Njengabazali, siqhele ukwenza izinto ezingapheliyo ngenxa yokulunga kwabantwana bethu ... Yinto eqhelekileyo, bafuna ukuba sikwazi ukuphuhlisa kuzo zonke iinkalo. Kodwa abantwana bakwaneembopheleleko abafanele bazifeze kubazali babo. Asiyi kungena kwinto ethi iKhowudi yoLuntu, kodwa kunoko, siza kuphawula kwezo imisebenzi yeemvakalelo engabhalwanga kodwa eyaziyo intliziyo kufuneka izalisekisiwe.
Nokuba ungumntwana okhulileyo, kufuneka uthobele konke oku sikuxela apha ukuze uthobele abazali bakho. Ungalahli iinkcukacha kuba ukuba awuthobeli, kunyanzelekile ukuba ukwenze ngoku ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho!
Ukuba ngutata kubomi bokwenyani yindlela ekhangayo yobomi, kodwa oko kuthwala uthotho lwezibophelelo ekungelula ukuhlangabezana nazo. Isiqubulo siye sahlala sisithi "thobela abazali bakho ngelixa behlala phantsi kwamandla abo, kwaye ungalokothi ulibale ukuba kufuneka ubahloniphe."
Umthetho unika abazali uthotho lweemfuno kunye nezibophelelo ukuba kufuneka bazifezekise nabantwana babo. Bamele babajonge, bahlale behamba nabo, babondle, babafundise kwaye bathobele uqeqesho olubanzi. Abazali basoloko bephumeza iimbopheleleko zabo. Xa besebancinane, bayayifeza indima yabo, kodwa bathi bakuba badala, olo hlobo lwembopheleleko lusenokugqwetheka.* Kwenzeka ntoni xa umntwana ezilibala iimbopheleleko zakhe?
Uxanduva lomzwelo lwabantwana kubazali
Imisebenzi yabantwana kubazali:
- Abazali bakho abangabo abahlobo bakho, babaluleke ngaphezu kwabo nabuphi na ubuhlobo.
- Bathembe ngokupheleleyo abazali.
- Banike lonke ingqalelo abayifunayo.
- Ungaze uzigwebe izenzo zabo, bahlala becinga ngabantwana babo kuqala.
- Soloko uwahlonipha nakweyiphi na imeko.
- Nika ingqalelo kwizinto ezisixelela zona.
- Funda ukuveza ikamva elihle.
- Sebenzisana nemisebenzi yasekhaya (kuba “awuncedisi” kwimisebenzi yasekhaya, usebenzisana njengelungu elisebenzayo kwinucleus yosapho).
- Bakhathalele nanini na beyifuna, nangayiphi na imeko.
- Soloko ubabandakanya ebomini bakho.
- Bafundiseni njengoko bafundisayo nina.
- Yenza imisebenzi kunye nabo.
- Yiba novelwano kubo kwaye uziqonde.
- Yiba ecaleni kwakho kokubini empilweni nasekuguleni.
- Yiba nombulelo kubo rhoqo.
- Gwema iingxabano okanye isimilo esibi, unxibelelwano luya kuhlala luhle.
- Bathande ngaphezu kwezinto zonke.
Abantwana nabo banembopheleleko. nokuba ungakanani na. Njengommiselo omkhulu ngaphakathi kwekhaya kubalulekile Musa ukulimaza nabani na entsatsheni. Bakwanalo nelungelo lokuvakalisa into embi xa kukho into ebonakala ingalunganga kubo kwaye bade bacele uncedo xa lufuneka. Xa kujongwa yonke imisebenzi eveziweyo, abantwana kufuneka bawachithe amalungelo abo:
- Bamele bathande yaye bathandwe ngabazali.
- Kufuneka ubathande bobabini abazali kwaye ungakhethi ukuba bobabini bayasifundisa kwaye bayasithanda ngokulinganayo.
- Kufuneka uvakalise iimvakalelo zakho.
- Kufuneka bazive bekhuselekile.
- Musa ukuyigxeka ngasese into eyenziwa ngomnye umzali komnye.
- Sukucingela iinkxalabo kunye neengxaki ezinokuthi zitsalwe ngabazali.
Imisebenzi yeemvakalelo yabantwana iyahluka xa bebadala
Xa abantwana bekhula iimbopheleleko ngokweemvakalelo ziyahluka. Iindima sele zitshintshile, badala kakhulu kwaye abantwana bathatha indima yabantwana nabazali, kwezinye iimeko. Le yindlela yokukwazi ukoyisa omabini amacandelo nalapho abantwana ngokwabo banokuqonda ngoku kwaye bafunde izakhono ezininzi eziya kuba luncedo olukhulu ekunxibelelaneni nabanye abantu.
- Kweli nqanaba sinako baphathe njengezihlobo. Ngoku kuxa izikhundla zilingana ngokwenene kwaye kuxa iingcinga, amava kunye neemvakalelo kwabelwana ngazo.
- Ukuthembela kuyenziwa ngokusesikweni. Ngoku le mvakalelo iyakhula kuba lixesha apho sihlala sifuna inkxaso kunye naliphi na icebiso. Ngokucacileyo, oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba inqanaba loxanduva likwinqanaba kwaye ubomi babo bunokuhambelana. Kukwakho nenye inkalo ebalulekileyo, leyo kukuba ngoku izigqibo azizukugwetywa ngendlela ebezigwetywe ngayo ngaphambili.
- Musa ukugweba abazali bethu. Le nyaniso izisa isiqabu esikhulu ngexesha lonke lomntwana. Xa abantwana beselula, bajonga kubazali babo njengamaqhawe namaqhawekazi. Nangona kunjalo, xa bangena ebusheni le nyaniso itshintsha ngokupheleleyo kwaye ngabantu abaselula abangakwazi ukuqonda nantoni na. Xa kufikelele inqanaba labantu abadala, abazali basenokuqhubeka bejongwe ngendlela engayiboniyo into eyenzekayo ebangqongileyo nemele itshintshe.
- Kufuneka ubathembe. Baya kuhlala bengabantu bethu esibathembileyo, abaninzi babo bazabalazela ukuba ngcono kubahlobo babo. Ngaba asisoloko sisiya kubazali xa kukho into eyenzekayo? Ngaba asisoloko sifuna icebiso? Kwiimeko ezininzi siya kuhlala sifumana inkxaso kunye neengcebiso. Ngaphantsi kweli nqanaba akufanele singene ngaphakathi ukuba siya kugwetywa, kufuneka kubekho ukuthembana.
- Bahlonele kwaye banikele ingqalelo kubo. Ukuba kukho intlonipho ukususela ekuzalweni komntwana, yinto emele yoyise ukususela ekuqaleni ukuya ekupheleni. Ukuba abazali bethu bahlala benjalo, abantwana abafanele bawuqhawule loo mqobo. Abantwana bafanele bathobele oko abazali babayalela kona. Ukuba sikwenza sisebancinane, mhlawumbi ikwayindlela entle yokukwazi ukuphumeza iimbopheleleko zethu xa sibadala. Uninzi lwezi nkalo luqondwa kakuhle ngakumbi xa kufuneka abantwana babe ngabazali.
Uyazifezekisa zonke izibophelelo onazo njengonyana ngakubazali bakho? Ukuba uphose nayiphi na ebomini bakho, kungcono ukuba uyayithobela kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba ezinye zingongezwa, sixelele ukuba yeyiphi na ocinga ukuba ibalulekile nayo!