Omama abancelise ibele ngemali ephansi noma ephezulu bayazi ukuthi ngesinye sezahluko ezivaliwe ngaphakathi kokuhle kakhulu komama. Kuyinto engcono kakhulu esingayinikeza izingane zethu futhi isiteji sesivele sivaliwe, kodwa kwenzekani lapho ingane yakho ufuna ukuncelisa futhi?
Akungabazeki kuyinto ekhetheke kakhulu, kepha ukuthi omama abaningi bayadlula futhi babelana njengamacala angajwayelekile. Akujwayelekile ukuthi ingane ibe neminyaka engu-6 noma engu-7, ngokwesibonelo, bese iphinda ikwenza futhi. isicelo sokuncelisa futhi.
Kungani ingane yami ifuna ukuncelisa futhi?
Kwenzeka kakhulu ezinganeni ezinokunamathisela okuphezulu kunina noma ukuhlehla okuphezulu ngesimo esithile esibacindezelayo. Ukufika kukabhuti omncane Futhi, lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lwenziwa futhi ngezinye izizathu kungadingeka cabanga kancane kungani kufunwa okuthile okungafanele ukulingana.
Baningi omama abathi benze umbuzo wabo kumanethiwekhi, indodana yakho eneminyaka emihlanu icela ibele futhi, njengoba nomfowabo onezinyanga eziyi-5 enza okufanayo. Noma icala lomunye umama olumulise indodakazi yakhe eneminyaka emihlanu kwathi uma esehlanganisa iminyaka engu-7 wabuza ukuthi angaphinda yini ancenge futhi. Konke lokhu ukuhlanganisa nenye indodakazi yakhe eneminyaka engu-5, okuba icala elijwayelekile emantombazaneni. Izingane zicabanga ukuthi kuyinto ejwayelekile ukubuza isifuba noma ngabe usuke ungekho ekhaya, yize useminyakeni ethile kufanele qaphela kancane esimweni esinjalo.
Izimbangela eziyinhloko ezingaholela ekunceliseni ibele
Isizathu esiyinhloko esivame ukuhlanganiswa yilapho sikhona ubukhona bomfowethu. Imbangela umona, ukulahleka kokuvelela ayekade enakho futhi ngenhloso yokuthola ukunakwa kwabazali.
Imvamisa kwenzeka kubantwana abaneminyaka emithathu ubudala lapho beqala isigaba sabo sesikole. Yisikhathi esihambisana noshintsho olukhulu nalapho ungabona khona ukuthi uyakhula. Ukuqala kwesikole akuyona inguquko enkulu ngoba izingane ikakhulukazi zifunda ngemidlalo eminingi. Kepha ezinye izingane zihlobanisa nokungaziwa, ushintsho olukhulu futhi luyabethusa.
Kukhona izingane ezisesigabeni seminyaka emithathu kuya kwemihlanu nazo ezibukayo isiqalo esihle semithwalo yemfanelo. Bazizwa bengakwazi ukwenza izibopho ezifana nalezo zesikole futhi baqala ngokuhlehla nokwesaba ukukhula. Mhlawumbe ngiyazi bafuna ukuzwa "izingane" futhi Futhi kulapho-ke lapho befuna ukuncelisa futhi, bafuna ukuphuza ubisi oluvela ebhodleleni noma ukubuyela emuva ukondla i-pacifier.
Esinye futhi isizathu esidabukisa kakhulu lapho bengakwazi ngizwile ukulahlekelwa yilungu lomndeni. Uma ingane izwa ukusondelana okukhulu futhi inobudlelwano obuhle, unga ngizizwe ngididekile futhi ngididekile. Ukuzisola emikhubeni yakudala kuyindlela yokuphinda usebenzise lezo zikhathi ebezinikeza ukuvikelwa okungaka.
Uma abazali belwa njalo futhi abukho ubudlelwano obuhle, futhi ungathola ukungazinzi ekhaya ngenxa yezimpi futhi lokho kuyadala ukwesaba nokungazethembi. Izingane ziheha ukunakwa ngokufuna ukuphinde zibe yizingane, zikhulume sengathi zingabantwana abancane kakhulu, zilale kabi, zithathe imikhuba yengane futhi zizimanzise ngokwazo
Yini esingayenza thina bazali lapho kunokubuyela emuva?
Kunezindlela eziningi zokuyixazulula futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ngizama ukubekezela kakhulu. Kufanele uzame ungayithethisi ingane futhi ugweme imishwana engemihle. Uma bengavumi ukuvumela imicabango yabo, kufanele siwaqonde futhi sichaze ukuthi kunezinto ezingasafani neminyaka yabo, futhi ezihlala zikhona ngothando.
Impela ingane ifuna ukunakwa okuningi nesikhathi nabazali babo futhi uma kungaba semandleni akho kufanele ukwenze. Kepha ungagcizeleli ukuthi ingane noma usebenzise amagama anjengokuthi "uyingane", kufanele ubekezele kakhulu, wehlise umoya. Kufanele uzizwe uthando nenhlonipho ngalokho abakuzwayo futhi ubaqondise ngalelo gunya abasinike lona ukuze babe nomhlahlandlela ezimpilweni zabo.