Uthando olungagungqiyo yenye yezona zinto zidume kakhulu ngalo mzuzu, kukho uhlobo lwentsomi olujikelezileyo. Kubonakala ngathi uthando olungenamiqathango, okanye iingcinga ezizezinye zalo, yiyo isebenza kuphela, kwaye zonke ezinye zinxaxhile kule modeli efanelekileyo.
Ngokwesiko Uthando lukaMama, kokubini ukusuka kunyana kuye kumama, kunye nolo lukamama ebantwaneni bakhe, luthathwe njengolungenamiqathango kwaye ubeke njengomzekelo. Kungenxa yoko le nto sifuna ukucacisa ukuba olu luvo luqulathe ntoni, ngokwengqondo.
Ingqondo kunye nenkcazo yothando olungenamiqathango
Uthando olungenamiqathango, kwingcinga yalo, yile indlela yothando eyenziwa ngaphandle kweemeko. Omabini la maqela ayayisebenzisa ngaphandle kwesibonelelo sekhonkrithi, ngaphaya kwamava othando ngokwalo. Ukuba sihleli kuphela kule nkcazo, le ndlela yothando, kuba ayiphindiswanga, kwaye ayiceliwe kuthando olungenamiqathango, ithambekele ekuveliseni ukubandezeleka.
Sinokuchaza uthando olungenamiqathango njenge imvakalelo kunye nesenzo sokufuna ukulungelwa komnye umntu kwaye ngaphezu kwazo zonke izinto. Nokuba zithini na iziphumo. Olu thando lukwachazwa ngumgaqo wesiGrike we-agape.
Kodwa ngaphaya kwentsomi kunye ithiyori kufuneka sazi, njengoomama, ukuba uthando lomama kukufundela umsebenzi. Yiyo ukuziqhelanisa rhoqo kwaye singalujonga njengothando lokwenene, nangona oku kufuneka siqwalasele kwaye siphinde senze ezinye izimvo ngothando.
Isikhokelo kunye nemibono malunga nothando olungenamiqathango
Uthando malungenamiqathango, ukuba sifuna ukuyibiza njalo oko akuthethi ukuba luthando oluyimfama. Yiprojekthi yexesha elide ke luthando ngamehlo avulekileyo. Ngale ndlela, imeko yokungenamiqathango ithetha ukuba isenzo Ngaphezulu kokuziva. Ukufuna ukulungelwa kothandekayo, kule meko ngunyana okanye intombi yethu. kukuba siqhuba uthotho lwezenzo. Ezi zenzo zinokuba neziphumo ezilungileyo okanye ezimbi, kodwa imvelaphi yazo luthando.
iliso! kuba phantsi kwelebheli yothando olungenamiqathango unokufihla a ukhuselo nolawulo lwamandla enjalo ngabantwana ukuba iba nguzwilakhe omncinci. Ootata noomama babakhathalele abantwana babo nokuba bayayithanda na okanye hayi.
Ngamanye amaxesha phantsi kothando olungenamiqathango bayazifihla iimeko zengqondo nezolwalamano ezinokuthi kwiimeko ezininzi zibe yingozi. Ukwazi ukuba ungakufumana njani ukulingana phakathi kokukhathalela umntu omthandayo kunye nokugcina ingqibelelo yakho kubalulekile ekugcineni intlalontle yosapho, kunye nobudlelwane phakathi komzali nomntwana. Sifuna ukucebisa iklasikhi ngale ndlela, incwadi ethi The Art of Loving nguErich Fromm.
Uthando lukamama, uthando olungenamiqathango
Sikunike igama lokuba yincwadi kaFromm Ubugcisa bokuthanda, kuba kuye uphatha uthando lobuzali, njengothando olungenamiqathango ngohlobo lwalo. Isithandi sobulumko sithi oko Oomama bathanda iintsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa ngokuba ngabantwana babo, hayi kuba usana luhlangabezana nayo nayiphi na imfuno ethile, okanye luhlangabezana nokulindelwe okuthile. Umbhali ucacisa ukuba ubhekisa kuthando lohlobo olufanelekileyo, oko akuthethi ukuba bonke oomama bathanda ngale ndlela.
Ukusuka kwicala lomntwana, uthando olungenamiqathango ngu ukulangazelela nzulu nawuphina umntu. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze naluphi na uhlobo lokufanelekela uthando lwabazali. Nangona kunjalo, oku kungumnqweno, kuba abantwana abaninzi kunye nolutsha olufikisayo luziva lungakhuselekanga malunga nokunyaniseka kothando lukamama. Banoloyiko lokuba olu thando luyakuphela ukuba ulindelo lwabo aluzalisekiswa.
UFromm uthi yile nto ke sincamathele kuyo uthando lukamama, kokubini ebuntwaneni nasebudaleni. Uthando lukaMama luvelisa imvakalelo yolonwabo kunye nokungabikho kwayo uziva uphelelwe lithemba kwaye ulahliwe. Umama uyabathanda abantwana bakhe ingekuba balungile okanye bayathobela, kananjalo kuba behlangabezana nokulindelweyo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bengabantwana bakhe.