Uzwela luyikhono okufanele lifundwe kaningi. Kufanele ifundwe ebuntwaneni futhi ngabantu abadala abaphethe ukuyidlulisela ezinganeni usuku nosuku. Izingane zikhula zikholelwa ukuthi umhlaba uzungeza zona. Ngakho-ke ngokushesha lapho ubasiza baqonde ukuthi wonke umuntu unemizwa nemizwa, mancane amathuba okuthi baziphathe ngezindlela ezingalimaza abanye. Kepha uyithola kanjani?
Qokomisa izenzo zomusa
Ngokuvamile, kungcono ukuthola amathuba emvelo okufundisa ukuzwelana kunokuba ubaphoqe. Njalo lapho ingane yakho ikhombisa inhlonipho kothile, kufanele uqinise lokhu kuthambekela ngokulandisa okulula, ngokwesibonelo, uma ubona ingane yakho yasenkulisa imboza ingane elele noma unodoli ngengubo, yazise ukuthi lesi isenzo somusa sisho into efana nale : 'Kube mnandi kakhulu ukummboza ukuze angabandi.'
Umbuzo, ungachazi
Awukwazi ukuchazela ingane encane uzwela, kepha ungaqala ukwazi ukuthi bacabanga kanjani ngemizwa yabanye abantu. Izingane ezincane ngeke ziqonde izincazelo ezinhle kepha uma uzibuza ungakhuphula izinga lazo lokuqonda. Isibonelo, uma ingane yakho ingamvumeli umngani wakhe ukuthi adlale ngezilwane zakhe ezifakiwe, mbuze: 'Ucabanga ukuthi uzizwa kanjani uma ungamniki izinto zakho zokudlala?'
Msize aqonde ukukhuluma komzimba
Ukukwazi ukutolika ukushukuma komzimba nokubukeka kobuso kungenye yezindlela eziyisisekelo zokuthuthukisa uzwela. Udinga ukufundisa izingane zakho ukuqonda ulimi lomzimba lwabanye abantu. Ingane yakho ingahle ingakuqondi ekuqaleni, kepha lapho ikuqonda, izobheka ukuphendula kwabanye abantu futhi izokwazi ukubona ukuthi ukuziphatha kwayo kungabathinta kanjani abanye.
Kuhle kakhulu !!