Omama abaningi bavame ukukhononda ngokungeniswa kwezingane zabo. Ngezinye izikhathi, futhi cishe ungahlosile, sivame ukuqhathanisa isimilo sethu naleso sezingane zethu, noma simangazwa indlela abafowethu ngokwabo abahluke ngayo.
Uma kunokuthile okumele sicacise ngakho impela, yilokho ukwethulwa kwengane akuyona inkinga noma inkinga clínico a tratar. Estamos hablando de un rasgo de personalidad como cualquier otro. Y más aún, en los últimos años se está hablando mucho del «poder de los introvertidos» y de cómo potenciar sus talentos. En «Madres hoy» queremos hablarte de este tema que seguro será de tu interés.
Ukungenisa noma amahloni?
Lesi yisici okufanele sisicacise kwasekuqaleni: isethulo akudingeki sibe namahloni, bese kuthi, amahloni angaholela kusasa enkingeni ethile yokuzivumelanisa nezimo ngenxa yobumpofu bokuziphatha ngokwamakhono ezenhlalo.
Ngakho-ke, nokuchaza bobabili ubukhulu ngokuncane, manje ake sibone umehluko wabo.
Ingane engenisiwe
- Ukungeniswa, njengoba sesibonisile ngaphambili, akuhlobene namahloni. Ngakho-ke, kufanele ubone ukuthi ngokuvamile, kuhlobana kahle. Unabangani futhi ugcina izinkambiso ezifanele zenhlalo.
- Ine- ubuntu obuqinile nobuhlelekile. Bayakwazi abakuthandayo, abangakufuni, bakukhombisa ngokusobala abakuthandayo futhi abanqikazi.
- Izingane ezingenile imvamisa zizolile kakhulu. Banesigqi sabo, esivame ukuba "kancane kancane", isici abazali abaningi abakhala ngaso. (Kuthatha isikhathi eside ukugqoka, ukubopha izicathulo, ukuvuka ...)
- Bayakwazi ukulalela, bayakunakekela.
- Imvamisa bacabanga kakhulu, futhi bayacabanga. Uvame ukubabona "bacwiliswa emhlabeni wabo", kumathoyizi abo, kwimidwebo yabo ...
- Ngokuvamile, bayizingane ezikhuluma kancane. Kodwa-ke, lapho bekwenza, uyabona ukuthi bakhule kahle ngeminyaka yabo. Bakhetha amagama abo kahle futhi baziveze ngendlela efanele, eqotho.
- Abathandi ukuheha ukunakekelwa, ababona labo abanesinyathelo. Basebenza kangcono bodwa kunaseqenjini.
Umfana onamahloni
- Ingane enamahloni ivame ukuba nayo izinkinga zobudlelwano nabanye, kokubili nabantu ongabazi nezinye izingane.
- Unokuqina okuphansi kakhulu, akayena owaziyo ukuthi angakutshela kanjani ngokusobala ukuthi bafunani noma ukuthi kwenzekani. Imvamisa zincike ngandlela thile.
- Bakhombisa ukuzithoba okuthile eqenjini labangane, nasekhaya, kwesinye isikhathi ukhathazeka ngokuthi ukhuluma okuncane kakhulu kuwe noma ukuthi uvulela okuncane kakhulu ngezinto azithandayo.
- Kunezinsuku lapho ubona izinguquko ezithile ezingokomzwelo kuzo. Abangakhali ngalutho noma bakhombise injabulo awazi ukuthi ivelaphi.
- Bajwayele ukugwema izinto eziningi ezigxila kokwesaba nokukhathazeka kuzo. Kunezinsuku lapho angafuni ukuya esikoleni, futhi uzokukhombisa khona izinkinga zesisu, isicanucanu, ukugula… Lezi yizikhathi lapho beze ukuhlukanisa "ukwesaba kwabo umphakathi", lapho amahloni asevele enqamula enkingeni ecacile ekwaziyo ukudala ukukhathazeka okukhulu.
Yazi futhi uhloniphe ingane yakho engenile
Esinye sezici esivame ukudala impikiswano enkulu ezingeni lomndeni umbono ongalungile wokuthi ukungeniswa kwengane kungadala izinkinga zenhlalo noma zomuntu enganeni. Ngakho-ke, kuvamile kulezi imibono engafanele yokugwema:
- I-Introversion iyinkinga yobuntu.
- Ingane eyethuliwe ingane engazi ukuthi ikhulume kanjani.
- Kufanele Siza izingane ezifakiwe ukuba ziphume kalula.
- Qhathanisa izingane zabanye abangane nabethu.
I-Introversion uhlobo lobuntu okufanele silihloniphe
Ubuntu ukwakhiwa kwengqondo okungahlukahluka Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kwakhela ekuvuthweni kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu komuntu siqu. Manje, yize sibhekene nezinguquko ezithile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nasekufundeni komuntu siqu, kunengqikithi ezinzile futhi esingakwazi ukuyiguqula.
Uma indodana yethu ingeniswa, ikhaliphile, uma ithanda ukuhlanya, ayinankathalo noma iyaqikelela, ungakwenzi umgomo wakho ukuyishintsha. Izingane akufanele zibe yizifaniso zabazali bazo. Izingane zethu zehlukile futhi kufanele sikhulise ukuvuthwa kwabo, ukuzimela nenjabulo noma ngabe bayini.
Ungayiqhathanisi nezinye izingane noma nomunye umfowenu noma izihlobo. Noma yikuphi ukuqhathanisa kungahunyushwa yingane ngokugxila kokukhathazeka, noma ukwaliwa.
Thatha futhi wamukele indlela yabo yokuba. Njengomama, kumele sibanikele imihlahlandlela ukuze bazizwe behlanganisiwe, ukuze bakwazi ukuzimela, babe nekhono futhi bajabule ngokuya ngobuntu babo kanye nezici zabo siqu.
Amandla wokungenisa
I-Introversion ingenile. Izincwadi ezinjenge- "The Power of Introverts" zikaSusan Cain, noma i- "The Introvert Leader" kaJennifer B. Kanhweiler, zichaza ukwamukelwa kwamanje kohlobo lobuntu olunganikeza okuningi emphakathini wanamuhla.
Kuze kube kungekudala, umlingiswa owaziwa kakhulu wayehlonishwa kakhulu, lapho lapho angahlanganisa khona leyo phrofayili nempumelelo yezenhlalo nezobuchwepheshe. Kodwa-ke, ngokuhlolwa kobuhlakani obungokomzwelo nama-intelligence amaningi, amandla ngemuva kwawo wonke amaphrofayili wokungenisa atholakele.
Sikumema ukuba uthole yiziphi izindlela okufanele sizilandele ukufundisa izingane zethu, sisebenzise ubuhle bazo obuhambisana nalolu hlobo lobuntu.
Ungawathuthukisa kanjani amakhono akho ezinganeni ezingenisiwe
- Izingane ezingenisiwe zizwela kakhulu futhi ziyasebenza. Hlonipha lezo zikhathi lapho bethanda ukuba bodwa, banikeze izikhathi nezikhala zabo, kepha khuthaza ukuxoxisana nabo. Ungavumeli ukungeniswa kuphenduke ukuhlukaniswa.
- Izingane ezingenisiwe zivame ukuba nobudlelwano bokufunda, noma ukubhala. Ukunikela ngaye kusho, thola ukuthanda okusha njengokugcina incwadi, izincwadi zemidwebo ...
- Kungenzeka ukuthi akayithandi imidlalo, imidlalo yamaqembu, ukuncintisana, amakamu ehlobo. Iyafuna imisebenzi lapho ungathuthukisa khona amakhono akho, njengezigaba zokudweba, amakilasi omculo ...
- Izingane ezifakiwe zinamakhono futhi kufanele zithole ukuthi yini yazo, nokuthi iyiphi indlela yazo. Indima yakho ukuphakamisa, ukuqondisa nokuxhasa. Ungalokothi ubaphoqe ukuba benze into abangayithandi.
- Imvamisa ziyazimela kakhulu, bathanda ukufunda izinto bebodwa. Lokhu, njengomama, kuyasiphoqa ukuthi sigade izenzo zabo ngendlela ecashile, ngaphandle kwengcindezi, siqondise ngokungaqondile nangaphandle kokulawula.
- Xhumana naye nsuku zonke. Ngaphandle kweqiniso lokuthi babonakala bezimele kakhulu, izingane ezi-solvent nokuthi zithanda ikakhulukazi ukuba zodwa, badinga "ukuxhumana" nsuku zonke nathi nangombuthano womphakathi.
- Thola isikhathi usuku ngalunye sokuba nengxoxo "ejulile" nabo. Fika ezingeni labo, wazi ukukhathazeka indodana yakho enakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, ekhombisa ukungafihli ngokuphelele emazwini akhe.
- Prakthiza ukulalela okusebenzayo, konke lokhu kusungula ukuzethemba okwanele lapho uzohlala uzizwa uphephile ukwenza izinto ezinkulu. Finyelela amaphupho akho.
- Ubuntu obungenisiwe buvame ukulahleka ngokudideka. Uma wena noma izingane zakwabo ninobungane kakhulu, uzozizwa enokuzenyeza. Mhloniphe njalo, mayikhanye futhi isungule ukuqiniswa okuhle noma nini lapho ungakwazi.
Vumela ingane yakho ukuthi ithuthukise amakhono ayo ngokwemvelo, lezo ezihlala zikhuthaza ukungena. Kusasa ngokuqinisekile uzoba ngumuntu okwazi ukufeza izinto ezinkulu.