Izinguquko ezingokwengqondo ebusheni ziphawuleka kakhulu. Bafinyelela esikhathini ekuphileni kwabo lapho yonke into ibonakala ishintsha, lapho kunezinto eziningi okufanele zinqunywe, futhi yilapho bedweba khona ubunjalo obusha. Nakuba izinguquko zomzimba ziphawulekayo, ezingokwengqondo azikude kakhulu. Ngakho-ke nakubo kuzoba ukushaqeka okukhulu.
Ngakho-ke, sekuyisikhathi sokufunda ngezinguquko ezizotholwa intsha yethu nokuthi, njengomthetho ojwayelekile, ngaso sonke isikhathi Zixhunyaniswe nokuzicabangela okukhulu, ekuziphatheni okuyimpoqo kakhulu noma ekubeni sengozini enkulu, phakathi kwabaningi. Zonke zivamile futhi nakuba zingaveli ngokulinganayo kubo bonke abantu abasha, zifika ukuze zibonakale ngokucacile.
Bathuthukisa 'I' yabo entsha
Izinguquko zengqondo ebusheni zihlangana no-'I' omusha. Kumuntu osevele eqala ukucabanga ngendlela ehlukile futhi onemibono yakhe, imigomo nokunye okuningi. Ukucabanga ngezihloko ezintsha kuzoba yizinto ezihamba phambili zosuku futhi futhi, bazowazisa kakhulu umbono abanye abanawo ngaye. Lokhu kuhlotshaniswa nalezo zinguquko ze-hormonal ezibaluleke kakhulu ngakho-ke, isithombe siba ngenye yezinto ezigxilwe kakhulu zokunakwa.
I-Egocentrism isekhona kakhulu
Abayeki ukuba ama-protagonists noma ukuthi bafuna ukuba njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Nakuba befinyelela kwesinye isigaba sempilo yabo, lona uzophinde azungeze yena, nakuba ngenye indlela. Ngoba manje kuzobe kuyibhungu uqobo lwayo eligxile kukho futhi akafuni abazali basondelane kakhulu. Yebo, lawo mahora okuba yedwa ekamelweni azoqala ukuvama. Ngendlela efanayo kuyobe kuwukungazitsheli izinto eziningi futhi uzivalele wena kancane. Sesishilo ukuthi iphethini efanayo ayilandelwa kubo bonke, ngakho lolu hlobo lwezimpawu aluhlali lwenzeka ngendlela efanayo.
akekho obonakala ebaqonda
Olunye ushintsho oluphawuleka kakhulu yilolu, futhi luxhumene nalokhu okungenhla esixoxile ngakho. Ngoba kubonakala sengathi bamelene nezwe noma yizwe elimelene nabo, lapho kungekho muntu obaqondayo, noma kanjalo bona futhi bakholwe. Badlula enkathini enzima, befuna ubunjalo babo okufanele babaphoqe, ukuze kuthi lapho besengozini, kuvele lowo muzwa wokuthi babodwa kule ndlela. Kufanele ubenze baqonde ukuthi lokhu akunjalo, kodwa njalo ngokubekezela okukhulu.
Umlingiswa onolaka
Impela akekho obalekela leso sikhathi lapho ulaka lukhona kakhulu. Lokhu futhi kuyingxenye yalezo zinguquko kuleso sigaba kanye ne-vbanikezwe ngoba bengakwazi ukulawula imizwa yabo. Ziningi izinguquko ngakho-ke abazi ukuthi bangasondelana kanjani nazo noma babhekane nazo. Bazocasuka kakhulu futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu, akufanele futhi sithole ukuzivikela, kodwa kunalokho babone ukuthi sisohlangothini lwabo, sibasekela ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi lapho umlingisi eba nolaka ngempela njengendlela yokuphila, kuyoba isikhathi sokucela usizo lochwepheshe.
Izinguquko ezinkulu ekuzethembeni
Ngolunye lwalezo zinguquko ezenzeka esigabeni esifana nalesi. Kodwa futhi ukuthi kungaba yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho esingakucabanga. Ngoba nakuba benendaba kakhulu nalokho abanye abakucabangayo, nabo umbono wakho ungalimaza. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi eminyakeni yokuqala kungase kube nokuzulazula ngandlela-thile, ngoba ngeke kuhlale kulinganiselwe, kude nakho. Kuphinde kube yinto okumele sisize ngayo futhi kakhulu ukuze ukuzethemba uhlale kumazinga amahle. Ngakho-ke ukugwema ukwesaba ukwehluleka noma ukuhlekwa, okuhlale kubalulekile kulesi sigaba.
Ukuze ubhekane nakho konke lokhu, kufanele umise uchungechunge lwemikhawulo kodwa kungabi nzima kakhulu. Zama ukukhulumisana okuhle futhi njalo ubonise isithakazelo empilweni yakhe kanye nemibono yakhe.