Imikhuhlane iyindlela engokwemvelo yokuthi izingane zikhombise ukukhungatheka kwazo ngento eyenzekayo engabonakali ifanele ukuthi yenzeke. Lapho ingane yakho iphakathi kokudinwa, kulula kakhulu kuwe njengomama ukuthi nawe ungene enkingeni yakho ... kubonakala sengathi lesi simo sezinzwa siyathathelana. Pero akukho okuqhubekayo neqiniso, indodana yakho izama ukukutshela ukuthi yini engalungile Futhi uma ungena enkingeni, kungenxa yokuthi awulaleli konke akudingayo, futhi awumqondisi ukuthi athole ukuthula.
Ukuthukuthela kuyiqiniso ebuntwaneni futhi abazali kufanele bathole indlela yokubhekana nabo ngaphandle kokubangela izingane zabo inkinga engokomzwelo. Kunamasu alula angasiza ukwenza ukuthukuthela kuphele., kepha ngaso sonke isikhathi kusuka ekubambisaneni nenhlonipho maqondana nengane. Izingane ezincane (ezineminyaka ephakathi kwengu-1 nengu-4 ubudala) azikakhuli ngokwanele ukuba zikwazi ukuxhumana nesidingo kumuntu omdala (Ngifuna ithoyizi, ngilambile, ngidinga ukushintshwa kwenabukeni, kukhona okungikhathazayo, njll.) abanalo amakhono olimi okukwenza.
Lapho izingane zingazi ukuthi zingaziveza kanjani izidingo zazo zizizwa zikhungathekile yingakho zijikijela intukuthelo… zibukeka zilwela ukulwa amandla, kepha zifuna nje ukuveza izidingo zazo. Kuyadingeka ukuthi wazi ukuthi ungakugwema kanjani lokhu kuqhuma ngothando nenhlonipho, ukuze ingane yakho izizwe ilalelwa, iqondakala futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, iqondiswa ngokuziphatha okuhle.
Ungazami ukumlawula
Lapho ingane ithukuthele, into yokugcina okufanele uzame ukuyilawula. Umncane wakho akasalawuleki ngoba imizwa isithathe ngokuphelele. Ayikwazi ukwenza izinqumo noma ukwenza izinqumo ngenkathi ukulesi simo esithukuthele. Uzodinga ukulinda ingane yakho encane ukuba yehlise umoya ukuze ukwazi ukukhuluma nayo futhi uthole izixazululo ezinhle kakhulu. Lapho ehlaselwa yintukuthelo, ungamniki lokho akufunayo, kodwa futhi ungamnaki ngokuphelele. Thola indlela yokumthulisa othandweni; Ungamnika isikhala sakhe ngaphandle kokushiya indawo yesigameko, umtshele ukuthi lapho esezolile uzobheka izinketho, umange ukuze umthulise, njll.
Thola ukuthi kwenzekani enganeni yakho
Uma ingane yakho encane ithukuthele kungenxa yokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle futhi udinga ukwazi ukuthi yini ukuze uqondise kangcono isimo. Izingane ngeke zikwazi ukukutshela kahle ukuthi kwenzekani kuzo ngoba zilinganiselwe isilulumagama futhi yingakho kufanele wazi ukuthi kwenzekani kuzo ukuze uzikhulule ekukhungathekeni kwazo. Ungafundisa ingane yakho amagama angukhiye ukuze ikutshele ukuthi kwenzekani kuyo njengokuthi: okuningi, amanzi, ukulala, ukudla, isiphungumang ... ngiyakuqinisekisa ukuthi lapho ingane inamagama alinganiselwe, leli qhinga libaluleke kakhulu.
Ungathola nokuthi yini okungalungile ngokucabanga ngokwenzekayo. Isibonelo, mhlawumbe uthathe uhambo lokuhamba usuku lonke futhi ingane yakho ayinaso isikhathi sokulala? Kungenzeka ukhathele. Noma mhlawumbe esikhundleni sokuzama ukuthola, ungacela ingane yakho ikutshele ukuthi kwenzekani kuyo ukuze ikukhombe.
Ungamthwesi umthwalo
Ukuze ungagxili enganeni ehlukunyezwayo, udinga ukumnikeza eyakhe indawo noma nini lapho eyidinga khona. Kunezingane ezidinga ukweqa ulaka lwazo ukuze zizizwe zingcono, vele wenze isiqiniseko sokuthi ngesikhathi lapho zithukuthele akukho lutho oluzungezile olungazilimaza. Kepha kufanele ube eceleni kwakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha ushiye isikhala sakhe. Zama ukumenza aqonde imizwa yakhe, uvuselele umoya wakhe eceleni kwakho, futhi uphinde uzilawule ngosizo lwakho. Ungangeni emzabalazweni wamandla, khetha izimpi zakho kahle futhi ubeke phambili inhlalakahle engokomzwelo yengane yakho.
Yenza izinto zibe mnandi
Lapho ingane yakho ifuna ukubamba iqhaza kokuthile nawe, ungayithethisi ngoba ayazi ukwenza izinto kahle futhi uzame ukuyisiza ukuba ifunde ngenkathi ukuzijabulisa. Isibonelo, uma usekhishini futhi ingane yakho ifuna ukukusiza kodwa isencane kakhulu, ungayinika iziyalezo ezincane ukuze izizwe ilusizo futhi ijabule ngokwenza izinto nawe, njengokulahla izinto noma ukufaka izithako isitsha.
Thola izinkinga ezingaba khona
Umama (nobaba) angavikela inkinga ngaphambi kokuba yenzeke uma ingatholwa kusenesikhathi. Uma ingane yakho isizoya engxenyeni ethile yesitolo ongafuni ukuthi ihambe yona ngoba izothatha izinto ebingafanele futhi izokhala ngoba awuzukuyithenga, into enhle kakhulu ongakwenza ukuguqula indlela noma ungayi kuleso sitolo uye kwesinye. Noma ngabe kufanele udlule kuleyo ndawo, ungaphambukisa ukunaka kwabo ngokukhuluma ngokunye okuthile noma iphambukisa ukunaka kwakho kwezinye izinto ezingamthakazelisa futhi leso akusona isizathu sokwethuka ... kepha kufanele unikeze umxhwele emazwini akho ukuze azizwe eshukunyiselwa ukunaka lapho umholela khona.
Ungalokothi (ungalokothi!) Sebenzisa ulaka
Kungabi ngokomzimba noma ngamazwi. Ukuhlukumeza ingane, ngaphezu kokuba yicala, akufundisi! Kuzokwenza omncane kuphela azizwe esaba nokuthi bazizwe benomuzwa omubi wokulahlwa ngokomzwelo ngakubazali babo okuzolimaza kakhulu ukukhula kwabo komuntu siqu, kwezenhlalo nakwezemizwa. Uma kwenzeka uzwa isidingo sokumshaya, phuma ekamelweni bese uphefumula isikhathi eside ukuze wehlise umoya. futhi ucabange kabusha ukuthi yini ngempela ofuna ingane yakho ayifunde. Bese ubuyela lapho ingane yakho ikhona futhi ngezwi elinothando nelomusa, kufanele unikeze ukuholwa akudingayo ukuze wazi ukuthi ulindeleni kuye ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Lawa ngamathiphu ongawasebenzisa osukwini lwakho nosuku ukulawula intukuthelo yezingane zakho nokuthi ngale ndlela ungaphila ngokuvumelana okuhle komndeni.