Ootata okanye oomama banothotho lwezibophelelo ezifana amandla kunye nenkathalo kubantwana bethu. Alukho uvavanyo olusebenzayo kunoko izithande ukwenza yonke into ngokuzinikela ngokupheleleyo kwaye kukho abazali abaninzi abazi kakuhle ukuba zinjani na izibophelelo zethu.
Kodwa phakathi kwezi zibophelelo kukho uthotho lweenqobo ezingekamiselwa kwaye zisebenza njengowona msebenzi uphambili imfundo kunye nokukhuliswa okusemgangathweni. Ukuba awuyazi ukuba ingaba yintoni na, apha sikuxelela ezona zibalulekileyo ukuze ufezekise okona kulungileyo kubo.
Ukubonisa uthando olungenamiqathango kusisiseko sayo yonke into
Abazali bafanele banikele oko uthando olungenamiqathango kwaye kufuneka kube njalo ifunyenwe kwaye inobulungisa. Umntwana oziva ethandwa yaye ehlonelwa uvakalelwa kukuba nayiphi na imithetho elandelwayo ekhaya iyingenelo kuye. Abantwana kufuneka bakhule benothando, intlonipho kunye novuyo abathandwa ngalo.
I-Spanish Civil Code ibandakanya isihloko VII - "Kubudlelwane bomzali nomntwana" apho izibophelelo zikayise kumntwana wakhe zichazwe ngokucacileyo:
Abantwana abangakhululekanga baphantsi kwamandla abazali. Igunya labazali liya kuhlala lisetyenziselwa inzuzo yabantwana, ngokuhambelana nobuntu babo, kunye nentlonipho yokunyaniseka kwabo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Eli gunya libandakanya le misebenzi kunye namagunya alandelayo:
1. Bajonge, bagcine kwindawo yakho, bondle, bafundise kwaye ubanike uqeqesho olubanzi.
2. Bamele kwaye balawule ii-asethi zabo.
Ukuba abantwana banengqondo eyaneleyo, bafanele basoloko beviwa ngaphambi kokuba benze izigqibo ezibachaphazelayo.
Abazali basenokuthi, ekusebenziseni amandla abo, bafune uncedo kwigunya.
Ngokufanayo abantwana mabathobele ngoxa bephantsi kwegunya labazali kwaye begcina imbeko.
Nika ikhaya elikhuselekileyo
Abantwana bafanele khulela phantsi kwekhaya elikhuselekileyo kwaye usempilweni. Abantwana bamele babe kunye nabazali babo yaye ukuze benze oko kufuneka babe nedilesi efanayo. Awungekhe uphoswe bubukho kunye nento ebaluleke njenge inkampani yeemvakalelo kunye nobukrelekrele, into abaya kuyixabisa ubomi babo bonke.
Umgangatho wokusingqongileyo Kufuneka kube yinto ekhululekile kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukukwazi ukukhula ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lomqobo kwaye ukwazi ukufumana ukutya okuchanekileyo. Koku kufuneka songeze ngokuhlonipha izinto ezixhalabisa umntwana wakho, imfihlo yakhe kunye nexesha lakhe.
Banyamekele kwaye ubakhusele
Ngolunye uxanduva olukhulu. Abantwana Kuya kufuneka benze iintaba ezininzi ukuze bafunde ukuba ubomi bunokunikela ngantoni yaye abazali baya kubakho ukubanceda. Ayikokukhuselwa ngokugqithisileyo, kodwa balungiselele nayiphi na ingozi kwaye bayazi indlela yokujongana nemiceli mngeni emikhulu.
Yomeleza ukuzithemba kwaye unike ezona milinganiselo zisemgangathweni
Ukususela oko baqala ukuba nengqiqo banako cazulula yonke into ebangqongileyo kunye nendlela yokwenza ngayo. Bamele baxabise ezona zinto zisisiseko ebomini ngoku bazithande. Ngalo mceli mngeni kunye nokunye okuninzi ungakomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho, iya kuba sesona sipho sihle kubomi bakho bonke. Ukongeza kuyo yonke le nto, unako yomeleza ngexabiso elingcono, okoko nje zikhula zisuka ngaphakathi ezihloniphekileyo zomntu ngamnye.
Lumkela uqeqesho
Kweli nqanaba sabelana ngokuhlalisana kwaye ngenxa yoku kufuneka senze ukubonelela ngothotho lwemithetho. Apha kufuneka ube nesiyalo kwaye ukuba akunjalo siyazaliseka ingqumbo nesohlwayo siya kuza. Bejongene nayo yonke le miceli mngeni apha, abazali banokwenza izikrelemnqa, kodwa imigaqo mayilawulwe ukuze abantwana bazi indlela yokujongana nayo kwaye bazilawule.
Ukuze ukwazi ukuba ngumzali ngentlonipho, kufuneka ube ngutata okanye umama olungileyo, akukho nto ibhetele kunokumisela umzekelo obalaseleyo kumntwana okhuliswe ngokufana nathi. Ukhuseleko lwethu lukwayenye yezitshixo komnye woxanduva lwethu, rhoqo ebonisa uncedo nokhuseleko lwethu.