Owona mnqweno mkhulu kuwo nawuphi na umzali yazi ukuba umntwana wakho wonwabile. Le meko iyinxalenye yemfundo kwaye iyathuthuzelwa njongo. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ungeze ngaphezulu koko ukuze wonwabe umntwana, kuba ngenxa yabo ilula kakhulu kunokuba sicinga. Izinto eziphambili kukuba soloko uzele luthando kwaye udlale ngokukhululekileyo.
Ngaphandle kwayo yonke into, kukho abantwana abangazalelwanga kwindawo entle, okanye abazali abathandabuzayo ukuba bakhulisa abantwana ngexabiso eliphambili elo. Ngenxa yoku kufuneka sinike ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha ezininzi eziza kusibonisa ukuba isimilo sakho sisondele kumxholo wolonwabo.
Wazi njani ukuba umntwana wakho wonwabile?
Zininzi iimpendulo ku fumana ukuba umntwana wakho wonwabile na. Xa kuziwa ekufundiseni nasekonwabiseni umntwana wakho akunyanzelekanga ukuba ujongane nezithintelo ezinkulu, okanye ubeke izinto endaweni yolonwabo lwabo. Into ephambili ayikukubafumana ukuba bakhohliswe abantwana ababona ubomi kumbala we-rosy, kodwa abantwana abazithembileyo abaneengxaki ezininzi, inkohliso namaphupha, ukukwazi ukufezekisa izinto ezininzi ezinokuvela phambi kwayo.
Ukuze ubone umntwana owonwabileyo enombono omncinci, sinokubona amanqaku amaninzi aza kusicacisela wona. Umntwana wanelisekile bubomi bakhe uyancuma ngokuqhubekayo, wonwabile udlala nabantwana ngaphandle kokuzisola kwaye ngaphandle komsindo. Soloko usebenzisa ulwimi oluqinisekileyo kwaye sukudala ungquzulwano. Akanantloko kwaye uyavana nabantu abaninzi. Ukuba unengqondo ethembekileyo neqinisekileyo, ngekhe ubenalo uloyiko oluninzi.
Abantu abakungqongileyo banomdla kakhulu
Yonke into enxulumene nokusingqongileyo yintoni Iya kukunika uzinzo ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba ufumana uthando, inkxaso, kunye nokuqonda okuninzi kubazali bakho, usapho, ootitshala kunye nabahlobo, iya kuba yeyona nto iphambili. Ngale ndlela sithetha ngabantwana abakhuselekileyo, ngaphandle koloyiko, kunye namandla okuphendula kunye nokuchacha kwiingxabano.
Bangabantu abathi nokuzithemba okuhle, banako ukufikelela kwiinjongo kuba kuyabonwabisa kwaye bazikhusele kuhlaselo lwabanye kuba bengafuni ukuzenzakalisa. Bangabantwana ekufuneka bafunde ukwenza bazixabise kwaye baqala ukuzithanda.
Ukuba bonwabile kwaye aboyiki oko kubangqongileyo, uhlala njalo bazakuchaza iimvakalelo zabo ngenkululeko enkulu, nabantu abathembekileyo. Iya kuba luphawu lokuba zisongelwe kwifayile ye- imeko-bume esempilweni yosapho. Ukongeza, bayayazi indlela yokuhambelana nemithetho ebekwe ngabazali kunye noluntu, ngaphandle kokubangela ingxaki ebomini babo kwaye ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuvukela.
Izizathu ezinceda umntwana wakho onwabe
Imeko yosapho yomntwana wakho kufuneka izinzile, izolile, isempilweni. Ukuba iingxaki zikhona, kufuneka zibe yinkxalabo egcinwe ngabantu abadala hayi uxanduva lwabantwana. Kufuneka bajongane kuphela iingxaki ezihambelana nenqanaba labo lokuvela kwezinto kuba banokuvelisa into ebuhlungu nengalungiseki ebomini bakho.
Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka thintela onke amaxesha abangela uxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo kubantwana. Kukho iimeko ekungafanelekanga ukuba abantwana bazibone kwindawo yosapho. Akukho nto yenzekayo kuba babona ukungqubana amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ukuba kukho izigaba eziqhubekayo zokulwa okanye ukungqubana okuya kubonakala kumntwana ongonwabanga.
Umntwana kufuneka akhulele kwimeko entle
Uxinzelelo olunokubangela eyona nto kuxa abazali bekwisimo sentsapho balwa ngokuqhubekayo. Abantwana abafuni kubona abazali abathi bahlala bekhalaza ngayo yonke into ebangqongileyo. Ukuba batyhola kakhulu izifundo zabantwana babo kwaye babangxolise ngokuba kufuneka bafumane amabakala angcono, abantwana abayi konwaba lolu hlobo loxinzelelo. Yimeko yokuba baya kuthi kamva babonakalise kakubi esikolweni nakwizihlobo zabo. Basenokungalali kakuhle kwaye babe nokuvuka kunye namaphupha amabi ebusuku.
Funda ukunxibelelana nomntwana wakho, uthathe ixesha lokuba bafune ukuhambisa iimvakalelo zabo, ukuze bazi ukuba bazilawula njani ngaphandle kwezithintelo. Akulunganga ukhuseleko olugqithisileyo kuba kulungile ukuba iqinisa ukuzimela kwayo. Ayilunganga nokuba unyamezelo olugqithisileyoUkunciphisa izinto ezininzi kuya kukunceda ufunde ukuthobela imithetho ngokungcono. Kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke uyivumele ukuba iphonononge umendo wayo, khangela isazisi sakho kwaye ungaziva uphantsi kwale ufuna ukuyila.
Ngawo onke amaxesha kufuneka unike inkxaso umntwana wakho ukuze ube nokuziphendukela kwemvakalelo okuchanekileyo. Kunzima ukuzisa ithemba xa abazali ngokwabo bengekho kwixesha elingcono. Kodwa akufuneki uvumele iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ziyosulela kusapho lonke kwaye kuncinci kubantwana. Kwaye njengoko bekusoloko kusitsho njalo imbeko, uthando, ukuqonda nokwanga zihlala zisebenza kwaye zingazivumeli ukuba zithintele uloyiko lwazo.