Ukudlala kubalulekile ebantwaneni, ukuze bakhule, ukuze bakhule ukuze bonwabele ubuntwana babo. Kodwa ikwayimfuneko nakubantu abadala, abantu abadala bayonwabele (okanye kufuneka bayenze) ixesha labo lokuphumla, ixesha lokuzonwabisa, kunye nezinye iintlobo zemidlalo. Kodwa umdlalo ngokungathandabuzekiyo uyimfuneko yokuba abantwana kufuneka bonwabele ukusukela nje ekufikeni kwabo kweli hlabathi.
Bazali, abafundisi-ntsapho kunye nabani na osebenza nabantwana kufuneka ayazi into yokudlala simahla kwaye ayiyo, kuba olu hlobo lomdlalo luyimfuneko ebantwaneni ukuze baphucule kwaye baphuhlise ukuyila, ukucinga kunye nokucinga. Nangona umdlalo odlalwayo uhlala uyimfuneko, inyani kukuba ukudlala ngokukhululekileyo kukwayimfuneko ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo.
Ukudlala ngokukhululekileyo kubonisa inkululeko
Umdlalo, ngaphezulu kwako konke, ubonakalisa inkululeko. Yiloo nto umntu afuna ukuyenza ngalo mzuzu xa efuna ukujongana noko kunyanzelekile ukuba akwenze. Uvuyo lomdlalo yimvakalelo yovuyo yenkululeko. Umdlalo awusoloko uhamba kunye noncumo kunye nokuhleka, kwaye noncumo kunye nokuhleka kuhlala kungumqondiso wokudlala. Kodwa umdlalo uhlala ukhatshwa yimvakalelo: 'Yile nto ndifuna ukuyenza ngoku.' Abantwana abadlalayo baziva ukuba bakhululekile kwaye bayalawula, hayi ukuba bangamaqebengwana kumdlalo womnye umntu.
Xa umntwana edlala ngokukhululekileyo, banokukhetha ukuba badlale ntoni kodwa bangadlali, kwaye baya kuthi bazikhokele ngokwabo ngexesha lomdlalo. Nangona ukudlala kuhlala kubandakanya uhlobo oluthile lwemithetho, ngabadlali abayamkelayo inkululeko imigaqo, nokuba bayayitshintsha okanye hayi ... Kananjalo, abadlali kufuneka bavumelane notshintsho. Ukudlala ngokukhululekileyo nabanye ngumsebenzi wentando yesininzi apho wonke umntu enoluvo, kumdlalo wentlalo (umdlalo obandakanya umdlali ongaphezulu komnye), kufuneka kubekho ukuvumelana kwintando yomntu wonke.
Kumdlalo wasimahla akukho xinzelelo
Umntwana oziva enyanzelekile okanye anyanzelwe ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwimidlalo ayingomdlali, ulixhoba. Inkululeko yokumisa ukungcakaza yinkqubo yedemokhrasi eyenzeka kumdlalo wentlalo osimahla. Ukuba umdlali omnye uzama ukoyikisa okanye ukulawula abanye, umdlalo wokwenyani uphelile. Abadlali abafuna ukuqhubeka nokudlala kufuneka bafunde ukungoyikisi okanye ukulawula. Abantwana abangafuniyo ukulandela imigaqo yomdlalo kufuneka bazive bekhululekile ukuveza izimvo zabo ukutshintsha imigaqo kwaye wonke umntu uyavuma kumdlalo. Yindlela yokusebenza kuvelwano nasekuqinisekiseni ukusuka ebusheni.
Abantwana bafunda ngokudlala ukuba babe novelwano kwiimfuno zabanye kwaye bazame ukuhlangabezana nazo. Kungokudlala ekuhlaleni apho abantwana bafunda, bebodwa, indlela yokuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo kwaye kwangaxeshanye, bafunde ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabanye. Esi sesona sifundo sibaluleke kakhulu esinokufundwa ngabantwana balo naliphi na uluntu.
Xa umntu omdala edlala nabantwana ekudlaleni kwabo simahla
Abantu abadala abaninzi bazama ukulawula ukudlala kwabantwana. Abantu abadala banokudlala nabantwana kwaye kwezinye iimeko banokuba ziinkokheli kwimidlalo yabantwana, kodwa oku kufuna ubuncinci ubuntununtunu obufanayo obuboniswa ngabantwana ngokwabo kwiimfuno kunye neminqweno yabo bonke abadlali abakwiminyaka efanayo.
Kuba abantu abadala bajongwa njengabantu abasemagunyeni, abantwana bahlala beziva ngathi abanakukwazi ukudlala ngokukhululekileyo ngokungavumelani nemithetho ecetywayo xa umntu omdala ekhokela umdlalo kunakwenziwa ngomnye umntwana. Ke Umntu omdala kufuneka abe novelwano ukuze akhumbule ukuba udlala nomntwana okhulayo.
Xa abantu abadala bekhokela umdlalo kakhulu, ebantwaneni iyayeka ukuba ngumdlalo wasimahla. Xa umntwana eziva enyanzelekile, umoya womdlalo uyanyamalala kwaye zonke izibonelelo zokudlala simahla zidlulile. Imidlalo yabantu abadala eyalelwa ngabantwana kodwa bakhethe ukudlala ngokukhululekileyo kunokuba lithuba elihle lokufunda, kodwa inokuziva njengesohlwayo kubantwana abangakhange bakhethe ngokukhululekileyo ukudlala lo mdlalo.
Umdlalo oqondisiweyo
Ukudlala ngokuthe ngqo kukwayindlela elungileyo yokudlala yabantwana, ukuba nje banethuba lokufumana ixesha lokudlala simahla.. Ukudlala kuyimfuneko ekukhuleni kwabantwana. Kumdlalo odlalwayo, abantwana banethuba lokufunda ukuhlonipha imigaqo, ukulandela ulwakhiwo olukhokelweyo ukufikelela esiphelweni. Apho kukho imigaqo ukuze bonke abadlali babe nokulingana ngaphambi komdlalo kwaye bonwabele. Kodwa kumdlalo odlalwayo, imigaqo ayinakuhlala itshintshiwe kwaye kule meko, abantwana kufuneka bazive bekhululekile ukukhetha ukudlala okanye ukungadlali.
Ukudlala nokuzonwabisa kufuneka ukhethe umdlalo ngokukhululekileyo, nokuba ngumdlalo ojolise kuwo. Imidlalo ihlala inesakhiwo esinemithetho. Imigaqo yomdlalo kufuneka ihlonitshwe kwaye kubalulekile ukufumana ulungelelwaniso kunye nemvisiswano phakathi kwabadlali ukuba imigaqo ihlonitshwa ngabo bonke. Imithetho yimiba yengqondo ehlala ifuna umzamo wokuyithathela ingqalelo kunye nokusebenza komdlalo.
Njengoko ubona, ukudlala kubaluleke kakhulu ekukhuleni komntwana, kodwa kubalulekile ukwahlula phakathi kokudlala ngokukhululekileyo, ukudlala ngokuyaleleyo naxa umntu omdala edlala nomntwana ekudlaleni kwasimahla. Abancinci kufuneka bazive bekhululekile ukuveza izimvo zabo, baziqonde bona kunye nabanye ngokunjalo.. Ukonwaba kungabonakaliswa ngokudlala, abancinci bazakuchaza inkululeko yabo kwaye babonise ukuba banjani kwaye bangafunda izinto ezintle kokubini kumdlalo ngamnye nakwimidlalo yentlalo.