I-phobia yengane noma lapho "ukuba umuntu omdala" akuqondi ukuthi yini ubuntwana

ingane phobia (Kopisha)

Umnyakazo wezenhlalo nezentengiselwano-phobia uzimise ngokuqinile kuyo yonke le minyaka eyishumi. Kuse-United Kingdom lapho kunemiphumela eminingi khona, futhi okuqale njengomkhawulo wokungena kwabazali abahamba nezingane zabo nezingane zabo ezindaweni zokucima ukoma nezindawo zokudlela, manje, sekunamahhotela amaningana emhlabeni wonke aqala leso sivakashi nikela ukuthi kwabaningi, kulungile futhi kuyalingana: «Kuleli hhotela ngeke ubone ingane, ngeke uzizwe izinyembezi zabo, ukukhala kwabo, futhi ngeke bakukhathaze ngesikhathi sedina noma pool".

Yinto ngokungangabazeki emema ukucabanga okujulile. Kuyacaca ukuthi uma kukhulunywa ngokungcebeleka, inkampani ngayinye inganikela "ngomkhiqizo" wayo kulabo ababukeli abathile abababheka njengabanamandla. Manje, ngalolu hlobo lokuziphatha, kubonakala sengathi i-fuse ikhanyisiwe futhi kwenziwa nokuguqulwa kabusha kokuthi uyini "ubaba omuhle" noma "umama omubi". Kubukeka sengathi umntwana okhalayo endaweni yokudlela akayona nje imiphumela yokungabazali kahle, y de ahí, que las miradas se dirijan con molestia hacia la familia. Es algo sobre lo que pensar, y en «Madres Hoy» te invitamos a ello.

Ukwesaba ingane nengqondo kamama omubi

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Esinye sezimo lapho i-phobia yengane ibonakala kakhulu ezindizeni. Singakutshela amacala amaningi, kepha ukuze uhlale namacala abonisa kakhulu ngale ndaba, sizochaza amabili awo. USarah Blackwood ungumculi owaziwayo okwakudingeka athathe uhambo lwamahora amahlanu eVancouver. Unezinyanga eziyi-7 ekhulelwe futhi enengane enezinyanga ezingama-23, akazange acabange ukuthi kuzokwenzekani kuye.

Ngesikhathi bengakasuki, indodana yakhe yaqala ukukhala. Ukukhala bekucasula abanye abahambi, kuze kuthi kungazelelwe umuntu athi "akuphephile" ukundiza nalo msindo ocasulayo amahora amaningana. Waba nesibindi ngokucela ukaputeni ukuba amkhiphe yena nendodana yakhe ebhanoyini. Abasebenza endizeni nabo babecabanga ukuthi yiyona ehamba phambili, empeleni beza kuye ngala magama alandelayo: «Kufanele uthulise indodana yakho, ngoba lokhu kuyingozi endizeni.  Manje, lapho nje bezohlola ukaputeni, ingane yayeka ukukhala. Wayekade elele. Futhi kwaba njalo kulo lonke uhambo.

USarah Blackwood akazange nje wethuke kepha wethuka ngokuphelele ngokungabi nesineke nokuzwela enkampanini nakubahambi. Kamuva, Bengizokushicilela okwenzekile ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene ukusola lokho abhekane nakho.

Lapho sibizwa ngokuthi "omama ababi" ngoba izingane ziyakhala

Ingane ekhalayo, ehlekayo, ekhala, edlala, exhumane, ewile futhi ihlole is a ingane ejabule leyo yingxenye yomhlaba futhi ekhula ngayo. Manje, kubonakala sengathi eminyakeni yamuva nje sesiwele ohlotsheni "lobufebe" lapho kukhethwa khona izingane ezithule, izingane ezingenzi lutho ezihambelayo, zithule futhi zimamatheke.

Okubi kakhulu kulokhu ukuthi, ngandlela thile, labo bantu "abona" ​​ebudaleni bangaholela owesifazane ekukholweni ukuthi ungumama omubi ngoba nje ingane yakhe ikhala. Nakhu okwenzeke kowesifazane osemusha ochaze okwenzeka kuye ekhasini «Thanda okubalulekile".

Umlingani wakhe, uMarine, ubekade engekho ekhaya izinyanga ezimbalwa egcwalisa ikusasa lakhe. Ngemuva kwesikhathi esiningi eyedwa nendodakazi yakhe, wabona kukuhle ukuthi achithe isikhathi esithile nabazali bakhe, noma ngabe lokho kusho isikhathi samahora ayi-6 sokundiza. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, umzamo wawukufanele. Kakade isendizeni, intombazane yakhe yaqala ukukhala ithwelwe ngu umdumo ukubanjwa, ukubona ukunyakaza kwakhe kunqunyelwe.

Izinyembezi zakhe zaqala ukukhathaza yonke le ndima futhi ngokushesha wayezwa ukuphawula okuhlabayo nokugxekwa. Umama wethuka kakhulu, waze wabona kahle ukuthi wehluleka ukuzibamba nokuthi wayedlulisela lolu sizi endodakazini yakhe. Kuze kube kungekudala, isimangaliso sasebenza.

kukhala ingane


Indoda endala yacela ukuhlala eduze kwakhe. Ngemuva kwemizuzwana, wakhuluma amagama omlingo. "Ungumama olungile, ungalaleli." Le ndoda yakhipha ithebhulethi yayo ye-elekthronikhi yaqala ukuyikhombisa yena nendodakazi yayo izithombe zabazukulu bayo, bekhuluma futhi bexhumana nabo bobabili benokuthula okuphelele. Ingane yeka ukukhala futhi amahora we-6 wokuhamba adlula ngokuhefuzela.

Ngesikhathi lo wesifazane efika esikhumulweni sezindiza watshela le ndaba abazali bakhe ngezinyembezi. Ukube kwakungekho ngaleyo ndoda, abanye abantu ngokuhlaselwa kwabo ngamazwi nangokungaqondi kwabo ngabe kwamhlukumeza impilo yakhe yonke. Lokhu yinto okufanele isenze sicabange ... Sesifike kude kangakanani?

I-Niñophobia kanye nokuba ngumuntu omdala

Kubukeka sengathi ingxenye yomphakathi ifinyelele kulelo zinga lapho umuntu omdala efuna ukuthula kwangaphakathi kuphela, ukulinganisela kanye nalokho ukunganakwa lapho eyekile ukuqonda ukuthi buyini ubuntwana, ukuthi kuyini ukukhulisa ingane. Manje ake sicabange ngesici esibalulekile. Uma isisekelo somphakathi siyimindeni ... Sizokhipha kanjani izingane ezingxenyeni zethu eziseduze?

Kusobala ukuthi ekunikezelweni izivakashi wonke umuntu angakhetha inketho evumelana nabo kakhulu, kodwa empilweni yethu yansuku zonke, ezindaweni zokucima ukoma, ezindaweni zokudlela noma ezindizeni, ngaphandle kwezingane njengomuntu ovotela ukungena kwezilwane kuyinto eshukumisa umuzwa wethu wokuba yisakhamuzi, womqondo ovamile wesintu. Noma ngubani ovotela ingane uvotela umndeni wakhe, futhi nangaphezulu, ngandlela thile, ubeka izindonga nezithiyo ekusaseni lethu.

ingane epotimendeni

Izingane zizohlala zinjalo njalo ezindaweni zethu zomphakathi, emabhishi, kumachibi okubhukuda nakunoma yiziphi izindlela zokuhamba. Esikhundleni sokukhwabanisa nokuveza ukucasuka kwethu kulowo mama ongakwazi - noma ongeke - avale indodana yakhe, ake sicabange ukuthi isimo besizoshintsha kanjani uma sisondela futhi sixhumana nalowo mndeni, njengoba kwenza le ndoda enhle endabeni yowesifazane owayehamba ngendiza.

Ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala yileso sikhundla lapho ugcina usakha izindonga ukubheka inkaba yakho, inzuzo yakho. Yi "inqobo nje uma ngikahle" ukuthi akekho ongihluphayo. Manje, kufanele sicabange ukuthi asihlali eziqhingini, sihlala emphakathini, futhi izingane ziyikusasa lethu. Umbukiso omncane wenhlonipho noma ukusondelana kwanele ukushintsha okuthile, ukuletha ukukhanya futhi umuzwa omuhle.

Lapho ingane ikhala ebhasini noma ebhanoyini, qala ngokunakekela umama futhi uyinikeze ukuthula. Bese unikeza leyo ngane ukumamatheka, uphazamise ukunaka kwabo. Kholwa noma ungakukholwa, kuzoba yinto ozoyikhumbula njalo ...


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  1.   Macarena kusho

    Ushaye isipikili ekhanda uValeria, ngicabanga ukuthi hhayi abantu abadala kuphela (angifuni ukuzibeka engcupheni ngithi iningi labo, ngoba ngingahle ngibe nephutha) abaziqondi izingane, okufana nokuthi abakhumbuli ukuthi babeyibo; kepha futhi, BESABA imizwelo: eyabanye kanye neyabo. Futhi kunjalo.

    Imvelo isithengisela intokozo, ubumnandi nenhlala-kahle esemathinini, kepha akukho lutho oluzobandakanyeka, cha ... Ngakho-ke, sifuna abangane abangasindi kakhulu, imibhangqwana engafaki izinkinga eziningi, izingane (akudingekile ukuthanda kubo, kepha abanye bethu bayakhala) abangakhali noma abaziveze njengABANTWANA ukuthi bayikho, bangeze futhi baqhubeke.

    Sisele igxathu elilodwa ekulahlekelweni ngumphakathi wozwela nokukhathalela, ekugcineni ukuziveza thina uqobo. Kubuhlungu kanjani 🙁

    Ngivumelana nawe: kuyinto eyodwa ukwehlukanisa izinsizakalo zomphakathi nezokuklama ngokususelwa kulokhu, kungenye into ukusabalalisa umuzwa izingane ezinawo. Kwesinye isikhathi ngiyazibuza ukuthi ngeke yini kube nomona ngoba bathokozela injabulo enkulu kangaka, nenkululeko ephelele (kulabo bethu ukuthi sibashiye, kunjalo).

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    1.    UValeria Sabater kusho

      Ngibonga kakhulu iMacarena! Uzwela, Uzwela ... Yigama lomlingo engingalifakanga esihlokweni! Kuhle kakhulu ibinzana lakho lokuthi silahlekelwa umphakathi wozwela nokunakekelwa. Kubukeka sengathi uma. Futhi uyabona, ukuthi kulula kanjani ukujabula. Namuhla nje, lapho ngidlula eceleni komgwaqo obuseduze kwesikole samabanga aphansi, owesifazane ungitshela ukuthi, lezi akuzona izingane, zingama «savages». Kwakuyisikhathi sepatio, futhi umoya wagcwala ukumemeza, ukuhleka nezinhlanga. Kwakuwumsindo wempilo, kalula. Bazoba nesikhathi sokuthula, bayeke bakhule yize abanye bekubiza ngokuthi "kusendle."

      Sizokwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukuvikela ubuntwana lapho kungenzeka. Ukugona okukhulu nokubonga njengokuhlala kwenzeka ngosizo lwakho nokusekelwa!

  2.   UHerodi kusho

    Omunye umzamo wokuthethelela abazali abenqabayo ukulawula "izibusiso" zabo. Uma ungakwazi ukulawula ingane ngesizathu, yenze ngokwesaba, noma ngodlame. Kepha abantu ababophezelekile ukubekezelela umsindo ocasulayo ngoba wenqaba ukuthatha indima yakho yegunya.