Ngokufika kwenkathi yokuqala nezindaba zothando zokuqala, abazali baqala ukwesaba ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukukhulelwa okungalindelekile endodakazini.
Lapho kuthomba kufika izinguquko eziningi ezinganeni. Amantombazane angumthombo wentuthuko kuwo wonke amazinga. Ngalesi sigaba kunabazali okufanele babhekane nesimo esingalindelekile futhi esingajwayelekile sendodakazi ekhulelwe. Umbuzo ojwayelekile uthi: yini okufanele uyenze uma lokhu kwenzeka? Ngokulandelayo sizocubungula lesi sibalo esiyinkimbinkimbi.
Ubusha
Isigaba sempilo yezingane lapho abazali beqala khona ukwesaba izimo okunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nokuzixazulula, ngu ubusha. Cishe eminyakeni eyi-11, izingane zithatha ithuba elihle kakhulu futhi ziguquke ngezindlela eziningi. Ngokwenyama nangokomzwelo ukuvela kuyabonakala. Amantombazane anezindaba zawo zokuqala zothando, isikhathi sokuqala, futhi ngawo, amathuba okukhulelwa kwenzeka, nokwesaba kwabazali kuyanda.
Ukushiya isikhathi esingenacala sobuntwana, abesifazane abasebasha bafuna ukwamukeleka futhi bafune ukuthi bangobani. Lokhu kuholela ekubeni benze izinto abazali abangazithandi noma abakhathazeke kakhulu ngazo. Ukuthuthukiswa komsebenzi ubulili kuyaqala, futhi ukuya ocansini kungaholela ekukhulelweni okungahleliwe. Ngaphandle kokuthi kunzima kanjani ukuxhumana nabantu abasebancane, umthombo wokuqala wolwazi wengane kumele ube ngumzali.
Khuluma nezingane, ube nolwazi nokusekelwa
Ngemuva kokuzwa lezi zindaba, abazali kufanele bacabange ngokungakhathali futhi bavukele kulo mcimbi, ngaphandle kokwenza indodakazi yabo izizwe inesizungu futhi inecala.
Namuhla azikho izaba zokuthi into ethile ibingavinjelwa. Uma, uma kunesidingo, abazali nezingane abanakho ukuxhumana okwanele, abantu abasha banamathuluzi amaningi kunangesikhathi esedlule, futhi bayabonisana, bacinge, babuze noma bathole izeluleko. Namuhla abekho ochwepheshe onabo kuphela, kepha nabezindaba, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke internet. Ebhekene nokukhulelwa okungalindelekile, ubaba kufanele abe khona ngendodakazi, njengakwezinye izikhathi. Okokuqala, ukubhekana nalesi simo, njengabazali kufanele nikhulume niyilalele indodakazi yenu, ningayisoli noma niyenze iphatheke kabi.
Ezikhathini ezinzima indodakazi kumele izizwe iphephile futhi izethembile ukuze ikwazi ukuveza imizwa yayo, ngaphandle kokwesaba okunye ukusabela okunzima. Okubalulekile ukuthi indodakazi ingazizwa ilahliwe ngalokhu ekwenzile, kepha kunalokho ibone umndeni wayo uthinteka nayo. Abazali kufanele bazigcine bepholile futhi bangalilahli ithemba. Bobabili nendodakazi yabo badinga ukugxila, bathathe isikhathi, futhi banqume ezintweni ezithile. Ngokubambisana ungakhuluma nochwepheshe bezokwelapha noma abelaphi ukukusiza ukubhekana nalesi simo.
Izinketho zendodakazi ekhulelwe
Abazali bayangabaza ukuthi benzeni, bazizwa bedidekile. Kubalulekile ukucabangela iminyaka yendodakazi futhi uqaphele amaphuzu athile. Akufani ngendlela lapho i- sokukhulelwa, kuziphi izimo, nobani, kumuphi umongo... Owesifazane osemncane kungenzeka ukuthi usemncane futhi akanayo imibono ecace bha, omunye umuntu angahle abe ngumlingani wakhe, abe mncane noma abe seminyakeni esemthethweni ... Lezi zinkinga zihambisana nezindawo ezisemthethweni kanye nomthwalo omkhulu wemfanelo, ngakho-ke abazali kufanele babuze futhi uthintane nabachwepheshe uma kwenzeka kunokungabaza.
Kuyadingeka ukunquma ukuthi ngabe owesifazane osemncane ufuna ukuba nengane, ukuthi uzoba naye yedwa noma cha ... Njengabazali, kufanele nicabange ngemiphumela indodakazi yenu engaba nayo, ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba.. Endabeni yokuthatha isinqumo sokuqhubeka nokukhulelwa, kulula ukuhlela imibono nokulungiselela indodakazi ukuthi ibhekane nalesi simo: khuluma ngokuthi uzoqhubeka yini nezifundo, unakekele indlela yakhe yokuphila, umnotho ... icala lokungafuni ukuba nengane kunezinketho okufanele kuxoxwe ngazo. I- ukukhipha isisu kuyisilinganiso esinzima esinemiphumela emibi kumama. Ukumfaka esikhundleni sokutholwa kungaba enye indlela. Lapho nje noma yisiphi isinqumo sesenziwe, inhlalakahle yendodakazi ibaluleke kakhulu.