Ukulahlekelwa yindodana noma yindodakazi kungenye yezimo ezimbi kakhulu ezingavuka, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ukuthi lelobhadi livela. Noma kunjalo kuba nzima nakakhulu lapho ukufa kwenzeka esemncane. Siyazi ukuthi akukho lutho oluzokwazi ukudambisa ubuhlungu nokungabikho, kepha ngandlela thile sifuna ukukusiza noma ukusiza labo abaseduze nawe ukuba bahloniphe futhi benze le duel ibekezeleke kakhudlwana. Siphakamisa ezinye zezinto ongazenza ukukhumbula ingane yakho.
Abazali abaningi bahlonipha inkumbulo yengane yabo ngokuzama shintsha imithetho lokho, ngandlela thize noma ngokungaqondile, kubangele ukufa. Abanye bacela ukubamba iqhaza njengo amavolontiya ezinhlanganweni, amaphrojekthi ocwaningo noma ama-NGO indikimba yayo isifo sokufa.
Ukuveza ukulahlekelwa nosizi
Wonke umuntu uveza imizwa yakhe ngendlela ehlukile. Konke kuvumelekile. Kukhona abazokuveza abakwenzayo esidlangalaleni, abanye bayazivimba, baphephele enkolweni, bagqashule ngakho konke. Iqiniso liwukuthi abazali badideke ngokuphelele futhi ngindindizele lapho ngibhekene naleli qiniso elisha elibuhlungu.
Kuyabonakala ukuthi ngenxa yengcindezi enamandla engokomzimba nengokomzwelo okushiwo ukulahlekelwa yingane, amasosha omzimba wabazali abasosizini azoncipha. Kuvamile ukuba nezinkinga zokulala nokudla, ukuzwa ingcindezi nobuhlungu esifubeni, ukulahleka kwememori, ukungakwazi ukugxila, ukungabi nesifiso sobulili, ukukhathala ngokomzimba, ukungathandi, ikhanda elibuhlungu, ukucasuka nezinye izimpawu. Ukusekelwa kochwepheshe kubalulekile ukuqapha impilo yakho. Ukusetshenziswa kotshwala, izidakamizwa kanye / noma imishanguzo yokugwema ukubonakaliswa kosizi akukhuthazwa. Kufanele uhlale uthintana nabachwepheshe.
Es ungaba nemibono yokuzwa ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokuqala, uyamuzwa ekubiza noma akhale, imizwa yokudlulela nokubukwayo. Ungayibona emgwaqweni noma ekhaya, futhi kuyiqiniso ukuthi uzoqhubeka uyihogela, okuxakayo ukuthi umuzwa wokuthi sithatha isikhathi eside ukukhohlwa. Konke kunenqubo yako. Zinike isikhathi, isikhathi esiningi.
Yeka ukuthi kulula kanjani ukusho!
Siyazi ukuthi kulula kakhulu ukukusho, kodwa kholwa yikho, indlela engcono yokuhlonipha inkumbulo yalabo abashonile ukubamba iqhaza futhi empilweni. Bona ithuba elihle impilo ekunikeze lona lokuhlanganyela ngalesi sikhathi nengane yakho.
Siyazi ukuthi kunzima kakhulu, kodwa zama ukubekezelela imizwa yakho. Isikhathi ngasinye owabelane naye ngaso sonke isikhathi sizoba senhliziyweni yakho. Ngenxa yendodana nendodakazi yakho, ulubonile uthando lokuba ngumama futhi lelo qiniso lizohlala likhona kuwe.
Kulesi sihloko Sifuna ukukukhombisa izibonelo zabazali abenze uguquko lwalobo buhlungu. Vele, wonke umuntu kufanele athole indlela yakhe, kepha mhlawumbe eminye yale mibono ingakusiza kweyakho.
Kukhona ukusebenzisana yemindeni elahlekelwe yizingane zayo ezimweni ezibuhlungu, njengobushiqela, impi, ukuhlaselwa kwamaphekula, izingozi zomgwaqo ... Kulezi zinhlangano uzothola ukwesekwa nabantu, omama nobaba, abazozwa ubuhlungu bokulahlekelwa ingane noma indodakazi, engeza iqiniso lokuthi lokhu kwenzeke kungalindelekile. Uma lokhu kuyindaba yakho, buza kubo.
Abaculi abanikele umsebenzi wabo ezinganeni zabo
Angazi noma uyazi yini ukuthi uPaula yincwadi ayibhalile U-Isabel Allende ukubhekana nokushona kwendodakazi yakhe. Le ntombazane yayisekuqulekeni izinyanga eziyi-12, futhi ngendaba esondelene nemizwa umbhali uzilungiselela umphumela, ngaphandle kokulahla ithemba lesimangaliso, nokulila. Lokhu kube wukuhlonishwa kwenkumbulo yakhe.
Indaba ye Izinyembezi ezulwini, ngu-Eric Clapton, ukuthi ekupheleni kukaMashi 1991 ulahlekelwe yindodana yakhe eneminyaka emine uConor engozini eyenzeka egumbini lehhotela.
Lezi izibonelo ezimbili nje ezaziwa kakhulu, kepha noma yikuphi ukuqeqeshwa kobuciko, itiyetha, umculo, ukudweba, konke kungakusiza ukuveza ubuhlungu bakho. Y ungasiza abanye abantu ukuthi bakuphelezele futhi uqonde okwakho.