Yize kuncane okwenzekayo, iqiniso ukuthi kusenabantu abacabanga ukuthi umthwalo wokunakekelwa nokukhuliswa kwezinsana ezisanda kuzalwa kanye nezingane ngokujwayelekile kuxhomekeke kumama, yize naye kufanele aphumule futhi asebenze ngokufana ncamashi nobaba . Akukho okunye okuvela eqinisweni, umthwalo wokukhulisa ingane kufanele wehle ngokulingana kubo bobabili ubaba nomama.
Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi umama uma ethatha isinqumo sokuncelisa ingane yakhe okuthile angenza yona kuphela (ngaphandle kokuthi uveza ubisi futhi ubaba angalunika ebhodleleni), okunye (KONKE okunye), angakwenza futhi ubaba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukuthi wenze njalo.
Kungani kubalulekile ukuthi ubaba athathe umthwalo ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abazali benze imisebenzi yabo ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane ngoba ukuphela kwendlela abangakwazi ngayo ukunakekela nokuhlakulela isibopho semilingo nezingane zabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuthi isisindo akufanele sehlele kumama kuphela kusukela lapho kungahle kube nezinkinga nabashadikazi. Kungumsebenzi wababili futhi phakathi kwalaba ababili kufanele wenziwe. Akukhathalekile ukuthi ubaba usebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya yini, ebusuku bobabili umama nobaba kumele baphumule yingakho ukushintshana ngokuba ngumzali kuphumelela kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, noma ngabe kwaziwa ukuthi ukubopha phakathi kukamama nengane kubaluleke kakhulu futhi kuyadingeka ekukhuleni kwengane nokwenza ngcono ubukhona besintu, abazali nabo banendima enkulu abangayidlala. Izingane nazo zidinga ukunakekelwa nokuvikelwa kwabazali bazo. Njengoba besesibelethweni bayabalalela futhi bayazi ukuthi kuseceleni kwabo ... Futhi kufanele kuqhubeke kanjena ngemuva kokuzalwa.
Ubaba uba ngumvikeli wengane
Ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, ungaba ngumvikeli phakathi kwesibopho sakho nengane yakho, kanye nesibopho phakathi kukamama nengane. Phakathi namasonto ayisishiyagalombili okuqala umama nengane banobudlelwano bokufanelana: ingane incike kunina ngokudla, ukunethezeka nempilo engokomzwelo futhi ingane isiza umama ukuba aqonde indima yakhe empilweni (kulezo zikhathi). Abazali abasha basebenza njengesivikelo phakathi kwabo kanye nomhlaba wonke njengoba bekhulisa lesi sibopho ... Futhi nabazali, ukuzibandakanya ekukhuliseni kusukela ngesikhathi sokuzalwa nakho kuzoqinisa isibopho esithintekayo nesingokomzwelo nengane.
Izindlela Ubaba Angazivikela Ngayo I-Bond Yomama Nengane
- Aphendule umnyango lapho bengqongqoza
- Yenza imisebenzi yasendlini ukuze umama anakekele ingane
- Uyazikhulula ngomama ukuze anakekele ingane
- Vala izivakashi ngesizotha uma kungesona isikhathi esihle
- Qonda futhi uqonde izinguquko zehomoni nezemizwelo umama angazithola
- Ugcina ukunakekelwa okuhle ngokomzimba ngenkathi umama esalulama ekubelethweni noma esigabeni sokuhlinzwa
- Uyazi ukuthi angasabelana kanjani nesikhathi nomama nengane
Ubaba udinga ukwakha isibopho sakhe nengane
Abazali abagcini nje ngokubeka 'imbewu encane' kumama bese beziba omunye nomunye. Phambilini, ngenxa yezindima zomphakathi, ubaba washiya ukuze athole imali yokondla umndeni futhi umama nguyena owayenakekela izingane, ukukhuliswa, indlu ... Ngaphandle kokukhokha, kunjalo. Kepha lokhu ngenhlanhla sekungasasebenzi futhi neqhaza lobaba nomama seliguquke kakhulu endabeni yokuba ngumzali neqhaza lasekhaya.
Manje bobabili obaba nomama banendima evundlile lapho bobabili benesisindo esifanayo nomthwalo ofanayo emnothweni nasekusekelweni komndeni, kanye nasekukhuliseni izingane. Kuzoncika emndenini ngamunye ukuthi izindima zisungulwe kahle yini, Kepha ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, izinto kufanele zihanjiswe kahle futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ubaba kufanele futhi anakekele isibopho sakhe nengane.
Abazali futhi kudingeka basungule futhi bahlakulele ubuhlobo babo nezingane zabo.. Lokhu kuqala ngokwamukela nokuthanda ukukhulelwa, ukunakekela umama phakathi nezinyanga eziyi-9 zokukhulelwa, bese ukwamukela nokunakekela bobabili umama nengane. Abazali bangaqhubeka nokuqinisa isibopho sabo nengane kulawo masonto okuqala ngemuva kokuzalwa ngokwenza okulandelayo:
- Sungula izindlela zokunakekela ngokudla, ukugeza, ukushintsha, ukulala, njll.
- Khuluma nengane kaningi ukusiza ngokuthuthuka kolimi. Mhlabeleleleni futhi nimbambe ezingalweni zakhe
- Nikeza ukuthintana ngokomzimba njengokuzamazama, ukudlala, nokusikhipha izinsana
Zonke izingane zinobaba nomama. Ngokuqondene nobaba, ingane ngayinye inabazali ababili: ubaba omzalayo nobaba ongokwengqondo ... Futhi idinga ukuba ngumuntu ofanayo kuyo yonke impilo. Abazali kudingeka baqinisekise ukuthi bayayifeza indima yabo njengobaba, umvikeli kanye nomnakekeli hhayi kuphela phakathi namasonto okuqala okuphila kwengane, kodwa ukuthi kufanele kube njalo kusukela ekuzalweni kuze kube phakade.
Ukuba ngubaba ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane akusho ukuthatha ingane iphile kahle noma lapho ingakhali bese uyinikela kunina lapho sekuzoba nzima. Ukuba ngubaba kusho ukunakekela ingane ngaso sonke isikhathi sikanye nomama, ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomntwana nokugcina engqondweni zonke izibopho ingane ezisho ukufinyelela umndeni. Ukuba ngubaba akusho kuphela ukuthatha izithombe ukuze uzilayishe kuFacebook nokuthi umhlaba wonke ubone ukuthi unjani… Kusho ukulala kancane, ukukhathala ukukhathala nokujabulela umzuzwana ngamunye wowesifazane, ingane yakho kanye nomzuzwana ngamunye odlulayo. … Ngoba leso sikhathi asisoze sabuya futhi sidlula ngokukhulu ukushesha, kangangoba uma ubheka emuva ngeke ukholwe ukuthi ingane yakho ayisenjalo.