Akulula ukudlula esimweni lapho indodana yakho ilaliswe esibhedlela futhi kuncane kuye lapho bengabantwana abangahlaliseki, befuna ukuphila futhi kufanele badlule ekunakekelweni okwedlulele kakhulu. Futhi, lezi yizikhathi lapho imizila yephuliwe malini lapho uzochitha isikhathi eside usesibhedlela. Yingakho kufanele sibheke ukuqeqeshwa namasu okukuthwala ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
Ngaphambi kwakho konke umfana noma intombazane kumele gqoka ngaso sonke isikhathi, njengoba uzozizwa wesaba futhi ungenamandla okusiza. Kumele uzwe uthando, ukuvikelwa futhi ungakunaki ukunethezeka kwakho nokuthi waziswe ngesimo sakho ekuhumushela eminyakeni yakho.
Ngingayisiza kanjani ingane yami esesibhedlela?
Ukunaka kwakhe kuzoholela kochwepheshe abaningi ukuthi basebenzise izifo ezinye izingane okufanele zizithathe ezibhedlela. Kufanele uhambisane nanoma yisiphi isiphakamiso ochwepheshe abangakunika sona bese usisebenzisa impilo yengqondo yengane.
Kukhona lokho vumela izingane ziveze ukwesaba nokwesaba kwazo, uma bedinga ukukhala kufanele ubayeke bakuveze. Kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke ukukhathazeka kwakhe okukhulu kumele kuhlanganiswe nge ukuphazamiseka futhi lokho kwenziwa ngemidlalo. Mmeme ukuthi adlale nganoma yini angayenza esezandleni zakhe: imidlalo emincane yokwakha, ukudweba ngopende abasha, amaphazili, amathoyizi ezenzo ezincane, njll.
Ukufunda kungaba mnandi futhi futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo esinenzuzo, ungakhetha phakathi kwezincwadi zeminyaka yakhe, omagazini noma umfundele izindaba. Ukuba nethelevishini egumbini kuzophinda kukuphazamise ngombukiso oyintandokazi, idokhumentari, noma uchungechunge.
Ukuze ukwazi ukubuyisana kakhulu nosizi futhi ube nokubekezela okukhulu, ungakwazi dala isheduli yansuku zonke yemisebenzi. Ngale ndlela ungahlela yonke imisebenzi yosuku ukuze ube nokuvikeleka okwengeziwe lapho wenza izinto futhi ngaleyo ndlela ingane izoba nenkambiso.
Ukwakha lolu hlobo lwenqubo kulula ukucabanga ukuthi sizosebenzisa isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka nengane egumbini futhi kuyadingeka ukuhlela izikhathi ezimbalwa eziba mnandi futhi zibekezeleleke. Kuyinto evamile ngisho ube nendawo yokulala eduze kombhede wengane, njengoba kuzoba yilokho okudingayo kakhulu ebusuku.
Ungakwazi yenza izipho ezintsha nezipho zezinsuku ezimbi kakhulu futhi uphakamise umoya wakho, kepha ngokuqinisekile ezinye izinto noma amathoyizi alinde ekhaya futhi angayiswa esibhedlela ukwehlisa ukungezwani kuzokududuza kakhulu.
Kubalulekile cela ukubamba iqhaza noma usizo kunoma yikuphi ukwelashwa ukuthi kuzokwenziwa, ngalokhu sizocela ochwepheshe. Sikholwa ukuthi ukucela usizo akufanele kube yinkinga futhi uchwepheshe angahlola isimo.
Kungakujabulisa kakhulu futhi ukuba naye vakashela ilungu lomndeni eliseduze noma umngane, lokho kuzokujabulisa. Ungakhuluma nabo ngisho nocingo noma ubhalele izincwadi noma uthumele imiyalezo. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukungamvumeli angabi naluthando, Kufanele ube eceleni kwakhe futhi umthinte, umphulule, umbambe ngesandla. Uma isibhedlela noma odokotela bekuvumela, ungabuza ukuthi bayakuvumela yini ukuthi uze ukudla okuthandayo.
Abazali kumele bakhombise amandla abo
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bakhombise amandla, veza ukunaka kwakho nemizwa yakho ngendlela enhle. Kunzima ukulandela le modeli yesimo ezimweni lapho ingane ingaba nokugula okubi, kepha ukusiza ingane encane kufanele yeka ukukhala nezinqubo zokukhathazeka ezibuhlungu. Uma ungakwazi ukuyilawula kufanele cela lonke usizo lwengqondo ukuze ungangeni kuleso simo sengqondo sokubola, kepha kunalokho ugcine lokho kokuqina. Ingane ebona abazali abaqinile iyabakhuthaza ukuthi bakwazi ukunqoba inqubo kanye nanoma yikuphi ukungenelela okungcono kakhulu.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukunikeza leso sikhuthazo ezinganeni ezisidinga kakhulu. Uma uke wahlinzwa, abazali yibo kufanele ikugcine lokho kuthula nokuzola futhi silidlulise ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kufanele ube ovumelana nezimo futhi ubavumele babuze, baveze, basule ukwesaba kwabo futhi badlulise ukukhathazeka kwabo. Abazali bangaxhumana futhi nezinye izimo ezifanayo noma ochwepheshe ukuthola ukuthi bangazinqoba kanjani lezi zikhathi ezicindezelayo.