Ukuncamathela sisimo sengqondo okanye indlela yokuziphatha otyekele kuyo xa usebenzisana nabanye.Ukunxibelelana kwakho kwangethuba nabazali bakho kubumba indlela yakho yokuncamathela ubomi bonke. Kuxhomekeke ekubeni abazali bakho bebesondele kangakanani kwaye bebesabela kangakanani, indlela yakho yokuncamathela ingakhuseleka, ixhala, ingacwangciswanga, iphephe, okanye enye into.
Nangona kunjalo, nokuba isitayile sakho sokuncamathela siyathintelwa, ungatshintshela kwisincamathelisi esikhuselekileyo ngoncedo lweengcali. Oku kuya kwenza ubudlelwane bakho bobuqu, kuyo nayiphi na indawo, buphucuke kakhulu. Ukuba ulwalamano lobuqu luyaphucuka, alithandabuzeki elokuba nayiphi na inkalo yobomi bakho iya kungenelwa kakhulu..
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuncamathela okunqandayo?
Ukuthintela ukuqhotyoshela kuyindlela yokuncamathela eyenziwa ngumntwana xa umzali wakhe ehluleka ukubonisa ukunyamekela okanye ukuphendula ngaphaya kokubonelela ngezinto eziyimfuneko ezifana nokutya kunye nophahla phezu kweentloko zabo. Ngaloo ndlela umntwana akayihoyi imizabalazo yakhe yaye kufuneka agcine uxolo aze agcine abazali bakhe besondele. Njengoko bekhula baqhubeka nokulwa kwaye uzive unexhala okanye ulusizi, kodwa bayigcine kubo kwaye bayakukhanyela ukubaluleka kwezo mvakalelo.
Xa umntwana efuna okanye efuna inkxaso, Abazali abaphephayo banokuzinciphisa okanye bazityeshele iingxaki zabo. Oku kubakhuthaza ukuba baphuhlise isimbo sokuncamathisela sokuphepha. Oku uhlobo loncamathiselo Ihlala ihlala nomntu ukuya ebudaleni, obunokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bothando, ubuhlobo, kunye naluphi na olunye uhlobo lonxibelelwano.
Izizathu zokuthintela ukuncamathisela
Makhe sibone eminye imizekelo Ukuziphatha kwabazali okukhuthaza ukuphuhliswa kolu hlobo lokunamathisela:
- Ukungaphenduli xa usana okanye umntwana ekhala
- Khubaza ukukhala
- Musa ukukhupha iimvakalelo zomntwana kwiingxaki okanye impumelelo yakhe
- Ukungaphumeleli ukujongana neengxaki zonyango okanye iimfuno zesondlo
- Kuphephe ukudibana nomzimba
Abazali banokubonisa ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ukuba basebancinane kakhulu okanye abanamava ekukhuliseni abantwana. Iqhelekile nakubazali abagula ngengqondo. Abantwana banako ukuphuhlisa izitayile zokuzincama ngenxa yokwamkelwa okanye isifo abaphethwe siso. Ezinye izizathu zisenokuba kukuqhawula umtshato kwabazali babo okanye ukusweleka kwabazali babo.
Iimpawu zokunqanda ukuncamathela
Abantu bayo nayiphi na ubudala abaneendlela zokunqanda ukuncamathisela inokubonakalisa iimpawu zokudakumba okanye ukuxhalaba. Kunokwenzeka ukuba abantwana babazali abaphephayo abayazi indlela yokukhupha imfuno yothando okanye ukunyamekela. Aba bantu kunokwenzeka ukuba:
- Kuphephe ukudibana nomzimba
- Kuphephe ukudibana kwamehlo
- Sukucela uncedo, okanye ukuba uyalucela, yiba ngumkhethe.
- Yitya ngokungaqhelekanga okanye ngokungalungelelananga
Njengoko abantwana abathintekayo bekhula, inokubonisa iimpawu kubudlelwane bamva kunye nokuziphatha, njenge:
- Ingxaki yokubonisa okanye ukuva iimvakalelo zakho
- Baziva bengakhululekanga ngenxa yokusondelana ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nokunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni nabanye abantu
- Kubudlelwane bothando, batyhola uyise ngokubambelela kakhulu okanye ukubambelela.
- Balugatya uncedo okanye inkxaso yeemvakalelo evela kwabanye abantu
- Uloyiko lokuba iqabane labo okanye omnye umntu uya kubalimaza xa bevula kakhulu
- Imvakalelo yokuzimela kunye nenkululeko yobuqu ibaluleke ngakumbi kunokunxibelelana nabanye abantu
- Ukungathembi iqabane labo ngamaxesha oxinzelelo, kunye nokungavumeli iqabane labo ukuba lithembele kubo
- Ukubonakala kuzolile kwaye kuqokelelwe kwiimeko eziphazamisekileyo ngokweemvakalelo
Unyango lokuncamathisela okuthintelweyo
Ukuphepha ukuncamathela kunokuthintela abantu ekubeni babe nobudlelwane obunempilo nobanelisayo kunye namaqabane abo, usapho kunye nabahlobo. Kodwa Kuyenzeka ukuba utshintshe isimbo sokuncamathela ngonyango. Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo lusebenza ngokuchonga iipatheni zokucinga eziyingozi kunye nokuziphatha, ukuqonda ukuba kutheni kwaye kwenzeka nini. Kuyenzeka ukulahla ezi ndlela zokucinga eziyingozi kunye nokuziphatha ngokudlala indima, ukusombulula iingxaki, kunye nokuphuhlisa ukuzithemba.
Ukuthintela ukuncamathela, unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo lunokujongana neengcinga kunye neenkolelo zokuphepha, kwaye lusebenze ukwakha iipatheni zokucinga khusela okuqhotyoshelweyo endaweni yoko. Ukufumana i-therapist efanelekileyo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yonyango. Isigulana kufuneka sizive sikhululekile kugqirha waso kwaye simthembe. Ngonyango, ukuhambelana ngundoqo, nokuba uvakalelwa kukuba iingcamango zakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakho kuphuculwe ngokukhawuleza.