Uma ungumzali okhathazekile ngokuxhashazwa, kubalulekile ukuthi uqale wazi ukuthi ziyini izimpawu zokuthi ngabe ingane yakho iyisisulu noma ingumhlaseli. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze wazi ukuthi kufanele wenze kanjani. Ukuqapha nokubheka kubalulekile, ngoba izisulu kaningi azifuni ukubika ukuthi kwenzekani kuzo.
Izisulu eziningi azibazisi abazali bazo noma othisha ngoba zizwa zinamahloni noma zilulazekile ngokuxhashazwa. Ukuqwashisa kubalulekile ngoba izisulu kungenzeka zingasho lutho, zingahle zicabange ukuthi abantu abadala bazobabeka icala lokumangalela noma bazobatshela ukuthi bazixazulule ngoba 'bayizinto zezingane', kodwa cha, Akuzona izinto zezingane. Ezinye izisulu zikholelwa ukuthi ayikho into abantu abadala abangayenza ukuze umhlukumezi ayeke.
Vele, iziqhwaga azitsheli abazali bazo noma othisha ngezenzo zazo ezimbi ... ngeke zisho ukuthi zenza impilo ibe muncu enganeni futhi ziyohlale zikuphika ukuhlanganyela kwazo ezenzweni ezinjalo. Ngokwalesi sizathu, Kubalulekile ukuthi ochwepheshe bezemfundo nabazali balalele.
Izimpawu zokuthi ingane yakho iyisisulu
- Uvela esikoleni nezingubo ezidabukile
- Izimpahla zesikole zilahlekile noma ziphukile
- Kuvela amanxeba noma amagalelo
- Unekhanda noma isisu-noma ezinye izimpawu-
- Awufuni ukuya ngendlela efanayo esikoleni
- Uphupha kabi noma akhale
- Uphelelwa yisithakazelo esikoleni
- Badabukile noma bacindezelekile
- Yiba nemizwa eguqukayo
- Kubonakala sengathi unabangane abambalwa noma akanabo
Izimpawu zokuthi ingane yakho ingumhlaseli
- Inesidingo esinamandla sokubusa nokunciphisa abanye
- Uziqinisa ngamandla nezinsongo zokuthola lokho akufunayo
- Isabisa izingane zakini noma izingane endaweni
- Ibonisa ukuphakama kwangempela noma okucatshangwayo kunezinye izingane
- Imvamisa bayashesha ukuthukuthela, bathukuthele kalula, bathukuthele, futhi babekezelela kancane ukukhungatheka
- Unenkinga yokuhambisana nemithetho kanye nobunzima
- Inokuziphatha okunolaka nokuphikisayo kubantu abadala, kufaka phakathi othisha nabazali
- Inokuziphatha okungahambisani nomphakathi noma ubugebengu (njengokuntshontsha noma ukucekela phansi impahla)
- Ayiniki ukubaluleka kwezinto zesikole
Yini abazali besisulu abangayenza?
Uma wazi noma usola ukuthi ingane yakho iyaxhashazwa kodwa kubonakala sengathi ayazi lutho ngayo esikoleni, kufanele uxhumane nothisha wengane yakho ngqo ngokushesha. Gcina wazi ukuthi inhloso yakho ukuthola ukubambisana kwesikole ukuze kunqandwe ukuxhashazwa ingane yakho ebhekene nakho.
Noma ngabe isimo siyakuthinta ngokomzwelo, kubalulekile ukuthi ucele ukubambisana kwesikole ngaphandle kokwenza umbukiso ongokomzwelo. Noma ngabe ufuna ukuthi labo ababandakanyeka ekuhlukumezeni bajeziswe kanzima, okubaluleke ngaphezu kwesijeziso ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kuyamiswa ngokushesha okukhulu.
Isimo sengqondo nezenzo
- Lalela indodana yakho
- Yiba oqondayo futhi uthathe inkinga ngokungathi sína. Ungathathi ngamawala noma ungathathi ngamawala
- Ungasoli isisulu
- Ikhaya lakho liyisiphephelo, ake lizizwe kamnandi
- Funa uchwepheshe wezengqondo uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho iyayidinga
- Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ikhulume nawe
- Chitha isikhathi nengane yakho, uyinikeze ukwesekwa nokukhuthazeka njalo. Menze azi ukuthi umthanda njalo
Ufundisa amasu okuphepha ezinganeni
- Ukushaya emuva akufanele kube iseluleko.
- Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ihlale kude futhi itshele umuntu omdala noma nini lapho ezwa ukuthi kukhona umuntu ongamlimaza.
- Khuluma ngezindlela eziphephile zokugwema izimo eziyingozi. Ukwenza isibonelo, thola indawo ephephile njengesitolo ukuze uthole indawo yokukhosela uma ushushiswa, hlala uhambisana nabo, ubanikeze inombolo yocingo ukuze bakwazi ukushaya noma nini lapho besaba futhi bacele usizo esimweni sokuxhashazwa.
- Fundisa ingane yakho ukwazisa abantu abadala ngokwenzeka ngempumelelo: ukuthi benzani kuye, ngubani owenzayo, ukuthi wenzeni ukuzama ukuxazulula inkinga, ukuthi yini ayidingayo kumuntu omdala ukuvimba umhlaseli.
- Hlela amasu futhi uzijwayeze nengane yakho ukuze yazi okufanele ikwenze nokuthi yenze njani uma ungekho eduze kwayo.
Sebenzela ukuzethemba okuhle
- Kubalulekile ukufundisa izingane ngobuxhwanguxhwangu neziqhwaga, uzisize zibeke inkinga ngendlela eyiyo futhi zingazithatheli zona uqobo.
- Fundisa ingane yakho ukuhamba emgwaqweni ngokuphepha
- Sebenza nezingane zakho ngamakhono omphakathi noma ubasize ngochwepheshe
- Thola futhi uvuselele amathalente ezingane zakho nezimfanelo zazo ezinhle
- Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba yenze abangane abasha
- Isimo esisha kungaba ithuba elisha
- Nikeza ukusekela nokukhuthaza
- Mkhuthaze ukuthi enze ukuvivinya umzimba ukuze asebenzele impilo yomzwelo nobuhlobo nabanye
Kufanele ukhulume nini neziphathimandla?
Uma ukuqinela kwenzeka esikoleni, khona-ke umthwalo oyinhloko wokufeza le njongo uhlala kubasebenzi besikole. Kubalulekile, kepha, ukuthi abazali besisulu basebenzisane nesikole ukwenza uhlelo okuvunyelwene ngalo ukuxazulula inkinga.
Uma ingane yakho ihlukunyezwa esikoleni, nazi ezinye iziphakamiso zokubika inkinga kubaphathi besikole:
- Ngemuva kokukhuluma nengane yakho, kodwa ngaphambi kokuxhumana nabasebenzi besikole, bhala phansi imininingwane yezimo zokuhlukumeza.
- Qaphela izinsuku namagama ezingane ezibambe iqhaza. Zama ukubona isimo ngomqondo ovulekile bese unquma ukuthi sibucayi kangakanani.
- Ingane yakho ingamelana nokubandakanyeka kwakhe uma isaba ukuziphindiselela kulowo ohluphayo. Uma kunjalo, chazela ingane yakho ukuthi izimo eziningi zokuhlukumeza zidinga ukungenelela kwabantu abadala ukuxazulula inkinga. Mazise kahle ukuthi ubani ozokhuluma nobani.
- Thintana nabasebenzi besikole ukuthola isixazululo nokuqeda ukuxhashazwa.Qale wabelane nothisha inkinga bese nisebenza ngokubambisana ukunquma ukuthi ingalungiswa kanjani inkinga. Uma uthisha engakwazi ukuyixazulula, iya kuthishanhloko wenze isicelo esisemthethweni esibhaliwe sokuqeda ukuxhashazwa.
- Ungaxhumani ngqo nomhlaseli noma umndeni womhlaseli.
- Gcina irekhodi laphakade lezinsuku zezehlakalo zokuhlukumeza kakhulu nezenzo ozenzayo ukusiza ingane yakho ukubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa. Yazisa isikole ngezehlakalo ezenzekayo.
- Ezimweni ezibucayi kakhulu, shintsha ingane yakho isikole - eyithola ngaphambi nangesikhathi sokunakekelwa kwengqondo - uye emaphoyiseni uqashe usizo lommeli.