Indodakazi yami ifuna ukuba ngumfana

Indodakazi yami ifuna ukuba ngumfana

Abazali abaningi bathola ezinganeni ezisencane kakhulu ukungavumelani phakathi kobulili babo nobulili. Ngenxa yalokho, ukukhathazeka kukababa noma umama kubonakala kuchaza ukuthi indodakazi yabo eneminyaka emibili noma emithathu noma ngaphezulu, ufuna ukuba umfana.

Namuhla siphila ngaphansi komphakathi ongena kancane kancane kuwo indlela yokwenza lapho ubhekene nenkululekongokungakhathaleli ubulili, ngokungazihluleli izenzo zabo ngoba uzizwa ukuthi ungowobulili obuhlukile. Kwenzekani lapho indodakazi yakho ingazihlanganisi nocansi ukuthi iyini? Kuthiwani uma engazizwa eyintombazane futhi enqaba isitho sakhe sokuzala sowesifazane?

Indodakazi yami ifuna ukuba ngumfana, kusho ukuthini?

Abanye omama noma obaba bangene ekubonisaneni okuthintekayo ngoba indodakazi yakho isiwuthanda ngokweqile umqondo wokuthi ifuna ukuba ngumfana. Ezimweni eziningi, bayala ubulili babo, bafuna ukuba nepipi futhi baqondise isicelo sabo ngokufuna ukuchama bemi ngezinyawo, bagqoke njengabafana noma bazungeze nabangane abazodlala nabo.

Leli qiniso ngokuvamile lehlukaniswa njenge igama elithi transgender lomhlaba jikelele, njengoba abanye abafana noma amantombazane bengazibandakanyi nobulili begazi obunikezwe lapho kuzalwa. Abantu abaningi abalutholi uzwela ngezitho zabo zokuzala futhi kubangela ukungajabuli noma ukwaliwa okubizwa nge-dysphoria yezobulili.

Eziningi zalezi zimpendulo zingabonakala ezinkulumweni ezahlukahlukene. Le ntombazane kungenzeka ukuthi idlula ebufakazini bobulili, lapho isimo salo silawulwa ubuchopho. Ngenxa yokuthanda kwabo ucansi, lapho benquma ukuthi bangabobulili obuhlukile, bungqingili noma ubungqingili. Noma lapho zikhona ukuveza ngokocansi ukuma, lapho bezokwenza khona ngokuziphatha.

Yini ekhomba indodakazi yakho ngokuba 'yi-transgender'?

Kubonakala ngochungechunge lwemininingwane enembile, kufaka phakathi yindlela yokwenza, yokukhuluma noma lapho unganelisekile ngocansi lwakho. Okulandelayo, sichaza ezinye izizathu eziningi eziphetha lesi simo:

Akukho ukubandlululwa ngeminyaka, Kungaba intombazane noma intombazane esikhulile lapho ingaqala khona ukuveza isifiso sayo sokugqoka nabobulili obuhlukile futhi benqabe lokho kobulili babo.

Indodakazi yami ifuna ukuba ngumfana

Bathanda ukuzungezwa ngabangane bobunye ubulili nokuthi bakuphi bakha isimilo noma imidlalo yalolo cansi ngokulingisa nangenganekwane. Amathoyizi wobulili bawo bayaliwa futhi bakhetha abobulili obuhlukile. Kwenzeka okufanayo ngemisebenzi yokudlala noma ukuthi kufanele baziphathe kanjani, bagwema konke okusemandleni abo.

Abathandi ubulili ababelwe bona, ukuthi siphinde sabuyela kanjani, amantombazane awafuni ukuba nesitho sangasese futhi kwenzeka okufanayo ebusheni. Kukhona ukwenqatshwa okuphelele ekukhuleni kwamabele, ekushintsheni kwezwi noma ngesihloko sezinwele zasesidlangalaleni.

Mayelana nempilo yakho yomphakathi bancamela ukuphathwa njengabantu bobunye ubulili futhi bahlala bethola uhlobo oluthile lweqhubu noma alupheli kushuni abalinde wona. Impendulo yakhe ingadala ukungakhululeki okukhulu futhi idale ukuwohloka kwempilo yakhe yezenhlalo ikakhulukazi esikoleni.


Ungayeseka kanjani indodakazi yakho efuna ukuba ngumfana

Indodakazi yami ifuna ukuba ngumfana

Ukukhuluma ngokukhululeka kufanele kuhlonishwe wendodakazi yakho ukuze ikwazi ukuveza imizwa yayo yangempela futhi ikwazi ukubona. Akunasikhathi lapho kufanele uphike ukuthi ufuna ukugqoka kanjani noma ukuthi ufuna ukudlala nani.

Uma kuyisimo esinzima ukusikala, kufanele njalo iya ekusekelweni ngokwengqondo ezingeni lomndeni. Kukhona izinhlangano ezivumela lolu hlobo losizo zombili yabazali njengezingane ezingama-transgender. Intombazane ingadinga umuntu wangaphandle ozokwabelana ngezidingo zayo nokuphatha konke okukhathazayo.

Kubalulekile ukuthi ekhaya ube nakho konke ukusekelwa nokuqiniswa okungenzeka, ngoba konke okwenzeka ngaphandle kungahle kube yinto yokubandlululwa nokuhlekwa usulu. Ukuxhumana endaweni yomndeni kungukuqiniswa okuhle, kufanele uzame ukujwayela isimo ukuze kungabikho zingxabano futhi uvumele indodakazi yakho ihlole ubulili bayo ngokujwayelekile ngangokunokwenzeka.


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  1. Ubhekele imininingwane: Miguel Ángel Gatón
  2. Inhloso yedatha: Lawula Ugaxekile, ukuphathwa kwamazwana.
  3. Ukusemthethweni: Imvume yakho
  4. Ukuxhumana kwemininingwane: Imininingwane ngeke idluliselwe kubantu besithathu ngaphandle kwesibopho esisemthethweni.
  5. Isitoreji sedatha: Idatabase ebanjwe yi-Occentus Networks (EU)
  6. Amalungelo: Nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ungakhawulela, uthole futhi ususe imininingwane yakho.