Ngabe ukhulelwe futhi uzizwa unesidingo esiphuthumayo sokuhlanza, ukuhleleka futhi ube nakho konke okulungele lapho ingane yakho ifika? Ngabe wake wapenda izindonga, wapholisha phansi, washintsha ukuhlelwa kwempahla yasendlini noma wenza omunye umsebenzi ekhaya owawungawenzanga phambilini? Uma uzizwa ukhonjwa, kungenzeka ukuthi uphila lokho okwaziwa ngokuthi «Isidleke se-Nest», isimo se ukungasebenzi kahle okwenzeka kwabanye besifazane ekukhulelweni kokugcina futhi lokho kuvame ukuthinta omama abasha. Kodwa ingabe i-nest syndrome ikhona ngempela noma inganekwane nje?
Uma sibheka izilwane, siyakubona lokho izinhlobo eziningi, zinokuziphatha okufanayo ngaphambi kokusondela kokufika kwamaphuphu awo. Izinyoni zilungisa izidleke zazo ngaphambi kokubeka nokufukamela amaqanda azo, kanti izilwane eziningi ezincelisayo zifuna indawo yokukhosela, ukuzihlukanisa, ngisho nemigodi, ezinsukwini noma emahoreni angaphambi kokuhlangana. Akumangazi ukuthi abesifazane abangabantu, njengezilwane ezincelisayo esiyikho, bazizwa umuzwa wokulungisa ikhaya ukunakekela nokuvikela ingane yethu.
I-nest syndrome nayo inencazelo yomzimba. Emasontweni okugcina okukhulelwa, ukukhiqizwa kwe- i-oxytocin. Le hormone, eyaziwa ngokuthi "I-hormone yothando" ubandakanyeka ezinkambisweni eziningi zempilo yezocansi nokuzala, kufaka phakathi ukucindezela kwesibeletho ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ukuncelisa, kanye umuzwa womama osenza sithandane ngokweqile nengane yethu futhi sifuna ukukunikeza okuhle kakhulu ukwamukela.
Ngokomzwelo, i-nest syndrome iyi- okukhombisa ukukhathazeka nokungaqiniseki okubangelwa ukufika kwengane. Ebhekene nesimo esisha nesingaziwa, abesifazane abaningi abakhulelwe badinga ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi konke kulawulwa ngokuphelele futhi banokuthula kwengqondo ukuthi konke kuzohamba kahle kusukela ngomzuzu wokuqala. Ngalo mqondo, ukwenza eminye imisebenzi kungasiza. Vele, kuyadingeka ukuthatha izinyathelo ezithile zokugwema njengokugwema ukuphakamisa izinto ezisindayo ezingakulimaza, ukukhuphukela ezindaweni eziyingozi noma ukungasebenzisi upende onobuthi nemikhiqizo yokuhlanza. Kubalulekile futhi ukuhlonipha izikhathi zokuphumula ngoba uzodinga ukuqoqa amandla wokulethwa kanye ne-puerperium.
Akubona bonke abesifazane abahlangabezana nesifo se-nest. Abanye omama bayaphumula kancane ngenkathi abanye bethatha ukukhulelwa ngendlela ekhululeke ngokwengeziwe noma sebevele benokuhlangenwe nakho nezinye izingane futhi bazizwa belondekile. Into ebaluleke ngempela ukuthi, noma ngabe uzizwa unesifiso sokushiya indlu yakho ingenabala, noma uma uzizwa ukhathele noma uzolile ngokwengeziwe, thokozela zonke izigaba zokukhulelwa kwakho.