Abantu Abazwela Kakhulu (HSPs) baklanyelwe ukuqaphela kakhulu indawo ebazungezile. Lokhu kuzwela kubenza banake imininingwane ecokeme, bazizwe bejulile, baxwaye imiphumela, futhi babe nozwela ngemizwa nokucindezeleka kwabanye. Uma ukhomba indodana noma indodakazi yakho esemusha ngale ncazelo emfushane yabantu abazwela kakhulu, khona-ke ungaba nentshisekelo kulesi sihloko ngoba ukwelapha osemusha ozwela kakhulu kungase kube inselele.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda imizwelo yendodana noma indodakazi yakho, kusukela lapho, indlela izoba lula. Ngenxa yesimo sabo njengomuntu ozwela kakhulu, bazobhekana nobunzima obengeziwe, hhayi nje kuphela emndenini kodwa nasemphakathini. Ngoba, kubalulekile ukuthi, njengabazali, nizazise, nibasekele futhi nibasize noma nini lapho kunesidingo.
Izimpawu zokuthi ingane yakho inokuzwela okukhulu
Njengabazali, kungenzeka ukuthi nizibonile izimpawu zokuthi indodana noma indodakazi yenu iyi- umuntu ozwela kakhulu. Ezinye zalezi zimpawu Yilezi ezilandelayo:
- Thola ngokushesha izisusa zezinzwa ezinjengomsindo, umsindo, ukukhanya, iphunga, ukunambitha noma ukuthungwa okuhlukile. Lezi zisusa zingase zicasule kakhulu.
- ukhungatheka kalula phambi kwabantu abangaziwa nezixuku.
- Noma yimaphi amazwana athathwa mathupha., ukuze uzwe ubuhlungu kalula ngokuzizwa wahlulelwa, wenqatshwa noma ugxekwa.
- Ikhono “lokufunda” imizwa yabanye.
- Ukuzizwa nokugcina imizwa ejulile njengokuthukuthela, ukudabuka noma ukwesaba. Bacindezela le mizwa ngokuzihlukanisa noma ngokusabela ngokuziphatha okumangazayo.
- wakhe maningi amathuba okuba ahlupheke ngenxa yokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka.
Yiziphi izinkinga ongabhekana nazo osemusha ozwela kakhulu?
Indlela yabo yokuzwa izwe elibazungezile ngezinye izikhathi ibaholela ekuhlangabezaneni nezimo ezingajabulisi kubo. Ngoba, kufanele uqaphe ukuze zingakwazi ukuvusa ezinye izinkinga zempilo yakho yengqondo. Ake sibheke ezinye zalezi zinkinga umuntu osemusha ozwela kakhulu:
- I-Syndrome "yokushiswa" noma i-Burn out. Abafana namantombazane abazwela kakhulu basengozini enkulu yokucindezeleka, ngoba bazwa imizwa yabo kanye neyabantu ababazungezile kakhulu. Ngokulindelwe umphakathi ukuthi uqine futhi ube nolaka, abafana namantombazane abazwelayo babhekana nenselele yabo enkulu: ukuziphatha okuphambene nobuqobo babo bangempela. Lokhu kuzobenza bacindezele lowo muntu weqiniso futhi kubabangele umunyu.
- Ukuxhashazwa. Uma ingane noma osemusha ethathwa ngokuthi “umntwana okhalayo”, noma ngokwehlukile nje, angaba yizisulu zabanye abafana noma amantombazane abafuna isisulu sokuqinela abanye.
- Izinkinga zokuzihlonipha. Ebusheni, ukuthandwa kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Intsha ifuna ukwamukelwa kontanga yayo. Nokho, intsha ezwela kakhulu ngokuvamile ayinabo abangane abaningi njengoba ijwayele ukuzehlukanisa. Lesi simo kulesi sigaba sokuphila esibucayi singabangela imicabango elimazayo ephindaphindayo, njengokuthi abathandi muntu noma ukuthi abasoze bangena emphakathini.
- Izinkinga zengqondo. Lapho intsha ezwela kakhulu kufanele ifake ngaphakathi imizwelo yayo ejulile, izinkinga ezingokwengqondo ezinjengokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, izinkinga zokulawula imizwelo, ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo, noma ukuziphatha okuzilimazayo kungase kuphakame okuholela ekutheni ukuzilimaza.
Amasu okwelapha ingane esemusha ezwela kakhulu
Kuyabonakala ukuthi osemusha ozwela kakhulu akanakuphathwa njengomunye ongayiboni imizwa enamandla. Ngalesi sizathu, sizobona amasu azokusiza ukuba ube nokuqonda okungcono kanye nobudlelwano nendodana noma indodakazi yakho ezwela kakhulu.
- Ukuqonda nokwamukela. Uma esikhundleni sokubheka indodana noma indodakazi yakho ngamehlo abucayi uzama ukwazi nokuqonda umbono wakhe wezwe, okungukuthi, uqaphela ukuzwela kwakhe okuphezulu, uzothola ukuthi akabuthakathaka, ukhathazekile noma unamahloni njengawe. umcabango. Uzobona ubuhle anabo ngaphakathi, umusa wakhe omkhulu, uzwela lwakhe, ukwethembeka kwakhe, ubuhlakani bakhe kanye nokusabela kwakhe ngokomzwelo. Uthando olungenamibandela nokwesekwa kuzonikeza indodana noma indodakazi yakho ukuzethemba ekudingayo ukuze ibhekane nezimo ezinzima. Njengabazali, kukuwe ukuthi uqonde futhi uyamukele ingane yakho esikhundleni sokuzama ukuyibumba ukuze ingazweli kangako. Ukumfundisa ukusukuma ngemva kokwehluleka, ukuzivikela eziqhwaga, ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakhe noma ukufunda ukulawula ukucindezeleka, kuzosiza indodana yakho ukuba ihambe phakathi komphakathi ngaphandle kokuvimbela ukuzwela kwayo okuphezulu.
- Fundisa amasu amahle okubhekana nesimo. Amakhono ajwayelekile okulawula ingcindezi angase abe ukuthuthukisa izinto azithandayo, ukubhala izindaba, ukuhambahamba ngokwemvelo, i-leer, khala, lalela umculo, khuluma nomngane, yenza i-yoga, ukuzindla noma wenze izindida noma amagama ahlukene. Noma yimuphi umsebenzi owuthola uphumule udinga ukukhuthazwa ukuze ukwazi ukuwusebenzisa ukulawula ukucindezeleka.
- Ukulawulwa ngokomzwelo. Isho ikhono lokulawula imizwa enamandla kanye nokusabela ngendlela efanele ezimweni. Ukuzivocavoca kwengqondo nokuphefumula kunemiphumela emihle kakhulu ekwehliseni ingcindezi, ukukhula komuntu siqu, kanye nokuzamukela. Lezi zinhlobo zemisebenzi ziyosiza osemusha ukuba azamukele. Ngale ndlela, nabazali ngokwabo bayasizwa ukuba bangaphiki, badelele noma bafundise ingane yabo ukuthi izizwa kanjani.