Indlela yokusebenzelana nezingane ezixhamazela

umfana egxuma echibini

Ukulawula umfutho kungase kube inselele, kodwa kungase futhi kube inzuzo enkulu yokukhula ezinganeni, ikakhulukazi ezisencane. Ukulawula ukuthatheka kuyikhono elibalulekile elingagqugquzelwa futhi lithuthukiswe kunoma iyiphi iminyaka. Lokhu kubalulekile njengoba ukuntuleka kokulawula umfutho kuwumsuka wezinkinga eziningi zokuziphatha. Ngaphandle kokungenelela okuphumelelayo, ukuziphatha okungalindelekile kungaba yinto evamile, kube umkhuba, futhi kube kubi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Isibonelo, izingane ezineminyaka engu-5 ezixhamazelayo zingase zishaye noma ziphonse ukucasuka lapho zingenzi ngendlela yazo. Nakuba abaneminyaka engu-14 ubudala abanamawala bangabelana ngokuqukethwe okungalungile ezinkundleni zokuxhumana noma bazibandakanye ekuziphatheni okuyingozi njengokuphuza utshwala ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela lokhu okungaba nayo ngekusasa labo. Ngokubekezela nokuxhumana lezi zindlela zokuziphatha zingashintshwa., elithuthukisa kakhulu ikusasa labo.

Indlela yokuphatha izingane ezisheshayo?

Omunye wemisebenzi yabazali bezingane ezixhamazela ukusiza izingane zabo funda indlela yokuthuthukisa ukulawula kwakho umfutho njengoba ukhula. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukungenelela kokuthuthukisa ukulawula umfutho kungasiza kakhulu ekuqiniseni amakhono okusebenza okuphezulu.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ucwaningo lubonisa lokho ukulawulwa komfutho okungekuhle kuxhumene nokuthatha izinqumo okubi kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwezimo zempilo yengqondo. Ngakho-ke, lapho ingane yakho izuza ukulawula umfutho, mancane amathuba okuthi yenze noma isho okuthile okungalimaza yena nabanye, futhi maningi amathuba okuba ibe nempilo enhle engokwengqondo. 

Fundisa izingane zakho ukulebula imizwa

umfana ojabule esikoleni

Izingane ezingaqondi noma abazi ukuthi bangayikhuluma kanjani imizwelo yabo ngokuphumelelayo bavame ukuba namawala. Ingane engakwazi ukuthi “ngithukuthele” ingashaya into ebonisa ukuthi ithukuthele. Noma ingane engakwazi ukukhuluma ngokudabuka ingase iwele phansi iklabalase.

Into esemqoka ukufundisa ingane yakho vuma imizwa yakho ngakho angakutshela indlela azizwa ngayo, esikhundleni sokukubonisa lokho. Kwakho, qala ngokufundisa ingane yakho ukulebula imizwa, njengentukuthelo, ukudabuka, injabulo, ukumangala, ukukhathazeka, noma ukwesaba. Uma eseyiqondisile le miqondo engaqondakali, noma eminye yayo, khuluma naye ngomehluko phakathi kwemizwa nokuziphatha.

Qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi kulungile ukuthukuthela, kodwa akulungile ukushaya noma ukuthethisa othile lapho uzwa lowo muzwa. Uma uzizwa uzwiwa futhi usekelwa lapho ukhuluma ngokwethembeka ngemizwa yakho, mancane amathuba okuba uzizwe unesidingo sokuyifakazela ngamaqiniso.

Cela ingane yakho ukuthi iphinde lokho oyalayo

izingane ezinobuso obuhlekisayo

Izingane zivame ukuziphatha ngokungacabangi ngoba abalaleli iziyalezo obanika zona, ikakhulukazi uma ingane okukhulunywa ngayo ine ADHD. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi wenze isiqiniseko sokuthi bayakulalela ngoba uma kungenjalo bazokwenza bengakezwa lutho olushilo. Ngakho-ke uma umthumelela okuthile, mcele ukuthi akuphinde lokho omthumile ngaphambi kokuba enze okunye. Uma usuqinisekisile ukuthi ukulalele ngempela, ungaqhubeka. Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, akakulalelanga, zihlomise ngesineke futhi uphinde futhi.

Ukuze kungabi nzima kuye ukukuqonda, zama ukunikeza imiyalelo elula, okulula ukuyilandela ngezinyathelo ezimbalwa ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma kuyimisebenzi eyinkimbinkimbi, ungenza uhlu olubhaliwe ukuze ukwazi ukululandela ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa, ngoba lungalahleka kalula kwezinye izinto.


Mfundise amakhono okulawula intukuthelo

Ukubekezelela okuphansi ukukhungatheka kungabangela ukuqhuma okungalindelekile. Ngakho-ke, fundisa ingane yakho amakhono okulawula ulaka ingakusiza ukuba ubhekane nemizwa yakho ngezindlela ezinempilo. Amasu afana nokudonsa umoya kancane noma ukuhambahamba endlini ukuze ushise amandla angasiza kakhulu. Kungcono ukufundisa izingane indlela yokwehlisa umoya ukuze zenze izinqumo ezifanele ngaphambi kokuba zenze izinto ngokuxhamazela.


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  1. Ubhekele imininingwane: Miguel Ángel Gatón
  2. Inhloso yedatha: Lawula Ugaxekile, ukuphathwa kwamazwana.
  3. Ukusemthethweni: Imvume yakho
  4. Ukuxhumana kwemininingwane: Imininingwane ngeke idluliselwe kubantu besithathu ngaphandle kwesibopho esisemthethweni.
  5. Isitoreji sedatha: Idatabase ebanjwe yi-Occentus Networks (EU)
  6. Amalungelo: Nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ungakhawulela, uthole futhi ususe imininingwane yakho.