Xa kungekho luvelwano: kwenzeka ntoni?

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Ngamanye amaxesha sithethile ngovelwano, olo lwazi lokuzibeka ezicathulweni zomnye umntu, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa uvelwano lungekho? Ukunqongophala kovelwano kuthetha ukuba kunzima ukuphuma ngokwakho kunye nokuba nakho ukwazi, ukuqonda okanye ukuziva into ahlangabezana nayo omnye umntu. Oku kukhubazeka kwenzeka kubantu abadala abaninzi, kodwa nasebantwaneni.

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba unyana okanye intombi yakho ayinaluvelwano kwiimvakalelo zabanye abantu, ungamnceda ukuphucula obu buchule. Ewe, uvelwano lunokufundwa kwaye luphuhliswe, kwamanye amanqaku sicebisa imidlalo, iincwadi okanye iimuvi ukuyigcina engqondweni.

Banjani abantwana ngaphandle kovelwano

Into yokuqala esifuna ukuyithetha yile Ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka okunzulu, akukho mntu ungenalo uvelwano. Le yimeko yokuphazamiseka kubuntu, enjenge-narcissistic, antisocial or borderline disorder. Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana akayazi indlela yokubonisa uvelwano, okanye akakhulele kwimeko eyikhuthazayo. Hi ndlela leyi, kufuneka siyiphelise intsomi yokuba abantwana abane-autism abanalo uvelwano, kuba bayakwazi ukuchonga iimvakalelo zabanye abantu.

Los hayi abantu abadala abanovelwano bahlala betyhilwe kwinyani yabo kwaye bangalihoyi ilizwe labanye, iingxaki zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Esi simo sengqondo sinokubonakala kumakhwenkwe namantombazana, abathi ngokubanzi babonise ukubaluleka ngenxa yento eyenzeka kwabo basondeleyo kubo. Khumbula ukuba abantwana bayadinwa, baziva bexinezelekile kwaye bayagula, olu hlobo lwento luya kubenza bazive benovelwano oluncinci kunesiqhelo.

Ngale ndlela USimon Baron-Cohen, uchaza uvelwano njengokwahluka okuqhubekayo okwahlulahlula kube ziidigri ezintandathu. Kwaye ikwacacisa ukuba kuqhelekile ukungabinakho kunokuba ungaphezulu. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukungabi novelwano kuqhelekile kumanqanaba athile abalulekileyo, anje nge ukufikisa, kodwa oku akunakusikhokelela ekubeni sicinge ukuba bangabantwana okanye abakwishumi elivisayo abanovelwano.

Kutheni le nto kusilela uvelwano?

uvelwano

Ngokophando lombhali okhankanywe apha ngasentla, uBaron-Cohen, zininzi izinto ezimiselweyo xa kusiziwa ekubeni ungaziva uvelwano. Umzekelo, ngakumbi testosterone ivelisa umntwana ongekazalwa esibelekweni sikanina, kuncinci ukuba novelwano iya kuba semva kokuzalwa. Le mpembelelo ye testosterone ithathwa njengesizathu sokuba abasetyhini bathande ukuba novelwano kunamadoda.

Los Imfuza inokuba nefuthe xa kufikwa ekubeni novelwano ngakumbi okanye ngaphantsi. Okubi kakhulu kukuba, ezona zinto zinempembelelo ekuphuhliseni amandla ngamava ebuntwaneni, nakubo bonke ubomi, kunye namava okungahoywa nokuphathwa gadalala.

Njengokuba uvelwano lukhula, kusengqiqweni ukuba kwiminyaka ethile, umntwana angabi nalo uvelwano. Olu luphawu oluqhelekileyo lokukhula. Akukho ngqiqweni ukulindela ukuba umntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka emihlanu abenovelwano nabanye. Awunabuchule bokuzibeka ezicathulweni zomnye umntu. Uvelwano lokwenene kwabanye lukhula malunga neminyaka esi-8 okanye esi-9.

Izinto ezinegalelo 

umntwana onomsindo


Abantwana abane Ukuqwalaselwa kwentsilelo yokuphazamiseka ekusebenzeni rhoqo kunokuba nzima ukuqonda uvelwano. Kukwanjalo nakubantwana abanoxinzelelo lweemvakalelo ezininzi ezivela kubazali nakubanakekeli, okanye kubantwana abanamakhoboka. Ukongeza, iingxaki zobuntu ezinje nge-narcissism, ukungahambi kakuhle komda, kunye nokuphazamiseka okuchasene noluntu, okwenzeka nakubantwana, kwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuqonda.

Abanye iimpawu ezinokukothusa ukuba umntwana wakho akaluva uvelwano Babandakanya inkohlakalo kwizilwanyana, ukuxoka rhoqo, ukungathobeli igunya, ukuxhaphaza, indlela yokuziphatha, ukungaphenduli kwisohlwayo, kunye nokungazisoli nakuphi na ukonakaliswa.

Ngaba uya kuba Umgqirha oza kuvavanya umntwana kwaye akunike iindlela ezifanelekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukujongana ngcono nemeko. Kuya kukunceda nawe njengomama ukuba usiqonde isizathu sokuba umntwana wakho aziphathe ngale ndlela.


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