Ikhefu liyingxenye ejabulisayo nenenhlalo, lapho izingane ziyijabulela imidlalo yazo, zigwema isikhala sazo futhi zinqamule ukuxhuma. Kodwa kwenzekani lapho indodana yethu idlala yodwa ngesikhathi sekhefu? Mhlawumbe ingane incane kakhulu futhi idinga umdlalo ngamunye, noma kungenzeka lapho ingane isikhule kakhulu futhi ihambahamba ebaleni lokudlala noma igwema ukuba seduze nezingane futhi ifuna ukuya emtatsheni wezincwadi ukuyofunda.
Ukuthi udlala yedwa kungaholela ochungechungeni lwezinkinga okufanele zihlolwe. Konke kungancika kubudala bengane noma isitayela semfundo ukuthi uthatha ekhaya futhi lokho kwenza ingane ibe nombono ohlukile wempilo. Noma kunjalo, umfana noma intombazane idinga ukudlala, bebodwa noma bephelezelwa, njengoba kunikeza ukufunda kwabo nokuhlangabezana nempilo.
Kunini lapho kuwuphawu lokukhathazeka uma ingane yakho idlala yodwa ngesikhathi sekhefu?
Izingane zihlala izigaba zazo zokuhlalisana, ukuzwelana nokudlala ngokuhlukile kuye ngeminyaka yakho. Eminyakeni emibili kuya kwemi-2 abancane abasazweli, izifiso zabo zisafuna ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zabo futhi babheke konke okubazungezile ukuze baqale ukuzwa impilo. Kule minyaka bangaqala ukuba nentshisekelo kulo mdlalo, kepha namanje ngawodwana, bayathanda ukudlala nabazali babo noma umngani omncane, kepha abanankinga ukukwenza wedwa. Eminyakeni engu-4 ubudala, usevele ufuna ukuhlanganyela imidlalo yakhe nabanyeBaqala ukuba nobungane kakhudlwana futhi lapho-ke lapho beqala khona ukuthuthukisa ukuphathwa kwabo nabangani nasesikoleni.
Kufanele ngikhathazeke nini?
Sesishilo ukuthi ingane ngayinye ithuthuka ngendlela ehlukile kwezinye ezinye, kodwa indlela aziphatha ngayo ingakhathaza lapho eguquke ngokuzumayo futhi sibona ukuthi unendlela yokwenza ngokuhlukile kunezinye izingane. Singasola futhi uma kungahambisani nokukhuliswa esikunikeze enye yezingane zethu.
- Uma uneminyaka ephakathi kwengu-2 nengu-4 uthanda ukuba wedwa futhi udale amaphethini wokuhamba angajwayelekile, njengokuthintitha noma ukuzamazama, ukuzishaya, ukuncinza, ukushaya ikhanda, njll.
- Lapho usekhefini noma epaki elizungezwe yizingane futhi kuyamkhathaza ukuthi badlala kanjani futhi bayamemeza, kumethusa konke ukunyakaza, lapho zigijima noma zigxuma.
- Lapho usufinyelele eminyakeni engu-5 futhi ufuna ukuba wedwa, ayifuni ukuya esikoleni, ayikhulumi ngomngane ekilasini layo, ayimemi umngane wayo emzini wayo noma iphawula ukuthi abangane besikole abafuni ukuba nayo.
Ungayisiza kanjani ingane lapho ikulesi simo
Abazali nothisha bavame ukuxhumana ezimeni ezinjalo. Abazali abaningi bazizwa bekhathazeke kakhulu ngalesi simo futhi bangaya Izikhathi zokufundisa nezomndeni. Lapha ingane izobhekwa ngeso lokhozi nokuthi kuzohlolwa kanjani ukuthi kuzokwenziwa kanjani ngendlela ehlelekile.
Abazali badlala indima ebalulekile yokwesekwa. Njalo kufanele wamukele indlela enza ngayo futhi umenze abone ukuthi angaguquka kanjani ngothando oluningi nozwela ukushintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo. Kuyadingeka ukudalula konke okuhlukile nezimo ezingakunikeza futhi ubone ukuthi ungaxhumana kanjani nakho konke.
Kukhona lokho kumenze azamukele nokuthi uthanda ezinye izingane ngendlela efanayo ngenhlonipho. Akuzakhi nakancane ukuqhathanisa ingane nezinye izingane noma nezingane zakwabo. Futhi akufanele sikhombise ukuthi isizungu sibi, njengoba besilokhu sitshelwa njalo. Abantu abadala kumele babe yisibonelo sokuqala, Kumele babone ukuthi siyabazwela abanye nokuthi sisondelene nabanye obaba nomama.
Musa njalo ukuphoqa ingane ukuthi yenze into engafuni ukuyenza. Futhi ungamphakeli ukuthi uyisisulu, futhi ungamdabukeli lapho ebona ukuthi akenzanga okulungile ukumsiza akhule. Ingane ingahlala ikhuthazwa ngendlela ekhululekile yokuhlanganisa nokudlala ngokwemvelo nezinye izingane. Ngaphambi kokulala ungakhuluma ngalokho okwenzile usuku lonke futhi uhlole ukuthi zingaki izinto ezinhle ozenzile. Nathi singenza okufanayo lapho ebuya esikoleni.
Kumele sikwamukele lokho izingane zethu badinga ukukhula nokukhulisa imizwa yabo ngejubane labo, nezinselelo okufanele babhekane nazo empilweni yabo. Uma senza konke ngothando nangokuzimisela, singasiza ingane ukuthi ibe ngumuntu omdala ohlanganiswe ngokuphelele emphakathini.