Ezinyangeni ezedlule sithathe izinyathelo phambili ekuboneni iqiniso elibuhlungu lokuzibulala kwentsha. Yebo, ikhona futhi ukukhuluma ngayo kuyadingeka. Uchungechunge lwentsha njenge "Ngezizathu eziyishumi nantathu" Baye bagxila kuyo, kepha ama-taboos asekhona.
Ukuzibulala kuyimbangela yesibili ehamba phambili yokufa phakathi kweminyaka engu-15-29 (WHO, 2013). Eminyakeni yamuva lezi zibalo zilokhu zikhuphuka, futhi ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezineminyaka eyishumi kuya kwengu-10. Idatha ishiya indawo yokungabaza, kufanele sikhulume ngayo. Kumele sizazi izingozi, ukuze sibhekane nazo. Kulokhu, ukuvimbela nokwazi imihlahlandlela yokuziphatha okufanele kusixwayise, kubalulekile.
ESpain izibalo zinzima ngendlela efanayo, abantu abayishumi bazibulala ngosuku. Kubo bonke abantu abayishumi, abayisikhombisa ngabesilisa, ngakho-ke umehluko phakathi kobulili ubaluleke kakhulu. Izimbangela zalokhu kwehluka ziyehlukahluka, kugqamisa phakathi kwazo izinsizakusebenza kanye namandla amakhulu abesifazane okubeka imizwa ngamagama. Lezi zici zinengxenye enkulu yezenhlalo, ngakho-ke, ukufundiswa ngokomzwelo zisencane futhi ngaphandle kokwehlukaniswa kobulili, kuyinsika ebalulekile yokwazi ukuqala ukulwa nale ngozi njengoba izingane zikhula.
Kepha leli qiniso ezweni lethu liyambozwa, licwile ngaphansi kwe- ukucwaswa okukhulu emphakathini. Ukuzibulala kufihlwe ngaphansi "kwezingozi emsebenzini", "izimbangela zokufa ezingacacisiwe", njalonjalo. Asifuni ukukhuluma ngakho kuyisihloko esingavunyelwe. Ihlazo, umuzwa wecala, ukuzisola, ukwenqatshwa, ukungaqondi ... konke kungavela, kepha akukho okusisizayo ukunciphisa lesi simo.
Akuyona nje eyokuphambana nomphakathi kuphela, kodwa futhi kuyindlela yezombusazwe. Ukungabi bikho kwemigomo esebenzayo ehlose ukwehlisa isibalo sabantu abakhetha ukuzibulala kuyateleka. Amazwe aseYurophu asebenzisa izinqubomgomo zokuvimbela ezikoleni nakwabezindaba, izwe lethu lisesekude nalo. Inkolelo yomphumela wokulingisa inamandla amakhulu, futhi imisa imikhankaso yokuvimbela. Kuyiqiniso, uma imininingwane kungabhekwana nayo ngokufanele ngemithombo yezindaba, ngeke sifeze izinhloso zokwehlisa nokuqwashisa, kepha ingabe isixazululo siyadlula ingasaphathwa eyeqiniso lamanje? Mhlawumbe ochwepheshe bokuqeqesha ekudluliseni imininingwane ebucayi kangaka kungasiza kakhulu?
Abanye amasiginali we-alamu ukuthi umndeni nabangane kufanele babe nomqondo ekuvikeleni ukuzibulala kwentsha yile:
- Khuluma ngokufa. Imibono ngokufa njengokuthi "Ngingathanda ukunyamalala", "Ngingagxuma ngingabi lapha", noma uhlobo oluthile lokuzilimaza, njll.
- Yiba nokulahlekelwa kwakamuva. Ukulahlekelwa yisihlobo, idivosi, ukuhlukana, njll.
- Ukuzenyeza. Kubonakala ngokulahlekelwa kwakhe ngumdlandla ezintweni ezazimgqugquzela phambilini, imishwana engemihle ngaye noma ngekusasa lakhe, njll.
- Shintsha ebuntwini nasekuziphatheni. Kuyadabukisa, ukuhoxa, ubunzima bokugxila emsebenzini wesikole, njll.
- Isifiso esengeziwe noma esinciphile.
- Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukulawula. Inkolelo yokuthi awukwazi ukuzilawula wena noma umhlaba wakho.
- Ungabi nethemba ngekusasa lakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi ikusasa lakho alisho lutho, noma ukuthi awunalo ikusasa.
Ukuzibulala kuyinto eyinkimbinkimbi futhi kunzima ukubikezela ngokunembile ukuthi ekugcineni abantu abasha benze isinqumo sokuzibulala. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuthola lezi zinto ezinobungozi kusenesikhathi. Kuphela ngokwelashwa okufanele, ngochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo, lapho singanciphisa khona kakhulu ingozi. Ukwehla kwemizwelo, kanye nezinye izinto ezinjengokuzethemba okuphansi noma ushintsho emaphethini wokuziphatha, kufanele kube ngokwanele ukucela usizo. Uma indodana yethu ingakwazi ukuyicela, kubalulekile ukuthi sikwenzele yona futhi nayo.
Ukuxhumana nezingane zethu kubalulekile kunoma yisiphi isigaba sempilo yazo, noma kunjalo, ebusheni kubaluleke kakhulu. Izinguquko eziningi ezinkulu zebhayoloji nezengqondo abaqala ukubhekana nazo zibenza babe sengozini. Ukuzwa ukuzwa, ukuqondwa nokuthandwa kuzobavumela ukuthi babe nezinsizakusebenza zokucela usizo noma bavumele abanye ukuthi basize ukubacela.