekezo, banelungelo fumana ulwazi evumela ukuba uphumelele ebomini. Nabantwana bayafundisa. Kwaye ulwazi lubanzi kunemfundo elawulwayo.
Nantsi inqaku elaliphikisana kwimeko yam: Umntwana une ilungelo kwishedyuli efumaneka simahla nakwimfihlo yakhe, nabazali bakhe ukuba bamhlonele kwaye bazi ukuba ulisebenzisa njani ixesha lakhe lokuphumla.
Ukuba uyayijika, uya kubona ukuba abazali banamalungelo afanayo. Kwaye ngoku masithethe ngezibophelelo zabantwana.
Uxanduva loonyana neentombi
Kungenzeka ukuba ngamanye amaxesha simvile umntwana exelela abazali bakhe ukuba banoxanduva lokubanika izinto. Ukuba bona, abantwana, ababuzanga ukuba beze kulo mhlaba. Ke banelungelo, kwaye kuyinyani, ukondliwa, ukunxitywa ... kodwa hayi ukubanika yonke into kunye nemvume. Ke masithi olokuqala uxanduva lwabantwana ayikokucela.
Uninzi lwabazali bafuna ukuba abantwana babo bazithembe, babenakho ukubanakho ukusombulula iingxaki zabo. Ngenxa yoku kufuneka uqhelise ukuthobela kwaye ufunde ukuhlala kunye. Xoxani. Ukuphuhlisa ukulunga kwabantu kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni. Oku kubandakanya uxanduva, uxanduva losapho noluntu.
Imigaqo yoluntu iquka Unyanzeliso lwabantwana lokugcina abazali babo kunye nezihlobo ngqo. Ngendlela efanayo ababanceda ngayo ebutsheni babo, ukuba bakhule kwaye baphumelele. Kodwa ngaphaya kwenkqubo yezomthetho enokubonisa kwaye, ukugcina yonke into enokwenzeka, olona xanduva lukhulu ntlonipho. Intlonipho ngoonyana neentombi ukuba bababone ebazalini abo babakhulise ngothando olukhulu kwaye kangangoko banakho.
Uxanduva kunye namalungelo abantwana phambi koluntu
La Ingqungquthela yowe-1989 yamaLungelo oMntwana Sisisixhobo sokuqala samazwe aphesheya, esibophelela ngokusemthethweni abantu namazwe, ebandakanya uluhlu olupheleleyo lwamalungelo oluntu abantwana.
Abantwana banelungelo, lokutyelela abazali babo kunye noluntu luphela, lokungacalucalulo, lokuzinikezela kwiminqweno yomntwana, ilungelo lobomi, lokusinda kunye nokukhula kunye nokuhlonitshwa kweembono, kubandakanya nezo zinxulumene nokhathalelo lwempilo, imfundo, kunye nokunikezelwa kweenkonzo zomthetho, ezentlalo, nezentlalo. Amalungelo asisiseko kukuthatha inxaxheba kusapho.
Ke abazali bane uxanduva lokuqala lokunyanzelisa nokuzalisekisa la malungelo.