Incazelo yokuqabula icindezela izindebe ngobuso entweni yento. Njengomthetho ojwayelekile, indawo evamise ukuba yisikhumba somunye umuntu, kepha lokhu akudingekile neze. Ngokuvamile kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokuziphatha komphakathi komuntu, ngoba kuyindlela yokuveza imizwa.
Ukuba wusuku lomhlaba wonke lokuqabulana, asikwazi ukukugwema ukukhuluma ngakho konke okungashiwo ngokuqabula. Sikhuluma ngezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokubanga okunganikezwa, kuya ngefomu noma isizathu esizibangela zona. Sizophinda futhi sikhulume ngezinzuzo zayo futhi nokuthi yini engase ibe ngemuva kwazo. Ngemuva kokuqabula, kungaba nezinto eziningi, izisusa ezingezinhle, ukwethembeka noma ukuntuleka kwako, noma izifo uma sigxila endaweni yokubuka yezinto eziphilayo.
Izinhlobo zokuqabula
Kukhona ukuqabulana okuningi njengoba kunabantu emhlabeni, ngamunye ubanikeza ngendlela yabo. Masingakukhohlwa lokho ziyindlela yokuveza imizwa futhi-ke, wonke umuntu unezakhe nendlela yakhe yokuziveza. Kodwa-ke, uma sifuna ukuhlukanisa ukwanga ngandlela thile, singakwenza ngezindlela ezihlukile.
Enye indlela yokuhlukanisa ukwanga ngokuya ngesisusa esibashayelayo:
- Ukuqabula njengokubingelela: Kulesi sigaba bonke labo baqabulo abavela emhlanganweni wezenhlalo okuhlanganisiwe ukubingelela. Ziningi izindlela zokubingelela zale nhloso, phela izwe ngalinye linamasiko nemikhuba yalo futhi bakwenza ngendlela ehlukile. Ngenkathi iseRussia ngokwesibonelo kuyisiko ukuqabula umlomo, lapha sinika ukuqabula okubili esihlathini. Enye indlela yokuqabula njengokubingelela wukuqabula isandla, isenzo esingakhombisa nokuzithoba, ukwethembeka nenhlonipho.
Izilwane ezifuywayo zingafakwa othandweni lobuzalwane. Izibopho ezinamandla kakhulu zisungulwa phakathi kwezingane nezilwane
- Ukuqabula njengokukhonjiswa kothando lobuzalwane: ukwanga izingane zakubo kuvamile, kumnandi futhi kuyadingeka ebuntwaneni bengane ngayinye. Yebo kulungile akukuhle ukuthi uziphoqe ukuba uqabule, kuhle ukuthi leli siko liqiniswe, ukuze isibopho esingokomzwelo phakathi kwabo siqiniswe.
- Ukubanga kobungani: Kungukuqabula okwenziwa ngobumnene nangothando, kuchaza lowo muzwa womuntu okhethekile ohlanganyela izikhathi ezinhle nawe nokuthi ngubani odinga ukukuveza ngandlela thile.
- Ukuqabula kothando nentshisekelo: Yibo ukuqabulana okulangazelelwa yiwo wonke umuntu, ukubonakaliswa kothando esiluzwa kumlingani wethu, inkampani yethu empilweni. Yibo ukuqabula okusishukumisela ngaphakathi nokusisondeza kuleyo njabulo yokukhetha lowo muntu nsuku zonke. Ukwazi ukuthi ungaphila ngaphandle kwakhe noma kunjalo, yibo labo baqabulayo abakwenza ukhethe ubukhona babo. Kungukuqabula okunikeza ukusondelana kwabashadikazi, okudala leso sibopho kwehluke kulokho onakho nabanye abantu.
- Ukubanga kothando lwabazali: abaqotho kakhulu, abamsulwa, labo abavele bavele. Ukuqabula owabelana nezingane zakho kuyigugu, kepha mhlawumbe into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayabelana nabo. Zithande njalo.
- Ukwanga kokukhaphela: Yilezo ezinikezwa ngokuzinikela, lapho zingazizwa, lapho ziqamba amanga. Yizona ezibuhlungu kakhulu, yize zingabonakala zizinhle kakhulu ngaleso sikhathi.
- Ukwanga ngokwenkolo: Kunamasiko amaningi enkolo lapho kuyisiko ukuqabula into. Isibonelo, ngokwesiko lamaSulumane, kuyisiko ukuqabula itshe elimnyama, kanti ngokwesiko lamaKatolika, kuyisiko ukwanga indandatho kaPapa.
Izinzuzo nezingozi zokuqabula
Kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuzwela kwezindebe zethu. Ngenxa yenani elikhulu leziphetho zezinzwa ezidlula kuzo, zisetshenziswa ubuchopho bethu ukubona inani elikhulu lezinto ezishukumisayo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi noma yimuphi oxhumana naye angakha ukusabela.
Imvamisa kunefayela le- ukukhishwa kwe-oxytocin, dopamine, ne-adrenaline, ama-hormone aziwa ngendima yawo ngesikhathi sokubeletha, kanye nokuheha ngokocansi noma uthando lomama. Lokhu kukhishwa kwamahomoni kudala imiphumela ebonakalayo, kuzuzise umzimba wethu. Lawa mahomoni ayizidambisi zemvelo, eziyisisekelo ekuvuleni imithambo yegazi, yingakho nawo enikela ekwehliseni ubuhlungu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kufanele uqaphele inhlanzeko, ngoba ukuxhumana ngomlomo kungaba yindlela yokusabalalisa izifo. Inhlanzeko ibalulekile nezinye izinyathelo zokuqapha lapho kuqabulwa noma kuqabanywa, kUkugwema ukutheleleka ngesikhunta, amagciwane noma amabhaktheriya.
Yini efihliwe ngemuva kokuqabula?
Ngemuva kokuqabulana ungafihla noma yini, kusuka kwesenzo senhlalo, esifana nokubingelela noma isenzo sokuncoma phambi komphathi, njengoba sesishilo. Kodwa futhi ingafihla imizwa yomuntu ngamunye. 
Njengendlela yokubonisa, ukuqabula kungasho izinto eziningi. Ukuqabula okufudumele kungasho ukusekelwa okungenamibandela. Okubandayo ukukhaphela noma ukuvalelisa okumunyu. Lokhoqabula okunothando kungasho ushintsho lwempilo. Uthando olusha oluqala noma olungeke lube khona, kepha olunomlilo nomlingo wesikhashana esihle. Ukuqabula kungabi nalutho futhi kome inhliziyo noma kukugcwalise ngezinyembezi. Kungabuye kugcwale futhi kukugcwalise ngokumomotheka namandla okulwa nazo zonke izimpi ezingaphambili.
Ukuqabula kugcwele izinto, kubalulekile, wabelane ngakho, nabangani bakho, umlingani futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke nomndeni wakho.