Ubusha yisikhathi esinzima kakhulu, lapho abafana kufanele babhekane nezinguquko eziningi zamahomoni, zomzimba nezingokomzwelo. Ukuba nomfowenu ukwazi ubungani obujulile, kepha futhi kusho ukuba nembangi yokubhekana nayo nsuku zonke. Ukuba ngumuntu osemusha akulula, kepha ukwabelana ngendawo nenye intsha esesimweni esifanayo kuncane kakhulu.
Lokhu kungahumusha kube yizimpikiswano, izimpi zamandla, ukungaboni ngaso linye, nobudlelwano obubi phakathi kwezelamani. Okungaholela ekutheni ucabange ukuthi intsha yakho iyazondana. Kodwa-ke, inzondo ingumuzwa obucayi kakhulu, okunzima ukuwuqonda uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano phakathi kwezelamani. Ngakho-ke, noma ngabe lobo budlelwano obubi bungakukhathaza kanjani, cabanga ukuthi kungenzeka kube yinto yesikhashana.
Umona uyimbangela eyinhloko yengxabano phakathi kwezelamani, into engokwemvelo ngokuphelele uma kubhekwa ukuthi babelana ngendawo, yonke into ekhaya futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, uthando lwabazali. Ebusheni bakhe futhi efuna ukuthola indawo yakhe emhlabeni, kunzima kakhulu ukucabanga ukuthi kukhona omunye omi endleleni yakho. Kakhulu lapho esengomunye osemusha onezimo ezifanayo, naye ongumfowenu.
Ngabe kufanele ngizibeke phakathi kwabo?
Njengomama noma ubaba, kufanele ugweme ukuthatha uhlangothi lwengane yakho eyodwa, ngoba enye ngokungangabazeki iyozizwa ishiya ikhaya futhi ingaqondwa kahle. Futhi akufanele uzibe izingxabano zabo, noma ukunciphisa okungahle kwenzeke phakathi kwabo. Imvamisa kuthathwa njengokujwayelekile ukuthi yizinto ezijwayelekile phakathi kwezelamani, kepha ukungangeneleli nakho kunezingozi zako.
Bangakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo komunye nomunye, kodwa futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ibanga phakathi kwabo linyuke bese kufika iphuzu lapho bengahlangene ngalutho. Empeleni, eziningi izingane zakubo ezindala ziyayeka ukukhuluma zodwa, ngisahlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo. Futhi lokhu kungumphumela we ukungazi ukuthi ungazisingatha kanjani izinkinga okwamanje.
Ngenzenjani uma ngicabanga ukuthi izingane zami ezisakhula ziyazondana
Ukuthola imbangela yalobo budlelwano obubi kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuthola isisombululo, ngoba yize benokungezwani, kusengabazalwane abahlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo. Bonke abantu abahlala endlini kumele bahlangane nabanye imithetho yokuhlalisana, edlula ekuhlonipheni abanye. Ngakho-ke, izingane zakho kuzofanele zikhulume ngesizotha komunye nomunye futhi zihloniphe izinto zomfowabo nendawo.
Intsha enabo bonke ubunzima bayo ayazi ukuthi kunezinto eziningi emhlabeni, abantu abaningi, izinkinga eziningi. Bakudinga ukuthi ube eceleni kwabo, ubalalele futhi ubaqonde, yize ngawe, okwenzeka kubo kuyinto engasile noma engabalulekile. Zama ukukhuluma nezingane zakho ngokwehlukana, ngaphandle kokubahlulela futhi kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuzibekela wena noma uphikisane nomunye wabo.
Inzalo evamile
Yize bengaboni ukuthi bafana kangakanani, cishe banokufana okuningi kunalokho abakubonayo. Bangabazalwane, ngakho-ke bazoba nethonya elifanayo kumculo, ukuzijabulisa, ukufunda noma izinto zokuzilibazisa. Ubusha buhamba nezinguquko eziningi nokuthi yiluphi usuku abaluthanda ngosuku olulandelayo abazonda ngalo. Kepha baseyizingane ekuguqukeni okugcwele kuze kube semdala abakuqondi.
Zama ukudala izikhathi lapho izinkumbulo zobuntwana bakho, imidlalo phakathi kwezingane zakini, uhambo emoyeni ovulekile noma esinye isimo esivumela ukuba bavele khumbula ukuthi yize behlukene, bayathandana. Izibopho zabo ezingokomzwelo zinamandla ngaphezu kwanoma yimuphi umbango. Noma ngabe kwesinye isikhathi uzizwa sengathi izingane zakho ezisakhula ziyazondana, khumbula ukuthi ubunye bazo bujule kakhulu nokuthi ngokubekezela, uthando nokuqonda, bangaxazulula noma iyiphi inkinga.
Ukuba nokwehluka kuyinto evamile, ngisho naphakathi kwabantu abathandanayo. Kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwano obunezinkinga kunezinkinga, ezindabeni zothando, ebunganeni nasebudlelwaneni bomndeni. Fundisa izingane zakho ukuzithanda ngamandla azo nobuthakathaka bazo, futhi ngalokho bayofunda ukwamukela nokuthanda abanye abantu ngendlela efanayo.