Kuvamile ukuthi izingane zibuze imibuzo ngendawo ezikuyo, futhi izindaba zokuzala bezingeke zibe ncane. Ngalo mqondo, eminye imibuzo ingaba amahloni kubazali babo noma abanakekeli. Lapho ingane ibuza ukuthi izingane zivelaphi, kufanele sihlale sizolile futhi siphendule ngokwemvelo, ngaphandle kokushaya ehlathini futhi ngaphandle kokuqamba amanga.
Ukuqeqeshelwa ucansi kuyingxenye yemfundo yengane futhi kufanele siyinikeze izincazelo ezifanele, njalo ivumelane neminyaka yayo. Ngakho uma ufuna ukwazi indlela yokuchazela ingane ukuthi izingane zivelaphi, bese sikunikeza uchungechunge lwezinkombandlela ukuze ukwenze ngendlela efanele.
Yiba ngokwemvelo
Lapho ingane yakho noma ingane endaweni yangakini ikubuza ukuthi zivelaphi izingane, into yokuqala okufanele uyenze qhubeka uzolile futhi ungasabela ngemizwa noma ukungabaza. Uyaqonda ukuthi lo mbuzo usemthethweni ngokuphelele njengoba ukuzala kuyinto izingane ezigcina ziyibona ngendawo ezikuyo.
Khohlwa ama-taboos, lokho kuzodala kuphela ibanga ekuxhumaneni. Ingane izobona ukuthi kuyindaba engavunyelwe, ngakho esikhathini esizayo ngeke iphinde ibuze imibuzo futhi izoba nomuzwa wokuthi wayengenakuthembela kubazali bakhe ukuxazulula lokhu kungabaza. Lokhu kuzophawula inkinga engathi sína kakhulu ebudlelwaneni babazali obudlula ukwakheka kwayo mayelana nokuzala kanye nobulili. Futhi asifuni lokhu kwenzeke. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi indlela yokuchazela ingane ukuthi izingane zivelaphi njengoba kuzoba yinguquko ekuthuthukisweni kwayo.
Ungaqambi amanga, khuluma iqiniso
Akumele uqambele izingane amanga, kufanele banikeze izincazelo ezihambisana neminyaka yabo futhi yilapho inselelo yokuphendula ngokwanele umbuzo onjengalona.
Abantu abadala kufanele baqaphele ukuthi ukuqamba amanga kuyisixazululo senkinga yabo yokuzibona bengakwazi ukuphendula umbuzo, kunokuba kuyindlela yokunquma lapho bebhekene nesidingo sengane. Futhi izingane azikufanele lokho, Bafanele ukwazi iqiniso.
Ngakho sizogwema:
- bala i indaba kanogolantethe. Lokho kuzodala ukudideka okwengeziwe ngoba ingane ingase ibuze, isibonelo, “unogolantethe wamthathaphi lowo mntwana?” futhi amanga awo aholela kwelinye futhi siyazi ukuthi "amanga anemilenze emifushane kakhulu". Ukugwema ubumsulwa bengane ngale ndlela, ngaphezu kokungabi nabulungiswa, akuyona i-pedagogical.
- Ngokuhambisana nemigqa efanayo, akufanelekile ukusho ukuthi izingane ziqoqwa ku udoti noma emnyango wesonto.
- Futhi-ke gwema ukusho lokho zingane vela emaqabungeni yini baphume bamlandele inkinobho yesisu kanina.
Izincazelo ezifana nalezi:
- “Ubaba unembewu encane ayifake kumama bese kwakheka ingane ezokhula esibelethweni sikamama izinyanga eziyisi-9. Bese iphuma kumama ngembotshana eyisithweni sangasese.”
Vumelanisa incazelo ihambisane neminyaka yengane
Kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa inkulumo evumelana nezinga lokuqonda kwengane ngokweminyaka yayo.
Izingane ezincane, Iminyaka emi-3 noma emi-4, bazi kahle ukuthi izingane zikhula esiswini sikanina kuthi uma sezinezinyanga eziyisi-9 ziphume kuso. Kungase kusize ukubabonisa izithombe zombungu esibelethweni sikanina. Abanye bayabuza ukuthi ingane ingene kanjani kunina. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, sizoqhubeka nokukuchazela, kodwa njalo ngendlela eyisisekelo ukuze ukuqonde.
Kunalokho, izingane phakathi Iminyaka ye-7 ne-8Bafuna izincazelo ezinemininingwane futhi bazofuna ukwazi ngokubandakanyeka kwabesilisa nabesifazane ekuzaleni. Ungasebenzisa imidwebo emele izinhlelo zokuzala zabesilisa nabesifazane, kanye ukusekela ezindabeni nakumadokhumentari lokho kukusiza ukuchaza ukukhiqiza ngendlela elula.
Amaphuzu okumele acace
- Ukuzala kuyisenzo esenziwa phakathi kowesifazane nowesilisa. ngemvume yabo bobabili.
- ukuzala, owesifazane nendoda kumelwe “babe badala”, ngeminyaka yokuvuthwa. Ngamanye amazwi, kumele kucace ukuthi akusiyo into engenziwa izingane futhi kulokhu kumele zikhule zibe ngabantu abadala.
- ukuba nengane umama nobaba kumele bathandane kakhulu.
- Izingane zingatholwa kuphela amadoda nabesifazane abangahlobene, okungukuthi, angeke babe phakathi kwabafowabo noma abazala, omalume, njll. nakuba bethandana kakhulu. Ukucacisa izindaba ezinjengokulala kwezihlobo kusenesikhathi kufaneleka ngokuphelele ngoba izingane zingase zikholelwe ukuthi uthando luwukuphela kwesimo sokuba nomntwana.