Abantu asebekhulile sebenayo amandla okuzilawula kokwesaba okuningi okusikhathazayo. Kepha izingane azikakwazi ukuzithiba lokho futhi kusezandleni zabazali umthwalo wokukwazi ukusiza ukuze lokho kwesaba kuphele. Mhlawumbe kunengqondo ukucabanga ukuthi sinamathuluzi angcono kakhulu wokusekela, kepha kwezinye izimo asazi okufanele ukwenze ukuze izingane zingesabi.
Akumele sikhohlwe ukuthi ukwesaba kuyingxenye yethu nasezinganeni imelwe njengesixazululo esinempilo leyo yingxenye yokukhula kwabo. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi lolu hlobo lokwesaba ngezinto ezingenangqondo lungaholela uphazamise ukwesaba kwalowo omncane futhi mhlawumbe lolo songo ngeke lube ngokoqobo. Kuleli qophelo abazali kufanele bathole indlela yokusebenza nalokho kwesaba amakhono okuzilawula.
Yini esingayenza ukuze izingane zingesabi?
Kufanele sibanikeze inzuzo yokuthi bazizwa besaba futhi zijwayeze leso simo, yize sazi ukuthi kulula ukusho kunokukwenza. Ngaso sonke isikhathi siyaphuma sibasize besosizini ukuze sikwazi ukubaduduza futhi silapha, yize kungahle kungabonakali njengokufana, lapho kulezi zimo kunokuvikelwa ngokweqile.
Kuzo zonke izindlela ingane yakho engazizwa inokwesaba, kungumuzwa wokuthi zingaba khona ngisho nakubantu abadala, yize ngenye indlela. Kungenxa yalokho ungalokothi uhlekise ngalowo mzuzu, njengoba ingane ingeke izizwe iqondakala, izokholwa ukuthi kuyaxaka, izozwa ukuntuleka kothando nokungavikeleki okukhulu.
Mbuze ukuthi kungani esaba
Ukwenza ukuhlaziywa kwesimo ukubona ngeso lengqondo kukhonkolo besabani. Buza imibuzo ethile ngokuthi kungani wesaba: Kungani wesaba ebumnyameni? Kungani wesaba umuntu? Uyamangala ukubona inja iseduze? Ikakhulu, kunokwesaba okuningi okungaba khona: ukuba wedwa, kwezinye izilwane nezinambuzane, ukuya kudokotela, ukuphakama, ukuya esikoleni, ezilo ...
Induduzo ngamazwi lolo hlobo lokwesaba, kholwa ukuthi likutshelani futhi zizwe uzwela. Lokhu kubaduduza kakhulu, kepha ingane kumele ikhuthazwe ukuthi lolu lwazi kufanele lusetshenzelwe. Ukuze wenze lokhu, mnike isabelo sakho onaso ukuba nesibindi bese uqala ukuphatha lokho kwesaba, noma ngabe kuyiqembu.
Ungamphoqi ukuthi abhekane nokwesaba kwakhe ngendlela eqinile
Kufanele ubhekane nokwesaba kwakho, kepha hhayi ngokweqile. Ungaphoqeleli ingane yakho ukuthi yenze lokho engakufuni, uzoyicasula ukwesaba nokukhathazeka okuningi. Kufanele umenze abhekane nayo kancane kancane ukuze nobabili nizizwe uyaziqhenya ngokuhamba phambili.
Msize abhekane nalokho kwesaba, kodwa ungamqambeli amanga naye. Ungamtsheli ukuthi akukho okuzokwenzeka, noma uzokwesaba lapho ezohlangabezana nakho kamuva. Menze abhekane nalesi simo ngesibindi, uma esaba ukuya esikoleni amphelezele aze azizwe ekhululekile futhi uma esaba ukujova umuthi wokugoma kumele ubhekane nayo ngesibindi.
Uma nathi sizwa ukukhathazeka noma ukwesaba ngenxa yalokho kwesaba asibeki isibonelo esihle. Kufanele ukhombise ukuthi kufanele ube nesibindi, ngaphandle kwezibopho zokubhekana ngokungazelelwe, kepha yebo ukukwenza kancane kancane.
Mkhuthaze njalo ukuthi akwenze nge isimilo esihle nokuhle. Futhi, mvuza lapho kunenqubekela phambili enhle. Uma ukwesaba kwakhe bekungukuhlala yedwa egumbini futhi enziwe ukuthi ahlale isikhashana, wenelisa umzamo wakhe ngamagama afana nalawa: Kuhle kakhulu empumelelweni yakho! Ngiyithandile! Kusasa nakanjani uzokwazi ukuhlala isikhashana; Ungakwena lokhu! O Unesibindi kakhulu!
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, sizobona ukuthi akukhona konke ukwesaba okufanayo, uma ingane izwa ukwesaba awudingi ukubhekana nayo ngesidingo esikhulu. Uma uvalo ludalwa ukuthi akafuni ukuya esikoleni noma ukuya epaki ngoba kunezinja, kufanele ungeze amasu ukuze ezokwazi ukuphumula futhi ngiyavuma ukuba nesibindi. Ngokuphambene nalokho, akafuni ukubukela amabhayisikobho asabekayo noma esaba ukuphakama, akudingeki anqobe, ngoba awaphazamisi impilo yakhe yansuku zonke. Uma uqaphela ukuthi eyakhe uvalo luyakwehlula, lwadala ukuthatheka noma kuvela ukuthi kubucayi kakhulu, singahlala sikhuluma nochwepheshe.