Sonke sifuna ukuba bahle maxa onke, kodwa Ubuhle buhlala buhambelana Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, kuxhomekeka kumsitho, nokuba imbonakalo yethu ifanelekile okanye ayijonganga ukuba abanye, okanye nathi ngokwethu, bajongeka okanye bangakhangeleki.
Nangona kunjalo, le yinkcazo ngobuhle bobuhle, ukuba mhle ngexesha elithile, kwixesha kunye nendawo. Ngokwenyani, Yintoni esinokuyenza ukuze sihlale sibahle?Yintoni entle ngokwenene?
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Mhle.
Ukusuka lat. vappa 'isikhohlakali, isihange'; cf. mhle 'umntu oxabanayo'.
- Isilungiso. Ubukeka kakuhle.
- Isilungiso. Ukuzilungisa, unxibe kakuhle.
- Isilungiso. indawo Unesibindi, uyamangalisa kwaye uzimisele, uyayicekisa ingozi kwaye ayenze.
- Isilungiso. indawo U. ngokuthetha, ukungabinantsingiselo, njengomboniso wothando, ngamanye amaxesha unengxolo okanye ithoni yokucaphuka. Cwaka kancinci, mhle.
Oko kukuthi, ukuba sinikela ingqalelo kwi-etymology yelizwi, ukuba mhle kunento yokwenza nomntu othethayo, odlamkileyo nokuzimisela kunokuba neempawu ezigqibeleleyo okanye ubungakanani obusinxibileyo.
Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba akufanele uthambise okanye unxibe kakuhle ukuze ube mhle?
Oko kuthetha ukuba akuyomfuneko kwaphela, kuba ngaphakathi kweenkcazo kungena ukubukeka okuhle kunye nokuzilungisa kakuhle okanye ukunxiba kakuhle. Yintoni ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyiqaphele kukuba ukuba mhle kukwanxulumene nomlinganiswa wakho. Kufuneka ube nesibindi kwaye uchwayite, umfazi obandayo kwaye onosizi, ayisiyiyo intombazana entle.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube mhle kukuziva ulungile ngesiqu sakho. Ukuze ube mhle kufuneka wonwabe kwaye unxibelelane ngendlela esempilweni nabantwana bakho, neqabane lakho, nabahlobo bakho nabantu osebenza nabo.
Unokuba mhle ngebhulukhwe kunye nehempe eofisini, okanye ngeyona mpahla indala ungayifumana usekhaya udlala nabantwana kunye nokupeyinta. Umlingane wakho akazukukhathalela ukuba unxibe isilika okanye isitokhwe somqhaphu, ukuba nje zikwenza uzive ulungile kwaye ufuna ukubonakala ulungile kwinkampani yabo.
Ukusukela ekukhulelweni, umzimba wakho utshintshile kangangokuba awukhe uzive ukhululekile kuwe.
Nokuba ungatshintsha kangakanani umzimba wakho, kubalulekile ukuba uwukhathalele umzimba kunye nokuzithemba kwakho ngaphezulu kokubonakala kwakho.
Ukukhulelwa kusitshintsha ngaphakathi nangaphandle, asiseyiloo mntu ebengenabantwana kwaye kufuneka samkele ukuba oku kubandakanya utshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni. Ngamanye amaxesha lude lube lutshintsho lwexeshana, kuba kukho iindlela zokutya nezokuzilolonga ezinokukunceda, ukuba awuzukujongeka njengangaphambili, ubuncinci ukuze uzive ungcono ngawe.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba uzive ungunina omhle?
Ngenxa yokuba abantwana bethu baya kufunda kumzekelo wethu, kwaye ukuzithemba kwakho izakunxulunyaniswa nendlela esibabonisa ngayo ukuba siziva ngathi. Ukuba siyanikezela kuxinzelelo loluntu olusixelela ukuba sityebile kakhulu okanye sibhityile okanye side okanye sifutshane, nabo baya kuba njalo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana avakalelwe kukuba imeko yakhe yobuhlobo, imidlalo yakhe kunye novuyo ziyahlonitshwa okoko imfundo yakhe iqala kwasekuzalweni kwaye i-aesthetics yakhe iyinxalenye yobuntu bakhe yiyo ke loo nto. Ukuba sivusa iprojekthi yokufundisa kaRousseau, kubalulekile ukuba sigqamise ibango lakhe lokuhlonipha indalo yomntu kwinkululeko nakukuzimela. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakho babe nomzekelo olungileyo, ukuba uyihloniphe inkululeko yakho kwaye uzenzekele. Kubalulekile kuphuhliso lwabo kwaye, yiyo loo nto ubuhle bokwenyani bukhona, ekubeni yendalo, isiqu sakho, ukonwaba nokwoneliseka yimbonakalo yabo kunye nobomi babo.
Kodwa ngenxa yokuba ndikhangeleka intle akuthethi ukuba nabanye baya kuyenza
Akunjalo konke konke, ngenxa yezi zizathu zilandelayo:
- Unyana wakho uya kuhlala ecinga ukuba ungoyena mama umhle emhlabeni, kuba ubona kuwe bonke obo buhle bukho kwisenzo ngasinye esihle onaso kuye.
- Umlingane wakho uza kukubona umhle ngenxa yesizathu esinye, kuba ubona yonke into oyenzayo kwaye uyayixabisa, loo nto yenza ukuba akubone ungoyena mfazi mhle emhlabeni.
- Abahlobo bakho baya kukubona umhle kuba ubenza babe namaxesha amnandi kwaye ngenxa yokuba bayaqonda ukuba ukwimeko embi.
Kungenxa yokuba kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ubuhle bungaphezulu kweenwele ezintle, ubuso bedoli, kunye nemilenze yokubulala. Ukuze ube mhle ngokwenyani, kufuneka ube nguwe kwaye uyonwabele.