Namuhla usuku lomhlaba lokulwa nokuxhashazwa futhi ingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yale mpi ukuqwashisa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufundisa abazali lokho Akukona ngemidlalo yezingane, noma ngokuncintisana okunempilo.
Ukuhlukumeza kuthinta izisulu kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi zikwazi ukushiya imiphumela empilweni yazo. Empeleni, kubuye kulimaze nomhlukumezi, ngoba ujwayela ukugcina amandla akhe ngodlame nangokuhlukumeza.
Izibalo eziyinhloko zokuxhashazwa
Abazali kudingeka bazi izibalo ezibandakanyekayo ekuhlukumezeni noma ekuhlukumezeni. Lokhu kubalulekile ukuze sikwazi ukubona ukuthi ingabe ingane yethu iyinhlangano engaba nengxenye noma isibukeli, uma kwenzeka ihlukunyezwa.
Uma sithola noma yikuphi ukuziphatha okungajwayelekile, kuyindlela engcono kakhulu esizokwazi ngayo ukuthi ngabe ingane yethu iyisisulu, isihluku noma isibukeli nje esilula. Kunoma ikuphi, isimo kuzodingeka sibikwe, kepha ngaleyo ndlela sizokwazi indlela engcono yokubhekana naso maqondana nendodana yethu.
- Umhlukumezi: Kungaba ngumfana noma intombazane futhi yize izibalo zikhomba ukuthi abafana bathambekele kakhulu ekuhlukumezeni udlame futhi amantombazane athambekele ekuhlukunyezweni ngokwengqondo, bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane banezici ezilandelayo ngokufanayo:
- Ukuhlukumeza abanye.
- Ukungabi nozwelo nababuthakathaka noma labo abahlukile kuye.
- Ukulungisiswa kokuziphatha ngolaka nabanye abantu, bohlobo oluthi "uyakufanele ngoba ...".
- Uyaphindisela noma uphendulela ukukhathazeka kwakhe komunye lapho ehluleka ukufeza izifiso zakhe.
- Isisulu: Kungaba futhi umfana noma intombazane, enezici ezilandelayo:
- Babonisa amahloni amakhulu, ukungavikeleki nokukhathazeka.
- Bajwayele ukuvikelwa ngokweqile ngabazali.
- Imvamisa abanamandla kangako emzimbeni.
- Abathathi abangane basekhaya
- Bathandwa kakhulu.
- Azethuli isimilo esinobudlova noma esinolaka.
- Bajwayele ukuzwana kahle nothisha.
- Izibukeli: bangabanye babafana namantombazane ababona ukuhlukunyezwa bathule isimo besaba ukuba yizisulu. Zikhona kuwo wonke amaphrofayili, yize empeleni, zingaphakathi kwesilinganiso esiphakathi kwabadume kakhulu nalabo abayizisulu zokuhlukunyezwa, okuhlala kudume kakhulu.
Izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza
Alukho uhlobo olulodwa, ukuhlukunyezwa kuhlukaniswe ngezindlela ezimbili, kuya ngendlela okusetshenziswa ngayo kulowo ohlukunyeziwe:
- Qondisa: okuyiyo eyenzeka lapho isisulu sisongelwa noma siphathwa kabi emzimbeni.
- Ngokungaqondile: Yiyo ehambelana nokuhlukaniswa kwesisulu kanye nokuthukwa noma ukusongelwa ngabalamuli osetshenziswa ngumhlukumezi njengezicucu zomdlalo wakhe.
Izibukeli, isibalo esibaluleke kakhulu
Noma ngabe ukuhlukumeza okuqondile noma okungaqondile, ababukeli yibo abanika amandla umhlukumezi. Ngoba lapho bencoma kakhulu noma bethulisa lesi simo, kuzothatha isikhathi eside. Lokhu kwenza ukuqwashisa kwabazali ngenkinga kubalulekile. Awukwazi ukufundisa ingane yakho ngesihloko ongasazi, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ungamkhomba endleleni efanele.
Ngokusobala kuzothatha isikhathi ukwazi isimo. Kodwa-ke, uma uyazi futhi uyazi inkinga, kuzoba lula ukuthi isihloko sivele futhi ungancoma ukuthi wenzeni ingane yakho ukwenza isinqumo esifanele. Kufanele wazi ukungathulisi noma ukusekela isimo sokuxhashazwa.
Uma ukhuluma ngokuthi kuyini ukuhlukumeza, kuyingozi kangakanani nokuthi kungaba yingozi kanjani kumhlukumezi, kulula ukuthi isimo sigwenywe, noma siyeke ukwenzeka uma sesiqalile.
Imikhankaso yokuqwashisa kanye nemihlangano yokufundisana
Namuhla kukhona imikhankaso yokuqwashisa lapho abafana namantombazane abake baba yizisulu zokuxhashazwa ababamba iqhaza khona. Ngisho nabahlukumezi abakulungisile ukuziphatha kwabo. Laba bafana bazinikele ekuqwashiseni ngenkinga ethinta ingxenye enkulu yabantu besikole njengamanje.
Ezindaweni eziningi futhi kunemihlangano yokucobelelana ngolwazi yabazali. Ochwepheshe abehlukene besayensi yezengqondo nezemfundo, bayahlangana bachaze lesi simo ngendlela yokuthi bangasiqonda kahle. Ngakho-ke bangabhekana nenkinga engaba khona bese beyinqamula ku-bud, ngaphambi kokudala umonakalo ongalungiseka.
Kunoma ikuphi, futhi ungaya ku-inthanethi ukuthola ngale ndaba. Amabhulogi namakhasi akhethekile e-psychology angumthombo owusizo wolwazi mayelana nokuxhashazwa. Kule blog efanayo ungathola izindatshana ezahlukahlukene ezikhuluma ngobuxhwanguxhwangu, ezingasiza kakhulu. Akunandaba ukuthi ingane yakho injalo yini isisulu, onolaka noma umbukeli.
Umlayezo walezi zingxoxo zokufundisa ukuthi Ukuhlukumeza akuwona umdlalo futhi kuyadingeka ukufundisa nokuqwashisa izingane zethu ukuze zazi ukuthi akuyona indlela eyiyo yokufeza izinhloso zazo.