Ukukhulelwa ebusheni Kungaba umzuzu ongafanele futhi onomthelela omkhulu kulowo osemusha. Ukuze sikwazi ukuxazulula leli qiniso ngangokunokwenzeka, kufanele sinikeze indodakazi yethu okungcono kakhulu kokusekelwa kwethu.
Yize kubonakala sengathi siphila kwezinye izikhathi ukukhulelwa kwentsha nakulabo abangaphansi kweminyaka eyi-18 ikhulile. Yize isimanga sezindaba sinesisindo esikhulu kufanele uthathe isimo bese uzama ukusiza osemncane ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
Ungabhekana kanjani nokukhulelwa kwentsha?
Kungumzuzu onzima okufanele ubhekane nawo, umuntu okufanele athathe lokhu kukhulelwa kufanele kala esinye sezikhathi zakho ezibalulekile futhi ngalokhu udinga usizo. Ezimweni eziningi zingamaqiniso lapho kuphela owesifazane okhulelwe kufanele acabange, ngoba omunye umuntu obandakanyekile akafuni ukubamba iqhaza emthumeni omkhulu.
Ngokunikwa leli qiniso futhi njengabazali kumele yehlisa umoya, okwenzekile akukwazi ukuguqulwa nokuthi idatha eyengeziwe yenziwa kanjani asikho isidingo sokufuna umuntu onecala, kodwa izixazululo. Akufanele uzisole ngokunganaki komuntu, noma uzibeke icala ngokungabi namandla okulawula udaba.
Akunakwenzeka ukulawula njalo izingane zethu, ngakho-ke, akulona iphutha lokuba nemfundo enganele. Manje yisikhathi sokuhlaziya ukuthi konke ukudluliselwa okuholela kulokhu kukhulelwa kwesikhathi esizayo kungacatshangelwa kanjani futhi ngigcine niqhubekela phambili nginethemba.
Ngalesi sikhathi esinqumayo futhi esingaqinisekile, kuzovela imibuzo eminingi engeke ixazululwe okwamanje. Okubalulekile ukuhlala uzolile, hhayi ukucindezeleka futhi ungalahlekelwa ukulawula kulesi sinqumo esihle.
Abazali kufanele banikeze ukwesekwa okugcwele nokucindezela indodakazi yakhe. Njengoba kuhlale kwenziwa ezinganeni, yisikhathi lapho kufanele udlulise khona lowo muzwa wokuvikelwa. Uzobuye adlule izikhathi zakhe ezimbi kakhulu futhi sekuyisikhathi sokuba nonke nihlale phansi nizibuze ukuthi konke lokhu kumayelana nani.
Uzozizwa enecala ngokwenzekile, kepha manje akusekho ukuhlehla futhi konke okuseza kumele kuhlelwe. Osemusha kumele azame ukudlulisa ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka nokungabaza kwakho. Akakwazi ukubona ngeso lengqondo okungaphezu kwalokho okungenzeka futhi abazali yibona okufanele baqondise okungenzeka kwenzeke.
Kumele kucaciswe ukuthi kunqunywa ikusasa lentsha ekhulelwe. Asazi noma ufuna ukushiya izifundo zakhe futhi abe nesithandwa sakhe, ukuthi ufuna ukuqeda izifundo zakhe noma uzofuna ukungena empilweni yakhe yokusebenza lapho esenengane yakhe. Noma ngabe yiliphi icala kumele licatshangelwe futhi nabazali kumele ukusekela noma yisiphi isinqumo. Okubalulekile ukuthi uhlele impilo yakho, uqhubeke nezifundo zakho futhi uxoxe ngokuthi uzohlala kuphi. Akungabazeki ukuthi kuzoba isikhathi okuzodingeka usithathe ngokungathí sina okukhulu nangokuzibophezela okukhulu.
Ezinye izinhlobo zezinketho ezingatholakala
Ukuba nengane kuyizindaba ze uzwela olukhulu nenjabuloKepha ezimweni ezinjengalezi, kungenzeka ukuthi kufiphazwe. Cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi konke ukukhulelwa kule minyaka yobudala kunquma ukuba nengane yabo, kepha kuhlale kunezinye izindlela ezingaziswa kakhulu ngabaningi.
Phazamisa ukukhulelwa iwela kulezi zinketho. Kuzokwenziwa ngokukhipha isisu nasezikhungweni ezihlanganisiwe zale nhloso. Imiphumela yomphumela onjalo kufanele iphikisane, ngoba ezimweni eziningi kungenzeka ukukhuluma ngobungozi noma imiphumela yomzwelo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunenketho ye- Yinikeze ukutholwa, okuthile okungazukucatshangelwa ezimweni eziningi, kepha kunamacala lapho abulawa khona. Kunqunywa ukuthi kungaphazanyiswa ukukhulelwa, kepha ingane ayifuni ukuthi kamuva ibhekane naleyo ngane. Kungenzeka kuyisihloko esicatshangelwe kahle, ngoba izinhloso zalowo omncane ukuqeda izifundo zakhe futhi bakwazi ukubheka umsebenzi omuhle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kodwa-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi ukhulume nowesifazane osemusha, uphakamise zonke izinketho futhi funa iseluleko esihle kakhulu uma kunesidingo. Kunabantu abaqeqeshiwe abangasiza lezi zingane ukuthola ikhambi elingcono kakhulu, kufaka phakathi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma usonhlalonhle.