Ingane iqala isigaba sayo sobusha ngokuziphatha okunzima ukuzakhela nokwayo. Zama ukudala ukuzimela kwakho, ubuwena kanye nomthwalo wakho wemfanelo. Konke lokhu kungaholela ezimeni zengqondo ezingajwayelekile noma ezifanele kwezinye izingane futhi inkinga ivela lapho kuqinisekiswa ukuthi 'ingane yakho eyeve eshumini nambili iyantshontsha'.
Ukuziphatha kwabo kungaholela kwizizathu ezahlukahlukene, intsha eningi iyalududuza lolu hlobo lwesimo lapho befuna ukwamukela ukuhlubuka kwabo njengesenzo sokufuna ukuzuza igunya lakhe. Izimbangela zingahlukahluka futhi iningi lezingane liyenqaba ukweba lapho lifuna ukuziphindiselela kubazali ngoba baphathwe ngokungafanele. Kepha izizathu esingazibona ngezansi zingaba ziningi kakhulu.
Kungani Ingane Yami Yentsha Iyintshontsha?
Izingane eziningi lapho ziqala isigaba sazo sobusha kufaka izinto eziningi okufanele zicatshangwe njengabantu abasebasha noma ngenxa yezinguquko zabo zomzimba. Abaningi babo baveza ukuziphatha kwabo ngokungafanele ngenxa yokuntuleka kothando nokunakwa ekhaya noma endaweni yayo.
Ukweba kubo yisimo abasithathayo ukuze bazuze isikhundla, ukuze bezwe ukwazisa noma ukwamukelwa kontanga yabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukweba kungabenza ukuthi dala i-adventure ukuze uzizwe ubungozi: bantshontsha imali kubazali babo, beba izinto zemfashini ezitolo noma beba izinto ezitolo ezinkulu.
Kufanele ufunde izizathu ezingokwengqondo eziholela ekwebeni kwengane yakho
Ngokuvamile lolu hlobo lokuziphatha luhlotshaniswa ne- ezinye izinhlobo zokuziphatha okungafanele: izingxoxo eziqhubekayo nabazali babo, ukuphathwa kwezinto ezifana nezidakamizwa noma utshwala noma ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Lokhu kungabikwa ngoba osemusha udlula umzuzwana lapho kudinga usizo nokuqonda.
Uthando nokuqonda umuthi omuhle kakhulu ongaba khona emndenini. Yize sebevele eminyakeni eyishumi nambili futhi kubonakala sengathi abakudingi ukusekelwa, empeleni kulapho bedinga kakhulu uthando lwabazali. Imishwana emihle nokuziphatha ngaphakathi kwesigaba somndeni kuyisibonelo sothando ukuze kube khona okunye ukuzwana.
Ungabhekana kanjani nale nkinga?
Bekuhlale kushiwo ukuthi kufanele ukwenze babe yisibonelo ekhaya ngokuba ngabazali abayizibonelo ukuze izingane zingalandeli amaphethini afanayo. Uma ingane ikhuliswe ngokwethembeka, ukubonga nokwazisa ngesibonelo sethu, vele zizoba yinsika eyisisekelo yokuba nezingane ezinamanani afanayo.
Kukhona lokho khombisa ingane yakho imiphumela yokweba, ngoba ingaboshwa ngamanxusa amaphoyisa. Iphoyisa lingakhuluma nengane yakho futhi likhulume nayo ukuthi isenzo sayo siyisihluku futhi singaholela emiphumeleni emibi esikhathini esizayo.
Khuluma ubuso nobuso nengane yakho ngomoya ophansi, ubuze ukuthi kungani futhi lokho kuholele kuleso simo sengqondo. Mhlawumbe ungasiza ukuxazulula uma enanoma yiluphi uhlobo losizi. Uma enqaba ukukhuluma ngalolu daba, ungapheli amandla, zama ukumenza agobe kwesinye isikhathi futhi njalo akhulume ngokusuka othandweni.
Ungamhluleli njengomqambimanga noma isela yahlulela ukuziphatha noma isenzo, kodwa ungamgxeki njengomuntu omubi. Ukujeziswa kanzima akusebenzi, futhi abanye abatholi akwenzayo, noma izinsongo. Lokhu kuzokhulisa okuningi okuningi amanga, ukufutheka, intukuthelo, intukuthelo nokuhlubuka.
Okubalulekile ukuthi ingane yakho icabange ngalokho ekwenzile, iveze ukuthi ingethembekile futhi ukumemezela uma ngabe kwenzekile kwezinye izikhathi. Ezimweni eziningi kufanele uthathe izinyathelo zokubuyisa lokho okutshontshile futhi uxolise kunoma ngubani odingekayo.
Kuyadingeka ukuthi uma ethembekile naye Ngikuklomelisa ngokufinyelela kuleli banga. Ungamphathi njengesigebengu futhi ungalahli ithemba kuyeUkusuka lapha kungabonakala ukuthi abazali bazizwa bethanda futhi bencoma izingane zabo. Kungokunye futhi okwenzelwa indodana yakho eyeve eshumini nambili uzizwe uvikeleke kakhulu futhi wandise ukuzethemba kwakho.