Baningi abazali abafuna izingane zabo zithule zihlale zithe cwaka, zihlale ezihlalweni zazo zingabangi umsindo ... kubukeka sengathi ukuthula kufana nemfundo enhle nokuthi uma ingane ibanga umsindo abazali bayahluleka ebuzalweni babo. Iphutha elingathi sína. Ingane ehlala izithulele futhi ihlale esihlalweni ngenxa yokwesaba nokwesaba ukuziphindiselela kubazali bayo, ngeke ikhule kahle nokubi ... Uzokhula endaweni enobutha neyobushiqela.
Ukuze ingane inyakaze futhi ibange umsindo yinto ejwayelekile kunazo zonke emhlabeni ... lapho ingahambi, kulapho kufanele uqale ukukhathazeka futhi uze uyiyise kudokotela uma kunesidingo. Ukuthi ingane ayidlali, ayinyakazi noma ayibangi msindo akuyona neze into ejwayelekile. Omncane lapho ejabule uyobe engalawuleki.
Hace no mucho en Madres Hoy os sikhuluma nge-phobia yengane, noma yini efanayo ... lapho umuntu omdala (imvamisa engenazo izingane) engaqondi kahle ukuthi ubuntwana buyini futhi bacabanga ukuthi ingane iyacasula futhi lapho bephansi kakhulu kubo bayoba ntofontofo ngokwengeziwe. Kepha lokhu kungenxa yokuthi abaqondi ngempela ukuthi buyini ubuntwana nokuthi yini abayidingayo ukuze bakhule kahle.
Izingane zidinga ukuzizwa zixhumene
Indlela eqinisekile yokukhuthaza inhlalakahle engokomzwelo ezimpilweni zezingane ukuzisiza zizizwe zixhumene namanye amalungu omndeni, abangane, omakhelwane, othisha, izilwane ezifuywayo, abangane ... Lokhu kuxhumana kubanikeza ukuphepha nokuvikelwa, okuthile okubalulekile ukukhuthaza ukucabanga okuhle nenjabulo.
Lokhu kuxhumana kuhlobene nokuthandwa, ukuqondwa, ukufunwa nokwaziwa - konke lokhu kungukuvikela okukhulu ekulweni nengcindezi engokomzwelo, imicabango yokuzibulala kanye nokuziphatha okuyingozi kakhulu ngokuzayo. Y ukuze konke lokhu kwenzeke kudingekile ukuthi izingane zihlonishwe ... ukuthi abaphili bengenasisekelo sokwesaba noma ngokukhuliswa ngobushiqela lapho isijeziso nemithetho eqinile kuyinsakavukela.
Izingane zidinga ukuba izingane futhi ngalokho kufanele zihlonishwe ngumuntu omdala. Umuntu omdala kufanele aqonde ukuthi yiziphi izigaba zokukhula kwezingane zabo esigabeni ngasinye ukuze bakwazi ukuzihlonipha futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuqonda abakudingayo ngesikhathi ngasinye sokuziphendukela kwemvelo.
Uthando olungenamibandela
Ukukhombisa le nhlonipho ezinganeni, ukuze ziqonde ukuthi siyakwazi abakudingayo nokuthi kufanele kube yini ... kuzomelwe sibonise uthando lwethu olungenamibandela ngabo futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, sivumelane nezimo ezimeni zosuku ngalunye. Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi imithetho nemikhawulo kufanele kube khona, Kuyiqiniso futhi ukuthi kumele babekhona ngaphakathi kwesiyalo esihle futhi naphakathi kohlaka lapho kufundiswa ngemizwa yiba umlingiswa oyinhloko emzuzwini ngamunye.
Lapho ingane imemeza noma itatazela kakhulu, kuyadingeka ukuthi uphendule ngozwela, badinga ukuthi ubafundele izindaba ebusuku, badle ndawonye nsuku zonke, bagone kusofa ngenkathi nibukele uhlelo lwethelevishini oluthandayo, dlalani ndawonye, ukuthi niyapenda, nihleka ndawonye nsuku zonke, udinga ukuthi umange futhi umtshele ukuthi umthanda kangakanani kabili kathathu ngosuku… uyaqaphela? Yizinto ezilula kakhulu ukuthi zingenziwa ngokuzikhandla, akunjalo?
Ukuze ingane yakho ijabule, ngaphezu kokwenza umsindo, kufanele futhi unikeze namathuba wokuthi wakhe ukuxhumana okuthandekayo nabo. Ubudlelwano bezenhlalo yizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ezinikela enjabulweni yabantu. Ukuze ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu banoma ibuphi ubudala busebenze futhi bube sezingeni, inhlonipho ngomunye iyohlala idingeka njalo ... naphakathi kwabantu abadala maqondana nezingane, hhayi enye indlela kuphela.
Izingane azihluphi
Izingane azihluphi, ngumbono womuntu omdala ohlanekezelwe. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi izingane kufanele zifunde ukwazi ukuthi zingaba kanjani ezindaweni zomphakathi, kodwa futhi kuyiqiniso ukuthi umhlaba wabantu abadala awubekezeleli kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi. Ukuzivumelanisa nezimo kuyisiqinisekiso sokwenza izinto zisebenze kahle, ngoba lokhu umhlaba wabantu abadala kufanele uphumule futhi ushiye lokho kucindezeleka ngokomzwelo emazingeni aphakeme kakhulu, ukuze ubone ukuthi empilweni esedlule kukho nokuthi izingane ... nazo ziyikusasa lethu.
Izingane zikhula zibe nempilo futhi zijabule, ziqine futhi zikwazi ukucabanga, zidale futhi zijabulele umzuzu ... kumele sibavumele bakwenze lapho kufanele: njengezingane. Ngoba lapho bekhula, bayoba abantu abadala abaphumelelayo.
Umqondo wengane uyakhula nowomuntu omdala, kufanele ushintshe
Kulula kanjalo. Umqondo wengane kufanele ukhule futhi nomqondo womuntu omdala kumele uqaphele ukuthi kukhona eminye imibono edinga ukuthi ihlolwe ukuze iqonde ubuntwana.. Umuntu omdala kufanele abe nozwela kakhulu futhi abe nenhlonipho enkulu kubazali nezingane ezindaweni zomphakathi. Kuyahlekisa ukuthi labo bantu abadala abangabazali bazwela kanjani ngokushesha - ngokujwayelekile - kepha labo abangenabo abantwana bavame ukugxeka abazali babo ... futhi bacabange izinto ezinjengokuthi: 'Lokhu ngeke kwenzeke kimi'. Ngokusobala isikhathi sizosiza laba bantu baqonde uma bengabazali ngelinye ilanga lokho kuzokwenzeka nakubo futhi lokho akusho ukuthi ababona abazali abalungile.
Kuhle vele ukuthi kunabantu abadala abavimbela ukungena kwezingane kweminye imicimbi - futhi nabazali. Uya kude kangakanani lo mphakathi? Yize, njengengane, kufanele ihlonishwe, ilungelo lokuthula lalaba bantu futhi ... Kumele sikhombise futhi siqonde ngasikhathi sinye ukuthi abantu abadala bayisibonelo sezingane, bazozizwa kanjani lapho bengavunyelwe ukungena kumasayithi noma ukuhambela imicimbi nabazali babo ngoba nje bengabantwana?
Izingane zifuna ukuthinta yonke into, ukuzama, ukudlala, ukuhleka nokumemeza ... futhi kuyinto okufanele siyihloniphe. Uma sibaphoqa ukuba bathule, bakhulume phansi, bangasuki endaweni yabo, bafake i-TV ukuze bahlale ... uzoba nengane enokwesaba, ukungazethembi, ukuvumelana ... Imizwa akufanele ihlolwe noma isifiso sokuhlola umhlaba. Ubuntwana bunomsindo futhi buyafana nezingane ezijabulayo nabazali abahle ... masikhumbule ukuthi ukuguquguquka nenhlonipho kubalulekile kuzo zombili izinkomba.