Indlela esikhuluma ngayo nezingane zethu nendlela esisebenzisana ngayo nazo kunomthelela ekukhuleni kwazo, ukuzethemba kwazo, ukuzethemba kwazo kanye nendlela ezihlobana ngayo nabanye. Dlulisa uthando, ukwethembana nokuvikeleka Kubaluleke kakhulu kokubili ngamazwi nangezenzo. Futhi yingakho besifuna ukuqoqa le misho emifushane yothando eyi-10 endodaneni ezothanda ukuyizwa.
Uzobatshela kanjani?
Ngokuya ngeminyaka yezingane zakho, ungazithumela le mishwana ngezindlela eziningi ezahlukene. Okuyinhloko kufanele kube igama, ngaso sonke isikhathi kudinga ukunakwa kwabo ngaphambili nokubheka emehlweni abo ukuze bangagcini nje ngokuthola amazwi akho kodwa futhi nokushukuma komzimba nokukhuluma kwakho, ukuze kube umzuzu oseduze kini nobabili.
Njengoba bekhula ungase futhi bhala le misho inothi futhi bayibeke etafuleni labo noma esikhwameni sabo ukuze bakwazi ukuyifunda ngesikhathi esifanele. Futhi yebo, ungalahli ukukwenzela Amanethiwekhi omphakathi futhi WhatsApp ebusheni bakhe, yebo, njalo ngasese.
Ziningi izindlela zokuthola le miyalezo yothando kubo, kodwa khumbula ukuthi ngeke zisize uma zihlala zingamazwi nje. Izenzo zakho kufanele ziqinise umlayezo Yini ofuna ukuyidlulisela kubo? Ngaphandle kwalokho bayofunda ukuthi amagama angamagama nje futhi awasho lutho.
Imishwana
Ama-strawberries esiwakhethile yimisho emifushane yothando, yebo, kodwa futhi nemishwana esiza ukuqinisa ukuzethemba kwengane, ukuzethemba kwayo noma umbono wokuthi sikhona kubo, ukubasiza kunoma yini abayidingayo. Kunemiyalezo umama angakhathali ukuyisho nengane ayikhathali ukuyizwa.
- Ngiyakuthanda. Iqiniso elilula? Kubalulekile ukumtshela nsuku zonke ukuthi uyamthanda; kukwenza uzizwe uthandwa. Kwenze ngezikhathi ngaphandle komsindo, ngaphandle kweziphazamiso, izikhathi ezithule.
- Ngiyakwethemba. Le nkulumo iqinisa ukuzethemba kwezingane futhi ibeka izisekelo eziqinile zokubhekana nanoma iyiphi inselele ngokuzethemba emakhonweni azo.
- unami lapha ukuze ngikusize. asiyilungise ndawonye. Ukugxila esixazululweni esikhundleni senkinga kuhlale kuyisu elihle. Izingane kufanele zifunde ukuthi kukhona iziphazamiso ezingenakugwema, kodwa ukuthi ezimweni eziningi ikhambi lingatholakala ngokuzola.
- Ngiyakuvikela futhi ngizokuvikela njalo. Ubani ongathandi ukuzizwa evikelekile futhi enakekelwa? Ukwazi ukuthi ungaphendukela kithi lapho udinga ukuzizwa uvikelekile noma ududuzekile kubalulekile. Cishe usuvele uzizwa ngaleyo ndlela, kodwa kubalulekile ukukuzwa ngezikhathi ezithile, ikakhulukazi ngemva kwenkinga.
- Uyohlala unekhaya lapho ngikhona. Umqondo uyafana nowangaphambili, wokubazisa ukuthi kunendawo lapho beyohlale bezizwa bethandwa futhi besekelwe futhi lapho bengacela khona usizo ngaso sonke isikhathi.
- Isikhathi esisichithe ndawonye sesiphelile (kuyamangalisa, kuyahlekisa, kuhle…) futhi kubaluleke kakhulu kimi. Akukho ukubonakaliswa kothando okukhulu kunokunikeza ukubaluleka kwesikhathi esihlanganyelayo futhi esinikela komunye nomunye.
- Ngiyakuthanda ukuba nawe, ngiyajabula ukuba nawe eduze. Umlayezo ofana nowangaphambilini wokuveza indlela othanda ngayo ukuba naye, ngisho noma ungenzi lutho olukhethekile. Ukwaneliseka ebudlelwaneni obuseduze nabazali.
- Ngiwazisa kakhulu umzamo wakho nomzamo owenzayo.. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela nokwazisa usizo lwabanye noma isifiso abasifaka kuphrojekthi ethile. Kuwukuqiniswa okuhle, uphawu lokuziqhenya.
- Ngiyaxolisa, ngicela uxolo. Sonke siphelelwa isineke ngezikhathi ezithile futhi sisho izinto esingaqondile futhi kubalulekile ukukuvuma lokhu futhi sixolise ngakho. Uma izingane zizwa zidabukile ngento esiyishilo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi singayicela kanjani intethelelo futhi sichaze ukuthi kungani sicabanga ukuthi sikwenzile (ngoba sasinovalo, sikhungathekile...)
- Ungalokothi ufihle lokho oyikho futhi uzizwaNgizohlala ngikhona ukuze ngikweseke.
Ingabe uvame ukusho le mishwana ezinganeni zakho? Namuhla imishwana eminingi yothando enganeni kodwa ibonakala ilula, icacile futhi inamandla kakhulu.