Bonke ootatomkhulu kufuneka bafunde ukuba banendima entle kubomi babantwana babo nabazukulwana, kodwa Kukho uthotho lwemida ekufuneka bayihloniphile. Njengoko abazali belungiselela umzuzu wokuzalwa komntwana, ootatomkhulu kufuneka babelane ngeendaba ezimnandi kwaye baziqhelanise nokujonga umzuzu kunye nokuhlonipha imida.
Ukuba ungutatomkhulu okanye uza kuba nguye kungekudala, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba kukho imida ethile ekufuneka uyihloniphile kubudlelwane obusempilweni ukuze ubekhona ngaphakathi kwenxalenye yosapho. UTau ubaluleke kakhulu kubomi bosapho lonke, kodwa nabo, nabo Kuya kufuneka bakonwabele ukuzimela kunye nokukhula komntu ecaleni kwakho.
Ngexesha lokukhulelwa
Namhlanje, oomama abaninzi basebenza kude kube ngumhla wokubeleka kwaye bahlala begcina imithambo rhoqo ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwabo. Kwelinye icala, abanye boomama banamhlanje bathatha amanyathelo okhuseleko abangazange baxele koomama bezizukulwana ezidlulileyo, njengokuthintela inyama engaphekwanga kunye neemveliso ezingasetyenziswanga.
Oomakhulu nootatomkhulu mabayihloniphe indlela umfazi awuthwala ngayo ukukhulelwa kwakhe. Ngelixa banokunika iingcebiso ukuba bayamangalelwa, kufanelekile ukuba basithembe isigwebo sabantwana babo abadala kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba babe sezandleni ezilungileyo zoochwephesha bezonyango.
Khetha igama
Ukukhetha amagama abantwana yenye yezona zithethe zixabisekileyo kunye noxinzelelo kwindlela eya kubuzali. Oomakhulu nootatomkhulu akufuneki benze uxinzelelo ngakumbi ngokuzama ukugweba ngaphandle kokucelwa. Akufuneki baphakamise amagama okanye babuze ukuba igama lomntwana libe ngumntu othile kusapho.
Ukuba baceliwe ukuba banike izimvo kumagama athile, banokumodareyitha ukuvunywa kwabo, baveze ukuvunywa kwamanye amagama kunamanye, kodwa akufuneki bavume ukuba balithiyile igama elithile. Ukuba uyayenza, enye yezinto ezimbini iya kwenzeka: nokuba ngabazali baya kulisusa igama kuluhlu kwaye bakucaphukele ngokwenza loo nto, okanye baya kuyikhetha kunjalo bakucaphukele kuba awuyithandi.
Ukubeleka
Namhlanje, abazali abaninzi abakhulelweyo banesicwangciso sokuzalwa okanye ubuncinci bezimvo malunga nokuba bafuna ukuba ukuzalwa kube njani. Baya kuvuyela ukukuxelela. Banokungavuyi ukuva uluvo lwakho malunga noku kwaye ungonwabi xa ungonwabanga ukwabelana ngololo hlobo lweendaba okanye awuyithandi into abafuna ukuyenza.
Kukho ootatomkhulu abafuna ukubakho kwigumbi lokuhambisa, kodwa oku kunokuthiwa kuphela ngumfazi osebenzela ... kwaye ngesiqhelo umnqweno kukuba utata womntwana ongekazalwa abekhona kwigumbi lokubelekisa. Abazali abanomdla banokukhetha ukufumana uncedo lwe-doula, okanye isibini sinokufuna ukuba ukuzalwa kube ngasese, kwabelwane kuphela ngeqela lokuzala.
Ngamanye amaxesha omnye umakhulu umenyelwa ekuzalweni kwaye omnye angamenywa. Rhoqo umama womama ozayo uyamenywa kwaye umkhwekazi akabandakanywa. Oko akukho ngqiqweni. Phakathi kukamazala nomolokazana, ubudlelwane buhlala bunzima kwaye Akukho ngxaki ngokweemvakalelo ziyafuneka ngeli xesha sele linzima.
Ukutya
Nje ukuba umzukulwana wakho azalwe, awufuni ukuba eso siqwenga sonwabileyo silambe, kodwa ungabheja abazali sele benesicwangciso sokutya endaweni. Sele begqibile ukuba bazakubanika ibhotile okanye baya kuncancisa kwaye kuya kufuneka usihloniphe eso sigqibo nokuba usithanda ngakumbi okanye usithanda kancinci.
Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukunika inkxaso kwaye ulandele ngqo imiyalelo abakunika yona ukuba unikwe umsebenzi wokondla umntwana ngalo naliphi na ixesha. Njengoko umzukulwana wakho ekhula, landela imiyalelo yakhe yokutya. Gxininisa ukutya okusempilweni, kubandakanya iziqhamo kunye nemifuno, kwaye uhloniphe iingxaki zomzimba onokuba nazo. Musa ukunika iitrinki okanye iilekese ebantwaneni ukuba abazali abafuni ukuba bazithathe, soloko ubuza ngaphambili.
Impahla
Abanye ootatomkhulu, ngakumbi oomakhulu, baba nemincili kakhulu xa bethengela abazukulwana babo iimpahla. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuba uneliso elibukhali kwaye uyabona, uninzi lweempahla ozithengayo zinokuphelela ngasemva kwidrowa okanye kwisitya somnikelo.
Ootatomkhulu kufuneka babuze abazali ukuba bangathanda iimpahla ezinjani emntwaneni kwaye baqwalasele uhlobo lwempahla abaqhele ukuyinxiba. Abanye abazali bafuna iimpahla ezintle kakhulu zomntwana. Abanye bakhetha i-organic. Abanye bafuna i-ruffles yamantombazana kunye namadoda yamakhwenkwe, kwaye abanye bafuna iimpahla ezingafaniyo nesini. Njengokuba abazukulwana bakho bekhula, baya kuphuhlisa ukuthanda kwabo, kodwa imigaqo ihleli injalo: jonga indlela abazukulwana bakho abanxiba ngayo kwaye ubuze malunga nezinto abazithandayo. Ukuba uphisa ngempahla, khumbula ukuhlala unika itikiti lesipho.
Ukulungiswa
Kuyo yonke imiba enzima, uqeqesho yeyona nto inzima. Nangona siva lukhulu ngootatomkhulu noomakhulu ukubaphekula abazukulwana babo, ngamanye amaxesha ootatomkhulu bakholelwa ukuba abazukulwana babo bahlupheka ngenxa yokungabikho kwengqeqesho ekufuneka bejongile.
Nokuba yeyiphi na ingxaki ebaleka kusapho lwakho, imigaqo iyafana. Yindlela yomzali yokuqeqesha eyona nto ibalulekileyo, kwaye ootatomkhulu noomakhulu kufuneka balandele izikhokelo zabazali ngokusondeleyo kangangoko, nokuba abazali abekho, ukuba uqeqesho yinto bonwabile kuyo. Nangona ezinye iintsapho zinokuba nokungaboni ngasonye malunga noqeqesho, unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolwazelelekileyo luya kusombulula naziphi na iimbambano. Ukuba ufuna ukunika ingcebiso kululeko kubantwana bakho abadala, kubalulekile ukuba ucele imvume yabo kuqala.
Ukufundisa
Abazali banokhetho oluninzi namhlanje xa kuziwa ekufundiseni abantwana babo. Banokukhetha esidlangalaleni, ngasese, okanye kwimfundo yasemakhaya, kwaye nganye kuzo inokukhetha ezinye iindlela. Ukuba abazali bakhetha isikolo sikarhulumente, umzekelo, banokukhetha phakathi kwesikolo sobumelwane okanye isikolo kwenye idolophu.
Oomakhulu nootatomkhulu abaceliweyo ukuba banikele ngayo nayiphi na indlela enentsingiselo banelungelo lokuvakalisa uluvo lwabo. Ukuba, umzekelo, ootatomkhulu bacelwa ukuba bafake isandla kwiindleko zesikolo sabucala okanye babonelele ngento yokuhamba ukuya kwisikolo esithile, banelungelo lokuba nezwi kwaye bamkele okanye balugatye uxanduva.