Ser umama Yinto efunwa yilowo nalowo wesifazane ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yakhe, kusuka ku-30-35 uma owesifazane engakabi nayo izingane kulapho-ke lapho evame ukucabanga ngokuba ngumama noma cha. Ukuthi sinomlingani ozinzile noma cha, siyazi ukuthi isikhathi siqala ukudlula futhi kufanele sikhethe phakathi kokuba noma ukungabi naye inzalo.
Al vuka lo mbuzo udala ukungqubuzana okufanele okwenziwe ngumcabango social ukuthi owesifazane ngokushesha noma kamuva kufanele abe nenzalo. Eqinisweni, lapho owesifazane ethatha isinqumo sokungabatholi abantwana, uvame ukukuthethelela ngakho izinhloso kube sengathi uyaxolisa okungafanele kube njalo. Kunosuku lapho owesifazane ezicabangela njengomama, uqala ukubona ukhulelwe yonke indawo, siconsa amathe sibona ezinye izingane noma ngokuzumayo sizibona sibheka izingubo noma omagazini kusuka ukubeletha… Lokhu yilokho okubizwa ngewashi lemvelo. Abesifazane bathathe izindima ezahlukahlukene ngokuba omama noma ukusebenza Kusekhaya kuphela, sijoyine umhlaba womsebenzi, siyafunda, sizimele ... futhi sikuhlonipha kakhulu ukuzinza ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokuba omama, umsebenzi, ukuzinza ngokomzwelo noma uzakwethu, ukuba nekhaya ...
Namuhla ubudala abezindaba kowesifazane ukuba nezingane uneminyaka ephakathi kwengama-25 nengama-32 ubudala, owokugcina kube yiminyaka lapho ukuzala kwehla khona kanye nezingozi zokukhulelwa ngenxa yobudala okamama ukwanda. Ngenxa yezingozi ezengeziwe ezihambisana nobudala bukanina, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi iningi lezingane zizalwa ziphilile.
Akufanele sithi leli khono lokuthola izingane abesifazane abanalo liyamangalisa njengoba isipiliyoni ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nangokubopha futhi lokho futhi kuyisisekelo esiyisisekelo sokuqinisekisa ukuthi ukuqhubeka bohlobo lomuntu. Kepha lokhu ukubeletha akufanele kube ikusasa kuyadingeka kepha inketho yamahhala kuwo wonke umuntu wesifazane lapho anganikeza khona uthando nokunakekela ingane ayilethayo.