Ukuba ngumzali kusho izinhlobo ezahlukene zezenzo abazali abazenzayo lapho befundisa izingane zabo. Kunezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokukhulisa izingane kuya ngendlela abazali abafundisa ngayo. Uhlobo lobuzali olusetshenzisiwe luyisihluthulelo lapho ingane okukhulunywa ngayo ithola uchungechunge lwe- amanani lokho kuthonya ngokufanele ukukhula kwabo.
Ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali kuzokwenziwa ezicini ezimbili ezibalulekile: izinga lothando olubhekiswe ezinganeni nohlobo lwenkambiso ebekwe ngabazali. Ngokulandelayo sizokhuluma nawe ngendlela eningiliziwe mayelana nezinhlobo zobuzali ezikhona nezimpawu zalowo nalowo kubo.
Ukukhulisa ngentando yeningi
Lolu hlobo lobuzali luzobonakala ngeqiniso lokuthi ukuboniswa kothando ezinganeni kuyabonakala impela nemithetho nemikhawulo ibekwe ngokuphelele. Abazali abafaka lolu hlobo lwemfundo bazoba nalezi zici ezilandelayo:
- Babheka i- ukuxhumana okuhle nezingane.
- Ukuboniswa kothando nothando maqondana nezingane kuyaqhubeka.
- Yize befuna ukuthi izinkambiso ezisunguliwe zilandelwe, vumela ukuxoxisana okufanayo okufanayo.
- Bamelene nezijeziso futhi bathanda isiyalo esihle.
- Bavuna i- ukuzimela nokuzimela kwengane.
Ukuba ngumzali wentando yeningi kwenza izingane zijabule, zizinzile ngokomzwelo, zithobele esikoleni, futhi thuthukisa amakhono akho okuxhumana nomphakathi ngaphandle kwenkinga.
Ukuba ngumzali onegunya
Kulolu hlobo lobuzali, ubaba ulawula kakhulu izingane futhi akhombise uthando oluncane ngabo. Izici zalolu hlobo lomzali yilezi ezilandelayo:
- Azikho neze izimpawu zothando ezinganeni.
- Aziguquguquki ngokugcwaliseka kwezinkambiso ezisunguliwe.
- Abahambisani nokubonisana ngezinto futhi ziphikisana nezingxoxo nezingane.
- Basebenzisa isijeziso njengendlela yokufundisa izingane zabo.
- Kulolu hlobo lobuzali, izingane zivukela izinkambiso ezibekiwe, ebonakala ngokuziphatha okunolaka ngenkathi uthukuthele.
Ukukhulisa abazali ngokuvumela
Efundisweni yokuba ngumzali eyekelelayo isuselwa othandweni nasothandweni futhi ayikho neze imithetho endlini. Izici zalaba bazali zimi kanje:
- Bayinikeza ukubaluleka okukhulu ukuxhumana nezingane zabo.
- Bafaka indawo yabazali esikhundleni sabangane futhi ayikho imithetho noma imikhawulo yengane.
- Bajwayele ukubekezelela noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuziphatha noma kungeyona efanele.
- Izingane zinenkululeko ephelele lapho zifuna izixazululo ezinkingeni ezahlukahlukene ezingavela. Azikho izinhlawulo kulolu hlobo lwemfundo.
- Kulolu hlobo lobuzali, izingane ziyahlubuka futhi zilalele kancane. Ulaka lungezinye zezici zezingane ezikhuliswe ngaphansi kobuzali obuvumelekile.
Ukukhulisa budedengu
Lolu hlobo lobuzali lubi kunazo zonke ngoba azikho neze izimpawu zothando futhi akukho mithetho esungwayo. Abazali abanganaki banezici ezilandelayo:
- Abakhombisi noma yiluphi uhlobo lwemizwa phambi kwezingane zabo futhi amanani abonakala ngokungabikho kwawo.
- Bakhombisa ukungabi nandaba nokuziphatha kwezingane zabo.
- Bazama ukuhlangabezana nezidingo ezahlukene zezingane ngezipho.
- Abazinikezi isikhathi sokuba nezingane zabo, unikeze ukubaluleka kwezinye izici zempilo yakho njengomsebenzi.
Izingane ezikhuliswe kulolu hlobo lobuzali zinenkinga enkulu yokuzethemba nokuphepha. Abazinzile ngokomzwelo futhi bakhungatheka kalula. Benza kabi ezingeni lesikole futhi indlela abaziphatha ngayo ayifanele neze.
Ekugcineni, ukuba ngumzali ofanele kubalulekile uma kukhulunywa ngokuthola imfundo engcono kakhulu yezingane zakho. Inhloso yokuthola ukulinganisela phakathi kwesici esithintekayo nokulawulwa kwezinkambiso ezisunguliwe emndenini.