Ngelixa amaxesha anzima angenzeka ngalo naliphi na inqanaba lokukhula kolutsha, ngokubanzi, owona mzuzu unzima uqhele ukwenzeka ekupheleni Ngokufanayo. Ukuphela kokufikisa kwenzeka malunga neminyaka eyi-18 kunye ne-23, xa umsebenzi wokulawula ukuzimela, ukuzimela okukhulu ngokuqhelekileyo uqala.
Inkululeko ebudeni bexesha elininzi lokufikisa yayijongwa njengento enomtsalane nenika umdla. Noko ke, inkululeko esemgubasini wobuntu obukhulu inokubonwa njengento eyoyikisayo neyoyikisayo. Owona mceli mngeni kweli nqanaba kukwahlukana nekhaya kwaye uqale ubomi obuzimeleyo. Eli nqanaba linento eninzi yokwenza nokuthatha uxanduva lobomi obudala.
ukuphela kokufikisa
Inqanaba lokugqibela lokufikisa mhlawumbi lelona linzima kwaye linzima kuwo onke. Uninzi lwabantu abaselula alukulungelanga ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke izinto eziyimfuneko ukufumana inkululeko epheleleyo. Yiyo loo nto eli nqanaba lokugqibela livakala ngathi luvavanyo, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo kusekho inkxaso evela kubazali. Ikwasisilingo ngengqiqo yokuba kufuneka unyamezele iimpazamo kunye nokusilela njengomntu omdala oqalayo, kwaye ufunde kuzo ude ube nolawulo oluzimeleyo lobomi bakho.
Kwezi zihlandlo, kulula kakhulu ukuziva ungenazingcambu, ungento yanto, ungento yanto, ungento yanto, ungento yanto kwaye ungenathemba. Ngokuchaseneyo nemigangatho yangaphambili ye ukufikisa, apho amakhwenkwe namantombazana aziva eqhagamshelwe kubahlobo babo kunye nabalingane babo, benobuchule, beluncedo, bexatyisiwe kwaye benethemba. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu abaselula baziva bebambekile. Le mvakalelo ibangelwa kukuba bayakhula kwaye bafunda izifundo ezibalulekileyo zobomi. Bakha ukomelela ukusuka ekuchacheni, babonisa ukuqina kwengqondo ngokuqhubeka nokuzama, kunye nokufumana ulwazi oluninzi kunye namava obomi. Ngamafutshane, nangona bedimazekile, bayakhula kwaye bakhula njengabantu.
Ukungonwabi koPhuhliso
Ukuba abantu abaneminyaka eyi-18-23 basaziva bekhululekile ngeli nqanaba lobomi, kusenokuba kungenxa yokuba basenakho ukuthembela kwiinkxaso zosapho oludala kwaye abazimiselanga ngokupheleleyo ekukhuleni. Abantu abancinci kufuneka baqinisekise, baseke, kwaye balawule ukuzimela kwabo okusebenzayo, enokubangela ukungonwabi. Nangona benobunzima kule minyaka, yinto entle eza kubanceda bakhule njengabantu abadala.
Kule minyaka, abantu abatsha balwa ngokwabo kunye nombono wokuthatha uxanduva olupheleleyo ngobomi babo ngenxa yokuba abaziva bekulungele oko. Ekuqaleni kokufikisa, abafana kunye namantombazana bavukela abazali babo kunye namanani anegunya, kodwa kweli nqanaba lokugqibela loo mvukelo ichasene nabo. Ngoku, ukuzibekela amangomso izinto, isilingo sokunxulumana, ukubaleka kulonwabo lombane, kunye nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kunokuphazamisana nokuthatha inxaxheba okusebenzayo kule nkqubo. Isithintelo kwaba babi kukuziphatha, apho ezi mpawu zintathu zixhomekeke: ukugqiba, ukuzinikela kunye nokunyamezela.
Ukuze bazinyanzele ukuba bathabathe olona xanduva lwabo lukhulu, kufuneka bakwazi uku:
- Gqibezela into abayiqalayo.
- Bafezekise izibophelelo, kunye nabo kunye nabanye.
- Gcina ukuhambelana kwe umzamo ukuhlangabezana neemfuno ezizingileyo zobomi.
Guqula iinkcukacha
Inguqu enkulu yobomi eneneni ngumxube weenguqu ezine kwenye. Ezimbini zokuqala aziqhubeki:
- Qalisa. Amava okuqalisa izinto ezintsha nezahlukileyo.
- Yima. Amava okumisa indala kunye nesekiweyo, njengokuthembela kubazali ekubekeni imithetho kubomi bemihla ngemihla.
Ezi zimbini zilandelayo ziyaqhubeka:
- Nyusa. Amava okwandisa iqondo elithile okanye ubungakanani bomsebenzi wobomi. Ngokomzekelo, kufuneka uthwale uxanduva olungakumbi lokuziqeqesha, ngaphandle kokuwela kubukhoboka.
- Nciphisa. Amava okunciphisa iqondo elithile okanye ubungakanani bomsebenzi wobomi. Umzekelo, kufuneka uphile ngokubekw' iliso elincinane kwaye kungekho ncedo lwento.
Yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye kulungile ukutyhubela amaxesha oxinzelelo xa ufikisa. Into engalunganga kukuvumela ukuba ukhathazeke kwaye wenze isigqibo sokuba ukulibazisa, ukuphepha, ukubaleka, okanye ukunikezela yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza ukuze uzive ulungile. Ukuncama loo mthwalo ukwala ukukhula.
Khumbula ukuba inqanaba lokugqibela lokufikisa lelona nqanaba lokukhalipha. Lixesha lokujongana nokuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye ujongane nokungaqiniseki kwekamva. Kunjalo, ubomi ukusukela ngoku soze bube lula, kodwa ngokuzibophelela kwiimfuno ezinkulu ukuzimela, uya komelela uze uzithembe ngakumbi xa ujamelene nalo naluphi na ucelomngeni olukhulu olungaphambili.