Funda ukwabelana

Ukudlala kwengane

Ake sicabange lesi senzakalo esilandelayo: sisogwini lolwandle, nendodakazi yethu eneminyaka engu-2 XNUMX/XNUMX ubudala nebhola, ibhakede namaphini ambalwa.

Kusondela umfana olingana naye onentshisekelo ebholeni lendodakazi yethu. Uthatha isinyathelo sokuyithatha kodwa umnikazi wayo ofanele akazimisele ukuyihlanganyela. Cishe lapho-ke, omunye umuntu omdala oseduze uzothi noma okungenani acabange ukuthi “kufanele ufunde ukwabelana".

Kodwa ingabe siyaqiniseka ukuthi kunjalo? Ngabe kufanele ufunde ukwaba? Ingabe ukuphana kuyafundwa? Ngabe sifuna indodakazi yethu ihlanganyele ngoba siyiphoqelela yona noma ngoba izalelwe ukwenza njalo?

Izingane zethu bangafunda ukwabelana uma sibafundisa ngesibonelo. Futhi singathembela futhi ukuthi lapho isikhathi sifika, bazokwenza ngoba bezwa isifiso. Ngoba ngokwenza njalo, bazokwandisa ubudlelwane nezinye izingane.

Izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka emithathu aziqondi ukuthi kuyini ukwabelana. Abazi ukuthi yini impahla yangasese, abaqondi ukuthi kusho ukuthini “okwakho”. Kubo, konke "kungokwami".

Ukwabelana ngomdlalo

Hhayi ngoba benobugovu, kepha ngoba badlula enkathini yentuthuko yabo ephawulwe yi egocentrism. Umhlaba uyabajikeleza. Ilanga liyaphuma ngoba bavuka, inyanga, ngoba bayalala. Konke "kungokwami", abaqondi ukuthi kungahle kube nokuthile okungekhona okwabo.

Futhi lokhu kuyohlale kunje? Awusoze wabelana ngalutho? Ngabe kufanele senze okuthile ukunqoba lobu bugovu?

Akunasidingo. Lokhu kuzicabangela kuzokuhlula ngokuvuthwa. Kuzoza usuku, oluneminyaka yobudala engama-3 noma engu-4, lapho bezobona khona ukuthi ukwaba izinto zabo nezinye izingane akusho ukuthi balahlekelwe yizo, kepha ukuthi ngale ndlela, amathuba enkampani nokudlala ayandiswa. Ngendlela eyiqiniso, ngaphandle kwanoma yimuphi umuntu omdala othi "kufanele ufunde ukwaba."

Izingane ziphana, kepha zidinga ukuthi sizinike isikhathi, ukuhlonipha isigqi sazo sokuvuthwa.

Ukuphana kweqiniso kungumuzwa ozalwayo, hhayi ukuphoqelelwa kwezemfundo.



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