Ukuncelisa ibele kuwuhambo olugcwele izikhathi ezinhle, kodwa futhi lungaletha izithiyo ezingalindelekile. Omama abaningi babhekana nobunzima obuvivinya ukubekezela kwabo nokuqina , futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ubuhlungu buba umngane ohlala njalo. Lokhu kunjalo ngomlingisi waseSpain uMaría Castro, owaziwa ngendima yakhe ku-'La promesa' (The Promise), onqume ukwabelana esidlangalaleni ngesikhathi esinzima abhekene naso ngenkathi encelisa indodakazi yakhe encane, u-Emma.
Njengoba enabalandeli abangaphezu kwesigidi ku-akhawunti yakhe ye-Instagram, uMaría Castro usebenzise izinkundla zakhe zokuxhumana ukucela usizo neseluleko. Lo mlingisi, ongumama wezingane ezintathu, uncelisa u-Emma, oneminyaka emibili nezinyanga ezine ubudala , futhi ubelokhu ezwa ubuhlungu obukhulu isikhathi esithile kangangokuthi uzizwa sengathi "ubona umhlaba wonke." Kunokuba afune ukuyeka ukuncelisa, lo mlingisi ufuna izixazululo zokuqhubeka nalesi sigaba, asibheka njengesenzo sothando nokuzibophezela komunye nomunye.
Isilonda esibuhlungu kakhulu isikhathi ngasinye
Inkinga uMaría Castro ayichazayo inxeba elisengonweni yakhe, ikakhulukazi imbobo ephakathi kwengono kanye ne-areola, ayiqhathanisa nokulunywa yinja. Lokhu kulimala kuvuleke ngenxa yokuncela okunamandla kwengane , njengoba isivele inomhlathi okhule kakhulu. Isimo siye saba sibi kakhulu ehlobo, isikhathi lapho ibele libonakala kakhulu futhi izingane zithambekele kakhulu ekunceliseni okungafanele, okwandisa ukuvama kokuncelisa. Ukuze uqonde kangcono lokhu kulimala, kuyasiza ukwazi ngezinhlobo ezahlukene zezingono kanye nokuncelisa.
Lo mlingisi uchaza ukuthi njalo lapho indodakazi yakhe incelisa, izwa ubuhlungu obukhulu. Ubuhlungu bukhulu kangangokuthi bumenza ajuluke abandayo futhi azizwe enesicanucanu , okuyinto ayichaza ngokuthi "iyakhathaza kakhulu." Naphezu kwalokhu, akafuni ukuyeka ukuncelisa ngoba unomuzwa wokuthi akusona isikhathi esifanele. "Ngifuna ukuyeka lapho sobabili sifuna," esho, ekwenza kucace ukuthi lesi yisinqumo yena nendodakazi yakhe abazosenza ndawonye.
Akusikho okokuqala uMaría Castro ebhekene nenkinga efanayo. Ngendodakazi yakhe ephakathi, u-Olivia, wayesevele ebhekene nesimo esibuhlungu ayengazi ukuthi angasixazulula kanjani , futhi okwagcina kumholele ekubeni ayeke ukuncelisa ibele lapho ekhulelwe indodakazi yakhe yesithathu. Manje, ngo-Emma, unethemba lokuthola ikhambi elizomvumela ukuthi aqhubeke, futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ucele abalandeli bakhe ukuba bangamehluleli futhi baphendule kuphela uma bengasiza.
Amathiphu kanye nezimpendulo
Okuthunyelwe kukaMaría Castro kudale ukwesekwa okukhulu kanye nokugxekwa okuthile, yize imibono eminingi ihlonipha. Esinye sezincomo eziphawuleka kakhulu sivela kumlingisi uCristina Pedroche , ophakamise ukuthi axhumane no-Alba Padró Arocas, uchwepheshe wokuncelisa kanye nochwepheshe wezokukhuluma owaziwa ngezincwadi zakhe kanye nesiqondiso sobungcweti. Abanye abalandeli bamcebisa ukuthi abone udokotela noma aye ngisho nasegumbini eliphuthumayo, njengoba inxeba elivulekile lingaba yindawo yokungena kwamagciwane.
Kuvele nezeluleko ezisebenzayo, njengokusetshenziswa kweziqeshana ezikhethekile ukuvikela indawo, yize uMaría Castro engakaqinisekisi ukuthi usezamile yini noma cha. Lo mlingisi uzwakalise ukubonga kwakhe ngokusekelwa akutholile futhi wagcizelela ukuthi uhlose ukuqhubeka nokuncelisa , inqobo nje uma ethola indlela yokunciphisa ubuhlungu. Okwamanje, indaba yakhe iveze iqiniso elibhekene nonina abaningi ababekezelela ubunzima obufanayo buthule.
Icala likaMaría Castro liphinde lavula kabusha impikiswano mayelana nokuncelisa isikhathi eside . Nakuba abanye bebheka ukuncelisa ingane engaphezu kweminyaka emibili njengento yemvelo nezuzisayo , abanye bakubona kungadingeki. Nokho, lo mlingisi uvikela isinqumo sakhe futhi ucela inhlonipho: "Wonke umuntu wenza lokho akufunayo," esho, ekwenza kucace ukuthi akabahluleli labo abakhetha indlela ehlukile.
Isinqumo esabiwe
KuMaría Castro, ukuncelisa kuyisibopho esikhethekile nendodakazi yakhe, futhi akazimisele ukusiphula ngenxa yenkinga, nakuba ibuhlungu, anethemba lokuthi izoba yesikhashana. Lo mlingisi uchaze ukuthi ukuncelisa u-Emma kuyisinqumo abasenzayo bobabili , nokuthi bazoqeda lesi sigaba kuphela uma bobabili sebekulungele. Okwamanje, ufuna izindlela zokunciphisa ubuhlungu, njengokushintsha izikhundla noma ukuzama amasu ahlukene, yize evuma ukuthi akulula.
Indaba yalo mlingisi ithinte omama abaningi abaye bazibona benalesi simo. Ubuhlungu ngesikhathi sokuncelisa buyinkinga evamile kakhulu kunalokho okubonakala sengathi ikhona , futhi abesifazane abavami ukuthola ukwesekwa okufanele kokuyixazulula. Ukubonakala uMaría Castro akunikeze icala lakhe kungasiza ekulungiseni lezi zinkinga futhi kukhuthaze abanye omama ukuba bafune usizo lochwepheshe ngaphandle kokuzizwa benecala.
Okwamanje, lo mlingisi uyaqhubeka nokwabelana ngempilo yakhe yansuku zonke ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, okubonisa ukuthi ukuba ngumama akuyona into elula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Isibindi sakhe sokukhuluma ngesihloko esingavunyelwe njengobuhlungu bezinqe sinconywe ngabaningi , futhi isicelo sakhe sosizo sibonise ukuthi ngisho nosaziwayo babhekana nezinselele ezifanayo nanoma yimuphi omunye umama. Ukuncelisa, kanye nobuhle nobubi bakho, kusalokhu kuyisihloko esidinga ukunakwa nokuqondakala.
Icala likaMaría Castro liyisikhumbuzo sokuthi ukuncelisa kungaba yinselele, kodwa futhi kube yinto ezuzisa kakhulu. Ngokusekelwa nolwazi olufanele, izinkinga eziningi zinganqotshwa , futhi isinqumo sokuqhubeka noma ukungaqhubeki kufanele sihlonishwe njalo. Lo mlingisi, okwamanje, uyaqhubeka nesinqumo sakhe, enethemba lokuthi ubuhlungu buzophela nokuthi angajabulela ngokugcwele lobu buhlobo nendodakazi yakhe.
