Imizwelo ingasenza sizizwe sihle futhi sibi ngokuya ngezimo noma ukuthi sizithola kanjani. Imizwelo iyadingeka, ukuze uyiqonde kangcono ihlukaniswa ngemizwa emihle noma emibi. Into esemqoka ukuthi izingane ziqonde ukuthi imizwa iyadingeka futhi yizo ezisitshela ukuthi siqinisile noma asinaphutha ezimweni ezithile.
Lapho ufunda ukubona nokuphatha imizwa yakho, ungathola izixazululo zokuthola ibhalansi yakho engokomzwelo futhi.
Ukubaluleka kokulawulwa ngokomzwelo kubantu
Ukuze ube nokulawula okuhle ngokomzwelo kuyadingeka futhi ukufunda amanye amakhono njengokuqonda nozwela, izimfanelo izingane ezinokuqonda okuphezulu kwemizwa ezizokwazi kahle. Ukukhalipha ngokomzwelo kubhekisa emandleni okuqonda kahle imizwa kuwe nakwabanye, ukuveza kahle nokulawula le mizwa, nokuyisebenzisa ngempumelelo ukuqondisa imicabango nokuziphatha komuntu kufinyelele enhlosweni oyifunayo.
Abazali badinga ukuba ngongoti kulezi zindawo ukusiza izingane zabo (kanye nathi uqobo) ukuthi zisebenzisane kahle nabanye, ukukhulisa ubudlelwano obunempilo nobunamandla futhi kusize izingane ukubhekana nezimo ezinzima ngokomzwelo ngokucabanga nokuziphatha ngezindlela ezisiza ukwehlisa amazinga oxinzelelo nokuqinisa impilo yakho yengqondo.
Ukufeza lokhu, kuyadingeka ukuthi wazi izinyathelo ezithile ukuze izingane zakho zihlakaniphe ngokomzwelo nokuthi zikwazi ukuphatha nokusingatha zonke izinhlobo zemizwelo, injabulo enkulu kakhulu nentukuthelo enkulu. Ungayithola kanjani? Ungalahli imininingwane.
Fundisa izingane ukulawula imizwa
Fundisa izingane zakho ukulawula imizwa ngezenzo
Izingane kufanele zifunde ukuthi 'kungani' nokuthi 'kanjani' kwezinto. Lokhu kungcono kunokumane ubatshele ukuthi benzeni. Ngalo mqondo, lapho utshela ingane yakho ukuthi yenzeni nokuthi yini eniyilindele kuyo, Kufanele futhi unake nokuchaza ukuthi kungani kufanele ukwenze nokuthi kufanele ukwenze kanjani, Ngakho-ke, ngaphezu kokuyiqonda, uzoba namathuluzi okuzokwazi ukuguqula indlela oziphethe ngayo.
Lokhu kubanikeza ngezibonelo zokhonkolo zalokho okushiwo ukulawula imizwa yabo, ngakho-ke maningi amathuba okuthi bakwazi ukukusebenzisa ezimeni zangempela zempilo. Isibonelo, uma usebenza kwikhompyutha, thatha ikhefu lapho okuthile kungahambi kahle, ngakho-ke izingane zakho zizofunda ukwenza okufanayo lapho zizizwa zikhungathekile: zizothatha ikhefu ukucabanga ngokwenzekayo kuzo futhi zithole okungcono kakhulu Isixazululo sesimo esithile.
Ukucacisa futhi ingane yakho iqonde kangcono ngesibonelo sakho, ungasho into efana nale: "Ngiyathukuthela kancane ngoba ubuchopho bami abunayo imibono emihle njengamanje." Ngicabanga ukuthi ngizohamba ngokushesha ukuze ngehlise umoya, bese ngizama futhi emuva kwesikhathi. " Khumbula ukuthi isibonelo sakho nezenzo zakho kungukufundisa okungcono kakhulu ongakunika izingane zakho, ngaphezu kwamagama nje.
Kukufundisa ukuthi ufune ukusekelwa lapho ukudinga
Kubalulekile ukuthi ufundise izingane zakho ukuthi kulungile ukuthi zifune usizo nokusekelwa lapho izinto zisenza singakhululeki noma singeke sikwazi ukuphatha kahle. Lokhu kuzobasiza nokuthi babe nekhono ngokwengeziwe ekunikezeni ukwesekwa nosizo. lapho abanye abantu abaseduze kwakho beyidinga.
Isibonelo, ngolunye usuku ungacela ingane yakho ukuba uyanga bese usho okuthile okufana nalokhu: "Namuhla ngizizwa ngidabukile kancane, ungangigona ukuze ungenze ngibe ngcono?" Futhi ungagona izingane zakho lapho zidabukile noma zithukuthele ukuziduduza emoyeni futhi zizenze zizizwe zingcono.
Omunye umqondo omuhle wokufuna ukwesekwa nosizo kwabanye ukufundisa izingane ukuxazulula izinkinga ndawonye. Ungayitshela into efana nale: "Ngizizwa ngidabukile manje ngoba le nto ebengiyifuna ayikho esitolo, yini engingayenza ukuze ngizizwe ngingcono?" Lokhu kunikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokucabanga ngombono wokudala futhi ithole indlela yokubonga kangcono ngosizo lwayo.
Fundisa izingane zakho ukubona imizwa
Ukuze ubone imizwa, kufanele uyiqambe futhi uqonde nobudlelwano obuyinkimbinkimbi abangaba nabo nezimo ezithile esibhekana nazo usuku nosuku. Esikhundleni sokufundisa imizwa enjengenjabulo, ukudabuka, ukwesaba noma intukuthelo, kungcono siza izingane ziqonde le mizwa nokuthi yehluka kanjani ngamandla lapho ixubene neminye imizwa (njengalapho ukuphoxeka kuzwakala lapho usizi nokudumazeka kuhlanganiswa).
Lokhu kuzosiza izingane ukuthi zikwazi kangcono ukubona imizwa ngokwazo nakwabanye, futhi ngenxa yalokho zivumele ukuthi zisebenzise amasu aqonde ngqo ukubhekana nale mizwa.
Izenzo zinezizathu nomphumela
Izingane zidinga ukufundiswa ukubona lapho izindlela ezithile zokulawula imizwa zingasebenza futhi kwezinye izikhathi zingafaneleki. Ngokwesibonelo, Ukuhambahamba uphinde uphuthe isigaba esingasithandi ikakhulukazi kungakufaka enkingeni. Kepha ungahlela ukwenza okuthile ukubabeka esimeni esihle ngaphambi kwalokho noma wenze okuthile okuhle ngemuva kwalelo klasi.
Ukuxhumana nabantu kumele kusebenze
Ukuze uphumelele ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu, kungaba semndenini noma kubangani, kufanele kubhekwe ukuthi kungahlala kunezingxabano ebudlelwaneni. Izingane kufanele zibe namakhono adingekayo ukuze kube nokuxhumana okuhle phakathi kwabantu. Iningi lalawa makhono lifundwa ngokubuka, futhi njengomzali, ungabafundisa ngokumodela ubudlelwano obuhle phakathi kwabantu nabanye.
Kunamakhono athile wokusebenzisana ongawenza empilweni yakho yansuku zonke futhi ufundise ingane yakho ngesibonelo:
- Yiba namakhono okulalela asebenzayo ezingxoxweni
- Veza umbono wakho ngokuqiniseka
- Yiba nozwela oluhle nabanye
- Lalela izidingo zakho
- Bamba iqhaza kumasu afanele okusombulula izingxabano ukuze ube nemiphumela eyamukelekayo ngokungavumelani ngaphandle kokulimaza abanye abantu