Ukuba ukwishumi elivisayo okanye usaqala ukufikisa, mhlawumbi ukhe weva igama elithi “ubunyulu” yaye awuqinisekanga ukuba lithetha ukuthini. Nangona "intombi" lidla ngokusetyenziswa xa kubhekiswa kumntu ongekabi nazintlobano zesini, akukho nkcazelo inye necacileyo yokuba kuthetha ukuthini ngesini. Kuninzi lwabakwishumi elivisayo, ubunyulu ngumbandela wobuqu onokuba neentloni ukuthetha ngawo.
Makhe sibone kweli nqaku kutheni le nto yobuntombi ibhideka. Ngale nto, siya kuzama ukucacisa eli gama ukuze umntu okwishumi elivisayo afikelele kwiingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakhe malunga nesi sihloko.
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Buthetha ukuthini ubuntombi?
Ukuchaza ubunyulu kunokubhida. Kubafazi, ubunyulu babuchazwa ngehymen engaguqukiyo. Ihymen ibekwe malunga neemilimitha ezili-13 ngaphakathi kwilungu lobufazi. Nangona kunjalo, asingawo onke amantombazana azalwa enehymen, nto leyo eyenza ukuba le ngcaciso yobunyulu ibe lulahlekisayo. Enye inkcazelo yobuntombi obunyulu yintombazana ebufazi obungekangenwa ngokwesondo. Ingxaki ngale nkcazo kukuba kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokungena.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokufuneka kuchazwe kuqala ngaphambi kokuba kuchazwe ubunyulu.. Umzekelo, umntu usenokucinga ukuba nakuphi na ukungena kwilungu lobufazi kuyafana neentlobano zesini. Abanye abantu banqanda inkcazo yesondo ekungeneni kwelungu lobudoda. Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba iintlobano zesini emlonyeni zona ngokwazo sisini, ngoxa abanye bengavumelani noko. Ezi ngcamango zixhomekeke kwimiba yeemvakalelo kunye neyomzimba. Ngoko ke, umntu ngamnye umele agqibe ukuba buthetha ntoni na ubunyulu kuye.
ubuntombi kunye nolutsha
Olunye ulutsha lusebenzisa igama elithi “intombi enyulu” njengesithuko. Kodwa okuchaseneyo nako kusenokwenzeka. Oko kukuthi, amanye amantombazana asenokuhlekisa ngabahlobo abangatshatanga, ebabiza ngamagama athoba isidima. Ukuphatha abantu kakubi ngokusekelwe kukhetho lwabo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezibuhlungu kakhulu ngenxa yobuntu bolu khetho.
Xa inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ekwishumi elivisayo iqala ukucinga ngokulala ngesondo okokuqala, banokuxoxa ngezinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga kunye nesangqa saso esisondeleyo sabahlobo. Njengoko isisigqibo somntu ngamnye, Enye indlela yokusingatha esi sihloko phakathi kwabahlobo kukuthetha ngamava akho. baze bacaciselane isizathu sokuba bagqibe kwelokuba babe neentlobano zesini, okanye ngokuchaseneyo, bangabi nazo.
Ulutsha, ubuntombi kunye nabazali
Iisayithi ezininzi zicebisa ukubuza abazali ngesondo. Kodwa makhe sivume, kudla ngokuba nzima ukuba okwishumi elivisayo athethe nabazali bakhe ngokuphulukana nobunyulu bakhe. Noko ke, sonke size kweli hlabathi ngenxa yokuba abazali bethu baba neentlobano zesini. Oko ikukuthi Baphinde badlula kwixesha lokuphulukana nobuntombi babo. Ke, phantse ngokuqinisekileyo, nabo babenemibuzo, ukubhideka kunye nomdla malunga nesi sihloko. Ke ngoko, ukubuza abazali kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo kakhulu yokubhenela kuyo. Kuyinyani ukuba ekuqaleni kunokuba yimeko engathandekiyo kakhulu, kodwa xa ixesha lokuqala elingathandekiyo liphelile, kulula ukuthetha malunga nobuntombi kunye nesondo kunye nabo.
Ukuba awuzukwazi Thetha ngesini nabazali bakho, zama ukufumana umntu omdala onokuyiphendula imibuzo yakho aze akuncede ufumane inkcazelo enokuthenjwa ngalo mbandela. Ugqirha wakho, okanye oogqirha kumaziko ocwangciso-ntsapho isenokuba zezona ndawo zilungileyo onokuya kuzo. qala ukufunda ngeengozi kunye nezinye izinto ukuthathela ingqalelo xa usabelana ngesondo okokuqala.
Ngaba kufuneka ndiye ekupheleni?
Isigqibo sokuphulukana nobuntombi bakho sifuna ingcinga eninzi. Izinto ezimbini ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe zezi izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo (STD) kunye nokulawulwa kokuzalwa, oko kukuthi, i indlela yokuthintela inzala Yintoni emayisetyenziswe ukuthintela ukukhulelwa okungafunwayo. Kukho ulwazi oluninzi malunga nee-STD kwaye kubalulekile ukwazi imingcipheko yazo, iintlobo zosulelo olukhoyo kunye neendlela zokuthintela. Ukukhulelwa sisihloko esibaluleke kakhulu ukuba siqwalaselwe kwaye akufanelekanga ukudlalwa ngaso.
Ingcinezelo yoontanga, ukuziphatha, inkolo, kunye nemilinganiselo yakho iya kudlala indima kwisigqibo sakho sokwabelana ngesondo okanye ukungalali. Kodwa kufuneka uhlale ukhumbula ukuba sisigqibo somntu, ngoko qiniseka ukuba wenza le nto ufuna ukuyenza hayi le nto abanye abantu balindele ukuba uyenze. Kuya kufuneka uzive ukhululekile ngokupheleleyo ngesigqibo sakho ngokweemvakalelo nangokomoya ngaphambi kokuba usiphumeze.
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